Topic : 08/05 Fat Abusers

So what's your solution then? Fat people simply shouldn't eat? You need to eat food to live, that's different than an addiction. You don't need the drugs. Some people are genetically created to hold more fat than others, that's just the way things are. Even if they eat healthy, they still will hold fat.

Even if you put them on a diet, they will remain fat. Or their body will go into starvation mode, and think it needs to store more fat than before. That is why diets don't work.

Or maybe they're not attracted to "healthy" people, aka people who are thin. Because they were allowed to be bullied by them in school, and be talked down to by them because they weren't "healthy"..I mean thin, like them.

Why would you want to associate with people who have proven to be cruel in the past?

 and as a gross obese person, I thank you.

I think you're being a bit hard on yourself.  I know that you're dealing with a lot of hurt from your past, but I don't think obese people are gross or worthless, but there's a reason they are the way they are.  Self talk is SO hard to control, I still struggle with mine on a daily basis.  Through talking to you, I can tell that youre an intelligent, pragmatic, interesting poster, and I can tell you love your family.  You have all those wonderful attributes that are worth more than just your weight. 

:)

I'm sorry but I think you're confused.  Unless you know what that girls habits are and what she is eating you can't just say "this is genetic for her" I'm not saying it isn't genetic or even partly genetic. I understand the idea behind what you're saying but the fact is that for many people over weight they are taking in a lot of calories.  Now why they're doing it is another kettle of fish & I don't thik one needs to become "anorexic" to become healthy.   That daughter being over weight is not healthy period. While I don't disagree that it could be a genetic thing that makes her body hold onto calories more than say the next person and I understand that the "calories-in calories-out" isn't the entire answer but to say that suggesting she lose weight is making her adhear to a thin anorexic life is ridiculas.  Is there no medium for you? 

For me sitting here I know that the meds I'm on for High Blood pressure are the root to my weight gainof 30 lbs.  To throw my hands up and say "well it's because of these meds and there's nothing I can do about it" instead of me working like a dog at the gym and watching everything that goes into my mouth could mean a year from now I'd be 130 lbs heavier.  It's true it isn't just a matter of me "over eating" that's created it and no matter how hard I work I'm not going to loose a significant anount of weight while I continue on these meds but until there's a better way to keep me from having a stroke without them I'm kind of stuck right?  HOWEVER if I continue to gain weight & I don't go to the gym & I don't watch every morsel that goes in my mouth pill or no pill my BP is going to continue to rise and the heavier I get the worse my health and I can say that from *experience*.    Now let me make clear that prior to by meds for bp I was not an "over weight" person but considered a "hot curvasious" petite in high and with the "vanity 5 to 10 lbs" that creeps on after child birth and with age.   I was always active etc. and when the weight gain started I wasn't doing anything different in eating or exercise.  As the weight gain started I actually started exercising MORE & was walking 2 miles a day and still gaining!  There's a web site that lets one keep a exercise and carolic intake journal and I used it religiously and that was how I was able to make my Dr. see I was not "just sitting around"

We have no idea of knowing what's happening with that young woman that's the reasoning behind her weight and you can't simply say "it's genetic" that's ridiculas.   And there's no way she can say for her father "he was just lazy"  this was coming from a kid who had nothing of a view but her mother who was verbally abusive of him.   We have no way of knowing what their issues are or why there is their weight gain.