Topic : 08/14 Hitting Rock Bottom

Does anybody know what is going on with this couple? 

You're right. As long as Kevin has an excuse for everything and ownership of nothing, no one, including Dr Phil, can help him. Dr Phil has often asked how many pychologists it takes to change a lightbulb. It only take one. But, the lightbulb must want to be changed.

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BIOTTOM Doctor Hitting Phi. Rock. ASre you kidding me? What are you talking about? IV  donoyrt underst--

and ythat. See you on Thursday August 14th, 2008. Sincerley your. Russell Vlaanderen.--------------------------  

 My heart goes out to the family who is dealing with a gambling addition.   People out there are much more "sympathetic" towards other types of addiction (drugs, alcohol).  However, a gambling addiction is much more difficult to understand, yet is so much more insidious, in many ways, than other types of addictions.    The first step is to admit to having a problem, as with any other type of addiction. 

I don't think Kevin has hit rock bottom yet. When he does I hope that he gets the help he needs. He should be spinding time with his wife and son instead of going out and drinking.

Why are you sending out emails to people like Dr. Phil and Oprah?  Isn't there any place in your town that offers help like a free clinic?  You must have done something really bad for your Mom to give up on you.  Instead of trying to go to a Pastor or a free clinic you seem to want help only from people who will air your troubles on the air in front of millions.  Not a good thing to do.  It sounds like reading between the lines that it is you who have given up on those around you and it's just poor little me I just learned another lesson.  Why are you still living at home?  You don't tell how old you are.  My advice  from one disabled person to another, FAMILY is all we have and you should cherish it!  It is never too late.  Please stop looking for everybody else to fix your problem and try to help yourself.  Dr. Phil, Montel and the like will rip you to shreds if you got on their show.  Re-read your letter, it says "Look everybody pity me" in the end it's just me, me, me...  There is no easy fix, but there is agency's out there who can help you.  I will keep you in my prayers. And remember a local church might be the best place to go for help.  Sit down and talk to someone there they are good with people in need.

Or maybe Dr. Phil knows something about both cases that the rest of us didn't see?  He does his homework.

When my husband died suddenly at 58 - I found out he was a compulsive gambler!  I knew he bought lottery tickets, but I had no idea, he had maxed out 10 credit cards!  (He had a Post Office box for his credit card bills) I had to pay for his debts - $30,000!  I think his guilty conscience contributed to his untimely death, as he knew eventually, I would find out about his addiction!  I was very angry when I found out about his gambling, as we could have done things together with that money!  He chose to throw it away, and had nothing to show for it!  I have become very anti-gambling, as I know first hand how it can take over your life, and you wouldn't even notice it!  I feel sorry for wives of gamblers, as it becomes their husband's mistress!