Topic : 08/05 Fat Abusers

When people meet and fall in love, the relationship is based at least in part on appearances.  People who find heavy people attractive marry heavy people.  People who aren't attracted to heavy people marry fit people.  When a person becomes overweight (in cases where a medical condition is not the cause), they are categorically betraying the person who fell in love with them when they were fit.

It is incomprehendible to me that Dr. Phil defends overeaters and treats them as victims!  It is counter-productive to let people who have made a CHOICE to let their bodies get so out of control be treated like poor, unappreciated victims.  When did using willpower cease to become a reasonable expectation of one's partner?

People who get fat after marriage are betraying their spouses.  How can Dr. Phil possibly not understand that to find yourself married to a fat person- when that's not what you chose, is an awful trap to be caught in?  When did being fat, slovenly, and unhealthy become acceptable?!

Appearance does matter in love.  It always has, and it always will.

Fat abusers is a term that people use to put down people who are excessively obese.  I know it is wrong to criticize people for being overweight.  Many people who are overweight have other health problems,  concerns, problems and issues that cause them to eat. 

I wish that people would stop and not judge people who are overweight.  They need a friend or someone to talk and listen to their concerns.  I stated that they have other problems that they can't deal with on their own.  They seek counseling.  They also need a strong person to listen to their concerns.  In time, when they have control over their life, meaning that they can cope with the negative issues that contribute to their eating habits, then they will do something about their weight. 

I have a good friend who is overweight and she is aware of the fact that she is overweight.  She also has a lot of other issues and hurt inside her.  She knows that she can call me and talk whenever she is feeling down.  She continues to see a therapist.  In time she will take control of her life and become a positive person that has a lot of self respect and esteem, she will then take care of herself.  Every day, little by little she is coping with her own demons and fears.  She has a lot of health problems and the medication that she is on, makes her gain weight. 

I give her more respect, knowing that she is doing the best that she can to try take better care of her self.  Like most people, she has her bad days and slips through the cracks and over eats.  She eats to get away from the pain that she is feeling inside of her and she eats to get away from the pressues that she is coping with today in her environment.  For now she has moved to a better environment and she would  not be subjected to negative things that were harming her, emotionally, ,mentally, spirtually and physically.

My final thought, people who are overweight have a reason to be  overweight and for whatever reason it may be, they need a lot of positive support from their friends, spouses, and family.  STOP the Criiticizing and listen to them. 

When people meet and fall in love, the relationship is based at least in part on appearances.  People who find heavy people attractive marry heavy people.  People who aren't attracted to heavy people marry fit people.  When a person becomes overweight (in cases where a medical condition is not the cause), they are categorically betraying the person who fell in love with them when they were fit.

It is incomprehendible to me that Dr. Phil defends overeaters and treats them as victims!  It is counter-productive to let people who have made a CHOICE to let their bodies get so out of control be treated like poor, unappreciated victims.  When did using willpower cease to become a reasonable expectation of one's partner?

People who get fat after marriage are betraying their spouses.  How can Dr. Phil possibly not understand that to find yourself married to a fat person- when that's not what you chose, is an awful trap to be caught in?  When did being fat, slovenly, and unhealthy become acceptable?!

Appearance does matter in love.  It always has, and it always will.

When people meet and fall in love, the relationship is based at least in part on appearances. People who find heavy people attractivemarry heavy people. People who aren'tattracted to heavy people marry fit people. When a person becomes overweight (in cases where a medical condition is not the cause), theyare categoricallybetraying the person who fell in love with them when they were fit.

It is incomprehendible to me that Dr. Phil defends overeaters and treats them as victims! It is counter-productive to let people who have made a CHOICE to let their bodies get so out of control be treated like poor, unappreciated victims. When did using willpower cease to become a reasonable expectation of one's partner?

People who get fat after marriage are betraying their spouses. How can Dr. Phil possibly not understand that to find yourself married to a fat person- when that's not what you chose, is an awful trap to be caught in? When did being fat, slovenly, and unhealthy become acceptable?!

Appearance does matter in love. It always has, and it always will.