Topic : 04/10 Marriage Dilemmas

Well...just to give you a little update...

I left Robert three months later and as of last month we are now, finally, divorced!!!  He is still unemployed ...he managed to find a new girl to sponge from while he "Writes his book"

For me, I am in a fantastic relationship with someone who is kind and loving...and guess what?  He has a job!  I was so unhappy in that relationship and getting out was the best thing I could have ever done. 

Take care and best wished to all of you in your relationships!

Natalie

                          Randal why would you do this to your WIFE?

SHAM SHAM SHAM!!!!!

             How could you do this to your kids?

And what about AIDS???????????????

I would be so upset to think that my hubby was sleeping with a norther dam man.

And think about him putting his hands on me or even kissing me and thinking he had

some one other than me on his dam lips!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How sick and I would kick him out.

I am sorry it is a sin and and god will get you for this. 

                I have a brother that is gay and it still makes  me ANGRY!!

POOR KIDS!

                                    I would be upset ! it was bad when my real dad

was all ways sleeping with other women and he went to bed with a man.

I could never forgive him for that.

my mom did divorce him.

I hope that the kids will be OK but it really is not OK.

And Dr Phil and what are you thinking of?

THE KIDS ARE BEING HURT NOT THE PARENTS!

Thank you for your input...since you are Shawne, the wife of this man, you should know what you are talking about. I understood you to say you did know he was gay...but, you say you didn't so I can't argue with that.

Men CAN learn to (and be good at) sewing, cooking, etc. without being gay!  My son is a great example of that. Because I worked so much and raised my kids alone, he HAD to learn to iron and do laundry if he wanted clean clothes, go grocery shopping, help with household chores, and cook, and so did his two sisters! (he didn't do any sewing, but only because it wasn't necessary.)

 I let him know that she who possesses the "inside plumbing" is not automatically locked into domestic chores any more than he who owns the "outside plumbing" is entitled to be coddled and waited on!! 

 I taught him to do these things so he could be independent. A man does not have to be gay to do things like this. More mothers ought to teach their sons not to be lazy oafs around the house and expect to be exempt from helping out significantly!  I didn't want him to get married just to have some woman take care of him!

He and his wife have been happily married for 26 years and she loves it that he's a help rather than a burden around the house. He owns his own successful business and is very busy with that, his wife works 40 hours a week, too...so they both help each other with everything.

I'm sorry your husband deceived you about his sexual orientation....that stinks! And I know you wouldn't trade your children for anything....but, if you would have known ahead of time the truth about him, I don't think you would have chosen to have children with him. He owed you the opportunity to have made that choice. That's all I'm saying.

Also, if you read my post, you surely saw that I said the exact same thing as you: "God made these people the way they are, and God doesn't make mistakes!!"

I wish you both well.

Hi I'm new to this site, but needed some advice. There are a lot of changes going on in my life and it's hard for me to keep things straight. My 3yo son was diagnosed with leukemia in Jan 08, he's doing pretty well. Lots of time away from home. I have a 26yo boyfriend (father of my son) and 2 daughters from my 1st marriage (ages 12 & 9).  I recently resigned from my job to care for my son. That was a very hard change for me since i loved my job and have always been the sole bread winner in our home. So i am sharing the reigns with my bf. Anyway, my main concern is trust. My bf hasn't had the best history holding down a job, however he's been doing very well over the last year. I recently found out that he had been calling a girl that he use to "talk" to online and over the phone. I am a jealous gf so we had agreed prior that we wouldn't talk to associate ourselves with the opposite sex unless they were mutual friends. When i confronted him regarding the phone calls and texts he said i wasn't his mother and that he can pick his own friends. Not quite the response i was looking to get. I am really trying to make this relationship work, but i can't trust him right now. I even asked him for his email passwords, explaining why i wanted them. It took me 2 weeks to get enough "balls" to ask him because i was so afraid he would blow up on me. Which he did! He said he was leaving me and done ? I don't know what to do! Is it me doing something wrong or are there under lying issues here?

Help!!