Dear Juliebgg,
It's great to have you on the boards again! It's so much more fun when you are here! What changes do you mean, the computer or the Dr. Phil web sight? If so, they have cleared up already. It must have been a fluke of some sort. And yes, I felt so stupid after I realized what the date was from that post. I went back and searched for it only to realize that it was old. Oh yes, a new and juicy subject for us to sink our teeth into.
I will be waiting for the show so I can make more comments but I do remember this particular show from the first time that it was on. What stood out in my mind was the husbands comment about having sex with her was like having sex with a bowl of jello. That just sickened me! I realize that their are a lot of men out there who do really leave their wives, or at least want to, because the wife is no longer perfect, but they certainly can't be called a man. Take my husband for instance. Here I am, disabled, and it puts a huge amount of pressure on him in many ways. There are times that he has to wait on me hand and foot due to the pain, sometimes after working all day (min. 12 hours) he has to cook dinner, clean the house, go grocery shopping, and even feed the cat and clean out the litter box, just to name a few. Plus, he has had to put off retirement because of me. Has he run out the back door? NO! And he never will. I think that's a hell of a lot harder than dealing with a measly 40 pound weight gain!
As I said, when men are able to be pregnant and then give birth, then they will have the right to complain about gaining weight to their wives. But until then, they should keep their stupid cake holes shut. Are some men really that stupid to think that their wives will never gain any weight, especially after 20 years? Are they really that ignorant about what can cause weight gain in a woman? There are sooooo many causes and making her feel even worse about herself in their so called attempts to inspire her to shed the pounds only make them gain more. Can they really not see that it doesn't work?
I too would or could never pass judgments on someone for their looks or anything else unless they have asked for it. You know what? I really never even notice what other people look like unless I have an actual reason to look at them. To me? They are people just like you and I. And when it comes to weight, you never know what someones situation may be. What if they have a thyroid problem? Is it right to laugh or pass judgment on them? My grandmother was extremely skinny just like my mother until she had to have a hysterectomy when she was in her late 20's. She gained a lot of weight after that and kept it on for the rest of her life. My mom was so skinny throughout her entire life, of course now she is in fashion, but when she was a teenager and younger she was horribly made fun of. She weighed 97 pounds at 5'7" until she hit her mid 30's. She had a 22 inch waist! She feels better about herself now, she does look great, but she had a complex that is still with her to this day. Every time she drops a little weight she freaks out.
I too was very skinny and very tall when I was younger. When I was in middle school I hung with the popular group but was considered the ugly, tall, skinny one. I was 100 pds and 5'9" tall. Oh, and I was busty! That exactly what I needed at that point! Luckily in my teens, about 15, I came into my own and gained another 15 pds. Then I was the most popular girl in school. How shallow is that? I got my revenge by refusing to date any boy from my own school who had ever made fun of me. They never had a chance even after we were all grown and they tried so hard to get my attention. Vengeance is sweet! I wonder if that had anything to do with my preference for older and much more grown up men?
Anyway, You're Back! I'm a happy girl!
Jewels
(Original Air Date: 04/09/08) “Fat slob!” “Lardo!” “Lazy butt!” Obese people are often the target of ridicule, but can you imagine hearing this type of verbal abuse from your own spouse? Dr. Phil takes on fat abusers, people who intentionally belittle their husband or wife simply for being overweight. Roger says he was very clear when he told his wife, Linda, before they were married that he couldn’t stand fat people. Now 20 years later, Roger says Linda has gained 40 pounds and is about to lose him. He says sex with her is like “rolling around in a bowl of Jell-O” and is considering divorce if she doesn’t shed the pounds. Should Linda take his behavior as a wake-up call and end the marriage? Then, Alisa and Leon have been married for 28 years, but now that he tips the scales at 305 pounds, she calls him “Fat Butt.” She filed for divorce because she says she can’t stand looking at his stinky, flabby body. Their daughter, Amy, also puts Leon down and says he's the reason that she’s full-figured. Don't miss Dr. Phil's surprise for Leon! And, viewers were left speechless by Rick, who called his wife, Karen, a fat whore, fat pig and even the C-word. Has he changed his abusive ways? Join the discussion.
