As I sit hear watching Dr Phil with the wife who constantly calls her husband horrible names because of his weight. Well, let me tell you that I can so relate to this. Altho I did not call my husband the horrible names this woman says, I certainly felt like it. Instead of unkind words, I would ignore him, distance myself from him, or try in other ways to encourage him to lose weight. I would even feel embarrassed to be seen with him. Today, I am a widow at the age of 54. My husband died of a heart attack due to his many health issues that I know he tried to work on, but he had so many issues, he nor I knew where to turn. I know his self esteem was non-existant. I know I didn't help with that. Today, I cry each and every day and would take back everything! Everything I ever felt or implied or mildly said. I never called him the names that this woman does. If I could stand in front of her and tell her what I am going through.....alone to make decisions about everything. I had to move out of our home because we had just sold it and we were to settle on our new home 1000 miles away 3 weeks after he died. I gave up that home we had a contract on. I lived in a hotel room for several months alone with our cat and dog. Our only son was away at school suffering as well. Without a father, no matter how much they enjoyed each other or argued with each other. The 1st month was a blur. After things started settling in, I realized how much he did for me! He was my best friend, my lover, my consultant, my everything! I have been trying my best to keep up a good front so I don't lose my job. But down deep, I feel so alone. Yes, I have friends who constantly stay in touch, but it's nothing compared to not having him touch me with his chubby fingers or just talking about what happened during the day. I miss having him lying beside me in bed each night. That touch on my behind or his snoring. At least, I knew where he was. I would die for him today if only I had him again! It was him who made me the person I am today because people tell me how strong I am to have dealt with the many other things I have had to deal with in my life. Then for this to happen just when we sold our home of 20 years so we could buy our retirement home in FL. I didn't realize that he was the wind beneath my wings.
If this woman or any other person who complains about their spouses weight, I would suggest they think about what their life would be like without them. Not just out of their home, but gone completely. Never to speak with them ever again. Well, that's me! I wouldn't wish this on anyone. As I write this, I am stressing over getting my taxes done. While dealing with this, I am also my mothers care-giver. She is 1000 miles away in a nursing home. I haven't filed my tax returns for 2006 and am struggling to gather everything so that I can do my 2007 taxes. I never had to worry about this before, because my husband just did it. He did so many things I took for granted! He had the stress on him and I didn't realize it! I am sure this was another reason why he retained the weight.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE.....think about what your life would be like if your spouse was no longer around to ever speak with again. It's a lonely one! If this woman leaves her husband because of his weight, I wish her luck in finding someone new. She's gonna need it! Don't be part of the problem. Be part of the solution! I wish I had.
(Original Air Date: 04/09/08) “Fat slob!” “Lardo!” “Lazy butt!” Obese people are often the target of ridicule, but can you imagine hearing this type of verbal abuse from your own spouse? Dr. Phil takes on fat abusers, people who intentionally belittle their husband or wife simply for being overweight. Roger says he was very clear when he told his wife, Linda, before they were married that he couldn’t stand fat people. Now 20 years later, Roger says Linda has gained 40 pounds and is about to lose him. He says sex with her is like “rolling around in a bowl of Jell-O” and is considering divorce if she doesn’t shed the pounds. Should Linda take his behavior as a wake-up call and end the marriage? Then, Alisa and Leon have been married for 28 years, but now that he tips the scales at 305 pounds, she calls him “Fat Butt.” She filed for divorce because she says she can’t stand looking at his stinky, flabby body. Their daughter, Amy, also puts Leon down and says he's the reason that she’s full-figured. Don't miss Dr. Phil's surprise for Leon! And, viewers were left speechless by Rick, who called his wife, Karen, a fat whore, fat pig and even the C-word. Has he changed his abusive ways? Join the discussion.
