Topic : 08/05 Fat Abusers

You seem so wrapped up in this story that you can't see that there is an update... while there are no doubt issues that this couple will still need to attend to through on-going therapy to maintain and expand on their successes thus far... I hardly think that it is helpful to Karen to have her choices and focus questioned by the likes of you.  It would seem to me that they are working (notice the suffix indicating that it is an on-going process) very hard on the relationship.  Karen probably doesn't require any further abuse on these boards by having someone tear apart her decision, rake up the past (we all can review the last show they were on as well as the message boards from then) and presume to know if Rick is capable of change.  This also assumes that Karen is not capable of change, that she can't require more of her hubby and learn that she is worthy. Their councellor seems to think that they are doing well and are learning new behaviors together, maybe we could take her opinion of the situation rather than that of strangers with computer access.

My deepest hope and prayer is that Karen, Rick and the children have a happy, healthy, supportive future.

Keep up the Good work,

I watched the show today and found it very sad.  I am very overweight.  Thirty years ago I was thin, healthy and full of energy.  I do not expect to ever be that thin or have that much energy again, but I would like to be healthier.  Since my divorce in 2007, I have found myself alone.  I feel I do not have any hope of ever finding a lasting friendship, much less a relationship ship, because of my weight.  I am my own worse enemy. My question now becomes, what do you do when the fat abuser is yourself? I make jokes about my fat, I say things about being fat that I believe other people are probably thinking. I hate mirrors!  I am my own fat abuser!

My EX-fiance once saw the commercial where the girl pulls out oversized pants and says, 'I lost this much weight!'  He said 'That's where you need to go.'  I said you get a penis extension and I'll think about it!

Shut him up!

I was speechless at the abuse Alisa and her daughter Amy heaped on Leon! To be so disrespectful and downright cruel to another human being is disgusting....and both of these women look like slobs themselves!  It always amazes me how someone can beat someone else up for looking the exact way they themselves do! Like Dr. Phil asked: "Don't you have a mirror?"

Yes, maybe Leon should lose some weight...for health issues...and if he doesn't take a shower every day and has body order...well, ick! No matter how much you weigh, a person needs to bathe every day....but, his wife and daughter, two people who are supposed to love him, have no right to abuse him as they do.

I'll tell you what: if my spouse treated me like that, there wouldn't be any discussion. His butt would hit the door flying with my size 7 planted firmly right up there!

Thirty years ago I looked pretty good too...but time will take its toll on us.

What I've learned is to make small changes...and these small changes have led to big changes. I walk more; I eat less, and I make better food choices. I divert myself with hobbies and reaching out to others. I have not...and will not..go on any crash diet because diets do NOT work. You may lose a few pounds in the short term, but what is long-term effective is life-style  changes....one step at a time.

I'm sure your divorce has resulted in some depression...and that can lead to comforting with food until it becomes a mindless habit. But you can change that pattern...and, if you truly want to, you will.

What is destructive to change is beating yourself up. It's worse than someone else doing that to you because you can't ever get away from yourself.  Love yourself enough to take those first steps and you will be amazed at what can happen....a few prayers can't hurt either.

Dr. Phil's book "The Ultimate Weight Solution" really is a great place to start! You can probably find it on ebay at a reasonable price.

Get moving....today, and right now....and good luck!

Anyone says that "names will never hurt" is ignorant and obviously has not had to suffer verbal abuse.

Name calling DOES hurt....permanantly. The scars never go away....and the damage done by name calling (especially by those who are supposed to love you, and especially when you are a child) has a trickle-down effect.