Topic : 04/11 Women Beware!

Am I the only woman in the world who has ever used a guy just for a physical relationship??  It's tiring to constantly hear that women have all of these emotions and are seemingly unable to just let themselves go without getting attached.  It's an annoying stereotype that women who have sex with a man are automatically the ones that are in love and chasing him.  It's a pathetic connotation.  I felt when I watched the show that it was all about warning women because we aren't capable of doing anything like this to a man. 

 

I'm in a loving relationship now, but I know I def. had a period in my life where I just wanted to use these guys for sex without getting emotional in any way.  I didn't want money either.  It was just me being a sexual person and wanting to express it without getting all emotional. I actually had physical relationships that lasted a couple of years that were amazing!!  It was almost a reversed situation because a couple of the guys were the ones that actually developed the emotions and then I would just end our intimate meetings when it got to that point. 

 

I feel like I can't be the only person to have done this in the world and I just wish that more women would throw their feelings to the wind and let loose sometimes.  Don't let these damn men hold all of the cards all of the time!  We have the same if not more power and I feel like any guy that needs to take a class to learn how to talk to women is pathetic. 

What could be easier than being yourself?  It must take alot more effort to try to be something that you are not rather than to just be the person that you are.  Back in my dating days I could never stand the guys who put on some phony act or who would show off to try to be impressive.  Oh they were impressive all right but not in the way they wanted to be!!   I would much rather be with someone who just acted naturally.  And I know that that is why my first date with my eventual husband was the best first date I ever went on.  There was a naturalness about him and no airs and I felt very very comfortable with him.  There were no games, but lots of interesting conversation and a few goood laughs as well.  I knew I wanted to continue the relationship, and within several months I knew that this was the person I wanted to marry. Thirty plus years later, this natural, no-game-playing guy and I are still together and happily married.

 

I've got to say, I watched about ten minutes of this show and that was more than enough time to waste on those idiots on there.  Why should anyone need a rules book or advice on how to manipulate someone?  Just BE YOURSELF!  If you aren't, it is going to show up pretty quickly. 

I can barely contain myself when it comes to today's topic!  The reality show, "The Pick up Artist" hosted and based on Mystery's methods, shows dialogue and examples of deception and how to get laid, etc. Mystery even says "he was back in the woman's hotel room" in no time. I know men who have "graduated" in this method and they DO NOT care about the woman's response to these stories in the bars and they are taught "canned" stories or questions...It shoes this on the reality show last year!  The guys who participated even to this day continue to brag about how much they have had sex and how they have tricked women on their MY SPACE pages, take a look. They do insult women and I used to be a believer in helping men be confident, but this absolutely does not do this, it teaches them to be predators...The best way to meet a women is to actually listen to them and be interested in them for the right reasons, that way the connection will be authentic!  The older gentleman that wrote "Speed Seduction", is at least being honest. I mean the other guys from Mystery's group are not being truthful. The evidence of this is public record on last year's reality show!  As a single woman, I am steamed!!! It's hard enough for women to maintain confidence when they are compared to magazines, models, and actresses, which are not reminiscent of an average woman.

The people who teach these things discourage what you're describing. Just because abusive people use a tactic (and to be abusive, they're really not using the tactic correctly), doesn't mean that using a tactic leads you down the road of becoming abusive. It's a total nonsense to suggest that.

People who think women only like money, and other beliefs like this -- beliefs that are ridiculed by seduction & dating coaches, -- those are the guys who will eventually become abusive once they get a girl. And those people with those beliefs are the ones who have really been mind-screwed.

Since when does "attractive" mean "barbie doll"?

I always thought attractive meant that you possessed attributes that others liked...and were attracted to.  When I talk about someone being attractive, sure, physical appearance is usually part of it, but there's plenty more to it than that.

I'm sure plenty of guys would agree a pretty girl who is rude and obnoxious is not exactly "attractive."

 I am single and I am aware that when I go out there is always some guy who has some plan to pick up women.

Women also do this we are just better at it, it is like closing a sale at work, introduction, discovery, details, overcoming objections, attempted close, use answers from discovery to give you the upper hand, and close the deal. 

You could also say it is like interviewing for a job, you put together a good resume, you show up in a nice suit, you tell the hiring manager how great you are, you never share skeletons in your closet,  you show up on time.

It the same as dating or picking up guys, women always have the choice if they are interested in a man and want to take them home as long as they are single a man doesn't stand a chance.

 So why not let men waste their money and pay someone to teach them how to pick up ladies!

Come on! The men on the show are disgusting! Ok not so much Dr. Phill except for the fact that he tried to compare a female's fashion sense to some sort of fishing expedition! Women have been trained for years

on how to look and do not feel they can go out with out one of many things- cute shoes, make up, bra (unless they have fakes) or a fancy hand bag . No one single entity has trained the female being to look a certain way! Maybe the fashion Magazines should have been on the show. As far as the classes haha blah

totally sick- what happens after all the moves are done? Dead silence? Sex? It is not about finding the 'ONE' just hooking up and MOST women don't want to 'just hook up'.

General self improvement is always a good idea...but learning superficial manipulations is not. That will lead you in the wrong direction.

This is about friday's show on men controlling the behavior of women.   I have dated this man for only a couple weeks and he started talking about marriage and you know i'm poor, does that matter.  well his whole conversation has been un-natural.  I've have felt that he is leading me into his web.  He has been very nice about it.  But it scares me on how obsorbed he is with me .

What is the name of this head game that was mentioned on the show.  He had mentioned that his brother was into hipnosis.  I just wonder.....

Sex is the point of any romantic relationship. And most women do "just want to hook-up", at least during some part of their lives. And most of the guys who learn seduction do want to eventually marry a good woman.