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Created on : Friday, April 04, 2008, 02:11:21 pm
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(Original Air Date: 04/09/08) “Fat slob!” “Lardo!” “Lazy butt!” Obese people are often the target of ridicule, but can you imagine hearing this type of verbal abuse from your own spouse? Dr. Phil takes on fat abusers, people who intentionally belittle their husband or wife simply for being overweight. Roger says he was very clear when he told his wife, Linda, before they were married that he couldn’t stand fat people. Now 20 years later, Roger says Linda has gained 40 pounds and is about to lose him. He says sex with her is like “rolling around in a bowl of Jell-O” and is considering divorce if she doesn’t shed the pounds. Should Linda take his behavior as a wake-up call and end the marriage? Then, Alisa and Leon have been married for 28 years, but now that he tips the scales at 305 pounds, she calls him “Fat Butt.” She filed for divorce because she says she can’t stand looking at his stinky, flabby body. Their daughter, Amy, also puts Leon down and says he's the reason that she’s full-figured. Don't miss Dr. Phil's surprise for Leon! And, viewers were left speechless by Rick, who called his wife, Karen, a fat whore, fat pig and even the C-word. Has he changed his abusive ways? Join the discussion.

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August 6, 2008, 5:13 am PDT

I can't believe he changed

WOW. I never thought that would happen according to the first show.  It was a nice surprise that he changed~ Thank God :)
 
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August 6, 2008, 6:47 am PDT

Cndrlla, how right you are !!!!!

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I hear ya! I lost both my parents to cancer when they were in their early 60's, and I, too, miss them terribly.

 

I've said it a million times: tomorrow is promised to no one! The last words you say to anyone you care about should be "I love you"....not, "you're too fat", or some such other nastiness.

 

And, yes, I did notice the rude daughter.....her enthusiasm was underwhelming!

"I've said it a million times: tomorrow is promised to no one! The last words you say to anyone you care about should be "I love you"....not, "you're too fat", or some such other nastiness."


If only more people on this planet would understand the meaning and the importance of these simple words, we would all be in a better place !!!!!!

Your statement is worth a million words !!!!!

By reading many of your posts over the past few months, I can say that I find you to be an intelligent woman with a lot of wisdom, even-though I do not always agree with you (but most of the time I do).

Take care.

Lady Tinou.
 
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August 6, 2008, 7:12 am PDT

Hi Jewels and Juliebgg

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I've always had a sense of humor as I love to laugh, and I am drawn to people that are the same, but my husband is incredibly funny and very quick witted! He can sling a bow into you before you could ever see it coming. That is really one of the things that I love most about him. He is not cruel in any way shape or form with his humor but is a laugh a minute. We are really good with each other and we always seem to be the ones that entertain the room wherever we are. I will tell you something in an e-mail that is somewhat personal that his doctor was still laughing at the following month. The weird part of it? My husband is actually a very shy man, what can I say? Yes, yes, yes, I am soooo glad that you are back, I've missed you so much! And the message boards are just not the same without your own brand of humor and intelligent input. Welcome back my dear!

Jewels

 

P.S. I too can't stand others who are so judgmental, but for it to be a spouse who is supposed to love you? That is as shameful as it can get. BTW, on the board for the Trans-gendered father? There is so much sympathy for the father and so much anger towards the daughters that it is making me sick. I have to admit, I am becoming judgmental towards trans-genders because they seem to be so incredibly self centered and selfish with a complete lack of empathy for those who get hurt along the way. I probably won't go back there because it makes me upset.

You both have a "Great" sense of humor !!!!

Julie, you are soooo right when you say that someone who leaves his/her partner because of a weight gain is EXTREMELY shallow !!

Jewels, you are sooo right also when you say that people are so judgmental !! It is almost is scary at times. I guess that they did not hear about this saying..... live and let live !!!!!!!!!

I do think that very often people that are so judgmental is because they have a lot of self-esteem problems themselves. They have a "tunnel vision" and are "narrow-minded".

People that are open minded and that are happy within themselves are more incline to have compassion and to have and open mind about life and other people.

Take care both of you!!

L.T.

PS: Welcome back Julie,
 
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August 6, 2008, 7:12 am PDT

Overweight husband

I listen when you said to back out. I am trying to do this but his weight is affecting his health. I was wandering what should I do.
 
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August 6, 2008, 7:49 am PDT

Way to go Juliebgg !!

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According to some of your posts on  other boards you admit to being anorexic.  So when you pass all your high-handed judgements on overweight people and tell them that if you could lose weight, so can they, are you advocating for them to be anorexic like you???  And as far as telling heavy people that they are "gross to look at", what makes you think anorexic is pretty?  You have a high and mighty attitude but there seems to be no substance to back up your inflated opinion of yourself.  Quit being so mean spirited towards others and maybe try to be kinder and more helpful.  Maybe you'd improve yourself a little too.
Very good reply and what a choice of words !!!!!
I could not of said it better.

Do you think that she will get the message ???????

I just hope that she learns to respect other people... what is important is WHO you are, not HOW you look !!

PS: I will respond to your e-mail later.

Take care.

Lady Tinou.
 
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August 6, 2008, 10:47 am PDT

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I have battled with weight all my life. It seems like I have been on a rollercoaster my entire life. My father would always call me thunder thighs or make fun of my kankles when he himself was over 300 pounds. I had a boyfriend once tell me that I was too fat in high school, so I decided I would work it off. By junior year I was 146lbs at 5'8'. I looked damn good, but it still wasn't enough. When I went off to college I didn't keep up on my routine and now at 23 I weigh 213. The absolute highest I have ever weighed. I want to get this weight off for good and make a lifestyle change. So I have started gradually and hopefully all the encouragement I need is within myself. What these men and woman do not understand is that negative reinforcement is not helping the situation. People will only loose weight when they want to and can see a personal goal out of it.
 
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August 6, 2008, 3:12 pm PDT

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Americans are getting fatter and fatter, so we better learn to like it or do something about it!  When I was a kid, I thought my mother's cousin was the most beautiful woman in the world, but that was before I learned that fat people were not supposed to be considered beautiful.  She was a very large woman.  I didn't care!  My ex used to call me fat ass.  His parents couldn't stand fat people.  When his father saw a fat woman, he would tell his wife, 'Don't ever get like that, Mary, I'll have to divorce you.'  The weird part about that was he was built like Buddha!!!  Had a huge stomach!!!  My mother-in-law once told me I reminded her of her sister, Lois.  'Big fat stomach and big fat thighs.'  Nice, huh?  I couldn't believe she said that - I sure didn't consider myself fat at that time.  At this time, I am fat, due to an accident two years ago that caused me to have difficulty walking and getting in an out of a chair.  Now that I have only a little hip pain, I can go out and walk and do exercises.  However, I want to be slim because I would feel better and for health reasons - not because the rest of the world thinks I should be.   I still think my mother's cousin was the most beautiful woman in the world - and probably the nicest too.  Kathleen, Voorhees, NJ
 
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August 6, 2008, 5:25 pm PDT

to Kathleen

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Americans are getting fatter and fatter, so we better learn to like it or do something about it!  When I was a kid, I thought my mother's cousin was the most beautiful woman in the world, but that was before I learned that fat people were not supposed to be considered beautiful.  She was a very large woman.  I didn't care!  My ex used to call me fat ass.  His parents couldn't stand fat people.  When his father saw a fat woman, he would tell his wife, 'Don't ever get like that, Mary, I'll have to divorce you.'  The weird part about that was he was built like Buddha!!!  Had a huge stomach!!!  My mother-in-law once told me I reminded her of her sister, Lois.  'Big fat stomach and big fat thighs.'  Nice, huh?  I couldn't believe she said that - I sure didn't consider myself fat at that time.  At this time, I am fat, due to an accident two years ago that caused me to have difficulty walking and getting in an out of a chair.  Now that I have only a little hip pain, I can go out and walk and do exercises.  However, I want to be slim because I would feel better and for health reasons - not because the rest of the world thinks I should be.   I still think my mother's cousin was the most beautiful woman in the world - and probably the nicest too.  Kathleen, Voorhees, NJ
Kathleen, you are very lucky that your former in-laws and ex are now in your past. You are well rid of that insulting bunch of pompous idiots.  You seem to be a woman with good values. I'll bet your mother's cousin was a beautiful person inside and out just as you say!!! Good luck with your exercise program.  I've been walking and swimming and seeing a big difference!!
 
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August 6, 2008, 8:26 pm PDT

08/05 Fat Abusers

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Omg...and for the ppl who are Whining about my post...MEN are just the same...there is no need for them to be fat either!!! its about will power and not being lazy...get off your butts and do something!!!...Unless you have a disorder or MEDICAL problem that you can't lose the weight...then loose it...its not attractive AT ALL!!! And there is NO NEED for it...
Who are you to talk about people and their weight? YOU ARE ANOREXIC.
 
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August 6, 2008, 8:27 pm PDT

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Read some of this person's posts on other boards.  She says she is anoreixic.  yet she comes on here so self-righteous and judgemental of others.
Thank you for pointing this out...
 
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