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Created on : Friday, April 04, 2008, 02:11:21 pm
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(Original Air Date: 04/09/08) “Fat slob!” “Lardo!” “Lazy butt!” Obese people are often the target of ridicule, but can you imagine hearing this type of verbal abuse from your own spouse? Dr. Phil takes on fat abusers, people who intentionally belittle their husband or wife simply for being overweight. Roger says he was very clear when he told his wife, Linda, before they were married that he couldn’t stand fat people. Now 20 years later, Roger says Linda has gained 40 pounds and is about to lose him. He says sex with her is like “rolling around in a bowl of Jell-O” and is considering divorce if she doesn’t shed the pounds. Should Linda take his behavior as a wake-up call and end the marriage? Then, Alisa and Leon have been married for 28 years, but now that he tips the scales at 305 pounds, she calls him “Fat Butt.” She filed for divorce because she says she can’t stand looking at his stinky, flabby body. Their daughter, Amy, also puts Leon down and says he's the reason that she’s full-figured. Don't miss Dr. Phil's surprise for Leon! And, viewers were left speechless by Rick, who called his wife, Karen, a fat whore, fat pig and even the C-word. Has he changed his abusive ways? Join the discussion.

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April 10, 2008, 11:48 am PDT

Oh my gosh

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People don't get fat on AIR.  If you are fat, it is because something edible is going in your mouth and into your stomach.  Anorexic people don't eat.  Did you ever meet one who as fat?  You cannot say that you are not eating anything fattening, or eating small amounts, and you are still fat.  That doesn't mesh.  Your body doesn't "hoard it" if you are not eating it.  And to be fat, you gotta eat LOTS of it. 
Are you are doctor? There are so many reasons the body can store fat. Medication, Thyroid, Tumors on the putitary gland, something as simple as regular swimming to name a few. I think you should help yourself to a science book before you start spouting off like you know it all.
 
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April 10, 2008, 11:59 am PDT

04/09 Fat Abusers

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Are you are doctor? There are so many reasons the body can store fat. Medication, Thyroid, Tumors on the putitary gland, something as simple as regular swimming to name a few. I think you should help yourself to a science book before you start spouting off like you know it all.
Yay brooke!
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:00 pm PDT

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Why? Why do people do this? Humiliate, punish, reject, deliberately hurt, wound, those whom they are supposed to love the most? Whatever happened to basic decent kindness and respect? What happened to encouragement, support, love? Instead we seem to thrive on destroying others, to make ourselves feel better... :(
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:18 pm PDT

bullying

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Whenever my kids say or do anything bad about or to another person, I always ask them, so what is making you feel so bad that you're trying to make somebody else feel worse? The only reason you have to make somebody else feel bad is to make you feel better about yourself so what do you think is wrong with you? I've never had a REAL problem with my kids doing this, of course sibling rivalry is generally what I'm talking about because they only seem to do it to each other. Also, when another child is bullying them, which is more often than not the case, I try to make them understand that this child that is doing this is probably tormented emotionally in other ways and this is the only way they can find to make it better. As a result, I have very compassionate children, except those few times when sibling rivalry kicks in!
It is good that you are educating your kids about bullying while they are young.  I was much much older before I realized that buliies try to make someone else feel bad in order to bring them down to their level or to try to mask their insecurities. Sounds like you are raising  nice compassionate kids and you should be proud!!!
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:19 pm PDT

to brooke

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Are you are doctor? There are so many reasons the body can store fat. Medication, Thyroid, Tumors on the putitary gland, something as simple as regular swimming to name a few. I think you should help yourself to a science book before you start spouting off like you know it all.
You answered her better than I could have!!!  Good job, brooke!!!
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:21 pm PDT

ouch!!

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I cut the hell out of my finger and it's really hurting to type and it won't stop bleeding, so I'm gonna get off here for a bit. Have fun debating without me :( I'll be back later, if I get it to stop.
Ouch!  Hope it gets better real quick!!! Hope to see you back on here continuing the debates!!
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:25 pm PDT

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I think that in terms of obesity there are medical classifications.  Doctors will state the person is obese, grossly obese or morbidly obese.  That is probably what Penny was referring to.  She seems to have a healthy sense of her appearance and I don't think she believes she is "gross."
Hi fromthesquare!  I guess only Penny herself can confirm what she meant by "gross'.  I wanted to give her a boost if she was feeling bad about herself.  We've debated on the boards for a long time, agreeing sometimes and fiercely debating at others, and I think she is really cool, and quite intelligent!!!
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:35 pm PDT

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Why? Why do people do this? Humiliate, punish, reject, deliberately hurt, wound, those whom they are supposed to love the most? Whatever happened to basic decent kindness and respect? What happened to encouragement, support, love? Instead we seem to thrive on destroying others, to make ourselves feel better... :(
That's what I've been trying to understand. It's bad enough to try to humiliate or hurt ANYONE, much less someone you are supposed to love!
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:39 pm PDT

04/09 Fat Abusers

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Yay brooke!
Thank you, and I hope your finger feels better.
 
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April 10, 2008, 12:39 pm PDT

He is Lying

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I couldn't have been more surprised - and pleased - to see the changes Rick made. Wow. It was so disheartening to see, in the first episode, that the verbal abuse ran a lot deeper than the "fat abuse" that was advertised, and that the young daughter was being verbally abused as well. The husband actually "got" the wakeup call that he got on the show, and changed. Now the wife is much happier, and the children will thrive now that the couple truly cares about each other. Putting the marriage back together is the best possible solution for the whole family. I applaud first Dr. Phil for giving this problem the sunshine it needed, then the husband for making the deep changes in his behavior. I really didn't expect such a pleasant update.

I disagree Rick and that first guy are both narcissistic, pathological abusers.Rick wasn’t upset that he hurt his wife, he was upset that he got labeled so poorly by Dr. Phil and that all of America thought he was a jerk.  The tears and repenting was all an act. His wife wasn’t sure how long it would last and he is still controlling her in other ways and still calling her names like stupid. She knows it’s an act because it’s not the first time she seen him do that. He kept saying how bad he felt that people thought he was a jerk. His apology was staged, he will go right back to his old ways as soon as the spotlight is off of him. The first guy was exactly the same neither one of them had any empathy for their spouse it was all about them. People like them never get any better, they usually get worse and they are very good at pretending, especially when there is an audience. I was most disappointed that Dr. Phil seemed to buy it and didn’t even question the continuation of the name calling or the fact that he still doesn’t let her have any control over the money. In both of those instances the issue of weight wasn’t really the issue, had they both been skinny their husbands would have found something else to brow beat them with. Both of those men are nothing short of evil.

 
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