Topic : 04/04 Ask Dr. Phil about Parenting

At ages 8 and 9, if they're plotting something like that, there is something seriously wrong. I mean, of course, there's something wrong with anybody of any age plotting that but at 8 and 9 years old, they are way too young to understand that kind of thing. Obviously something is seriously, seriously wrong, and they need some extreme counseling but I think to give them a glimpse into their future if they continue down that road still helps. If they're mature enough to plot something like that, they're mature enough to see what's going to happen if they were to carry it  through. It may not always help, I just think it's worth a shot. Also, when my children were younger, I showed them a taped recording of Montel Williams doing a show on boot camp. I used to pick up the phone and tell them I was calling if they didn't straighten up! It worked great. The child that I was dealing with also watched videos on boot camp and heard me on the phone talking to people from boot camp. He was brought to tears at the thought. Of course, he's 14, not 8 or 9 but I figure it's worth a try.

They said it was a girl who was the ring leader,  and something about one of her grades,  sad to think that any child of nine can come up with something like that,

and she can return to school next year, even after she threaten another student that day with a knife.

I don't presume that any child that is not spanked is going to be a druggy or a killer, way back when, I'm pretty sure my original message was that parents who DON'T DISCIPLINE their kids raise children such as these

Quote From: peterspumpkin

 I agree, you don't know if it worked. But spanking is a time honored form of discipline. Back when the main method for discipline was spanking, how many school shooting were there? How many kids were killing kids just for the hell of it? How many teen pregnancies were there? Do your research. Even the bible (btw I do not believe in God, but for those of you who do) says spare the rod, spoil the child, does it not

Actually this is exactly what you "presumed" and what you implied as you can well see from YOUR above statement..

I am here to share it with other good parents. They may learn a thing or two from my trials and tribulations since my children are older than there's are

All parents, even those that abuse their children, believe they are "good parents".  You know your message that to hit children is a good thing because you "think" you raised emotionally healthy children, and they are not even old enough for you to determine that yet, is read by many as this is a public forum.  I shudder to think of the parents that will end up abusing their kids because they read your words.

If you don't like it, find somebody else's post to reply to because

It has nothing to do with liking it or disliking it.  This is a public debate and discussion board and we are free to answer, agree with or challenge any post we wish.

I have no interest in somebody who is going to attack me and call me a child abuser simply because I swatted my kids a few times

Well I saw your posts where you are "attacking" parents that use constructive methods of discipline instead of smacking their kids.  Again, if you don't want to be judged.....then don't judge.