Topic : 04/04 Ask Dr. Phil about Parenting

I don't know if anybody saw the news today but there is something so disturbing on it I sat and cried.

Evidently a 16 year old girl called authorities about a religious compound she was living in Texas.  A woman was interviewed about what went on in the compound and it was horrendous.  One of the means of "discipline" the men used on their own children was called "baby breaking".  Evidently...what this involved was spanking a BABY until he/she cried and then running water from a water faucet on their face so they couldn't breathe.  This was done over and over until the baby was too exhausted to cry and the purpose of this was to "break the baby".  I am sick about this. 

My point is that you simply cannot determine from these posts what kind of a mother a person is.  A mother will come on this board and admit to and condone smacking their kids.....and then go on about how great a mom she is....when in reality she may have no maternal instinct what so ever.

that a mother knows no greater love then what she feels for her children. and no one and no book can teach you that feeling, 

....and my point is that not all mothers feel this great love just because they give birth.

well I feel sorry for those mothers that can't experience that love. and i feel sorry for those out there that had bad parents, I am a good mother, was raised by a great mother, who was raised by a great mother. I dout I am of just a few,

and no you can't just judge by the post , but when someone says something that strikes as totally wrong, well I have a right to say what I think on it, as you do,

I believe that you judge by what you know, and what you experienced in life, and if you had a bad life you judge by it without seeing the other side, a spanking to you has a different meaning to you, then it does to me, I was spanked 3 time in my life, and I can't say it effected me, it was no worse then tearing a band aid off, but I wasn't beat or verally abused, so I judge by that, so when a poster says that what they do then, I infer what they say by  what happento me,

There is nothing or no one that could hold a candle to my children. The reason I was shocked that sugar posted that is that sugar has decided that I'm a horrible abusive mother with little demons for children based on nothing more than how sugar interpreted my posts. My children are my entire world. I have devoted my life to loving them and keeping them safe. I was headed way down the wrong path when I became pregnant the first time and my love for them absolutely turned my life around. They are the thread that holds me together. I believe any good parent feels this way.

Quote From: peterspumpkin

 I agree, you don't know if it worked. But spanking is a time honored form of discipline. Back when the main method for discipline was spanking, how many school shooting were there? How many kids were killing kids just for the hell of it? How many teen pregnancies were there? Do your research. Even the bible (btw I do not believe in God, but for those of you who do) says spare the rod, spoil the child, does it not 

sorry it took so long to get back, had to get outside, start getting my yard ready for summer,

and I understand  what you where saying too, when said poster, can't judge a person on what they post, and I got the hit at the end of it too, they can get like a pack of dogs, one starts to attack they all jump in. I didn't think that I would have to explain my post about what a mother feels about their child,

it was clear, and the other kind of mother wouldn't understand it and wouldn't care to understand it,