Topic : 04/14 The Dr. Phil House: House of Greed

I know that Dr. Phil said the daughter and mother deserved each other - but let's remember something, the mother taught the daughter how to treat her, right Dr. Phil?  This mother reminds me of my own mother, though Sonya is not quite as bad as mine. If I were the daughter I would write her off and stop even trying to have a relationship with her -- have her buy me out of the land -- and walk away.  The woman is not worth it.

 

Sonya is mean spirited, hateful and does not deserve the love of her daughter.  I am sorry for the daughter - she has been mistreated by this woman her entire life, it is as obvious to me as the nose on Sonya's face.  It is totally understandable that the daughter wants her share of the money because that is the only way her mother has ever shown her any love, but for her own sanity and that of her children, she needs to walk away; shake the dirt off of her mother off her feet and never look back.

 

Debra Witchell

 Sounds like the mother has a few issues of trust! She's done nothing more than pit the 2 sisters against one another and started a battle  with the rest of the family!   Like Dr phil said to her,"  she will  die a lonely and bitter old woman" if she continues  this!

I heard there were eight acres in the deal.  If, in fact, Lisa has invested in and is paying for half the mortgage, then it would follow that four acres are Lisa's.  Don't know if the fence is along the four/four acre boundary, but Lisa did say the fence cut her off from the driveway leading to her place.  I so believe there is more to this story than has been portrayed so far.  Maybe the next show will clarify some things.

My mother and I never got along, but we were always very close,  and one day she gleefully told me that I was cut out of the will and that my brother took her to his lawyer to do it.  It was a group family effort.  I have always been the scapegoat of the family and when I detached in therapy that was my punishment.  I am the only one in my family who went to therapy and they labeled me the "sick and crazy one" because of it.  They kept saying they had to wait and see how I would act before they would consider putting me back in.  My mother died in Sept. and my father is 92.  He said he is still waiting to see how I will act even though I have been nothing but kind and helpful to him despite knowing he cut me out of his will.  This is much more than the money.  It is about being told you are not a member of a family that you are cut out until you play by the rules and allow them to abuse use verbally and emotionally. I was unwilling to do that.   When parents tell you about their will it is either to hurt you or manipulate you into doing what they want.  It is clear to me that is what the mother is doing on House of Greed.  My heart goes out to the older daughter.  She has her pride as I do, and it's hard to admit to people that are rejecting and abandoning you that it really hurts because you know that is what they want...to hurt you and watch you suffer.  I saw the gleefulness in the mother while she felt the power of using her money to hammer her daughter.  That is what my mother did.  My whole family did it to me. I have a cousin who's mean spirited father left her everything to punish the son and she just gave him half of everything after the father died.  Siblings need to see what their parent is trying to do and make it right.  I hope the daughters completely cut off from the mother because she can just as easily get mad at the younger one and cut her out too.  The two daughters should join forces and be there for each other. I feel like God takes care of good people, and we have paid off our house and car and are in good financial condition.  We help others alot, and I think you reap what you sow.  Thank God we don't need any money from my parents, but I can tell you that my brother and sister are going to suffer without me in their life, because I am a damn good person and have always been loving and supportive.  They just can't let go of my scapegoat role to their detriment.

I believe the mother is a witch, but........the daughter has it wrong when she says she "earned" part of her mother's money.  The ONLY thing the mother owes her daughter is to raise her to be a responsible adult.  She does NOT owe her daughter any money when she dies.  If the mother wants to give her daughter something, that would be nice; however, the mother does not "owe it" to her daughter.

 

Having said that, the mother is definitely playing favorites and throwing it up in the older daughter's face.  That is dead wrong!

I think this is absolutely SHAMEFUL!  How can a family resort to these arguments about who's getting the money.  What makes the daughter think she is entitled to begin with?  Parents do not owe their children!!!! EVER!  Sure, I'm a parent and I really want to leave my children secure and financially set, but I do not feel I owe them that.  I want to give it to them upon my death.  In fact, I tell them now that I am giving it to them bit by bit, as I would rather see them enjoy it, than to have them begrudingly accept the money at, what I hope will be a sad time for them.  I don't want them hanging around waiting for us to die, and shame on the daugher for doing it. 

The mother and the daugher certainly deserve each other, and it's quite clear that the mother raised the daugher!  Shame on them all!

My father has a head injury, and due to it, it is highly unlikely he will leave any of his estate to his children, he will more than likely leave it to the person he thinks did something nice to him.  As, he feels his children now nag at him, and pushes us aside, yet will chat and give his left arm to a stranger, as they don't tell him what to do.  I know it's the injury, and it's sad, as he worked all his life, never spent a dime, as he wanted to put it away for his kids, and now we'll see none of it, and he won't enjoy any of it either.  He had a woman he met 2 weeks prior, move into his house, and then took everyone of his children and family off all his accounts.  Who knows what will happen, but I would never question him or expect anything from him, as it's his, always has been, and I just feel bad that he couldn't enjoy it himself.

These people need to smarten up and move on!  I don't think anything will sink in with them, they're both too self centered!  Tell them to GROW up!  My kids act more mature than they do!

There is something very wrong with that mother. She has worked very hard to pit the two girls against each other. Perhaps the first daughter reminds her too much of her father, the ex. I don't know but it was obvious she had no insight to anything she might have done to encourage this rift and no intention of trying to see it and correct it. She was also very cold and uncaring to her granddaughter. I think she is a sociopath, incapable of seeing anyone's pain or concerns except her own. Those girls would both do well to get the heck away from her. She is like a poison.

 

Dear Dr Phil

  I can not believe a mother would do anything to hurt her own child(children). After all, she carried that child for nine months and then gave birth,life, to that child. What is she thinking? Does she really think that she is making brownie points with God? I sat in my chair Monday watching the pain in this girl's face. I could see that in her mind,she was asking herself "what have I done so wrong (to my own Mother) that she would do something SO hateful to me? My God woman,Wake Up and smell the coffee! It isn't rally about the money,land, or anything tangible,that belongs to you that she cares about! It's really aboput how you have shoved her aside. Yes, you do have another daughter by the man you are married to now. But the daughter that you gave birth to first,is just as important, and need just as much love ,as the second daughter! You DO NOT shune one because you have another!!  I felt real pain for this family.

  I have six children, and nine grandbabies. Four daughters and two sons, seven grandsons and one granddaughter,( so far)  I love everyone of them unconditionally!!!! No matter what they have said or done to me,I still love them with All of my hear and soul.. If I would every lose one,a piece of my heart and soul would be gone with them. I could not imagine EVER leaving anyone of them out of my will. My Husband and I are not wealthy, as far as money is concerned. But we are the riches people in the world,because we have six beautiful children, and nine wonderful Grandbabies!! We have sat and talked to all of our children about what we would like to happen when we pass on. None of them like talking about it, but we tell them it is important that we do. How our personal belongings, be it a picture or the house that My husband and I live in,is divided betweeen all of them. Not so that one gets something better or more valuable, but thet all have a piece of us with them always and that they can pass it on to thier children and on down the family as years go by!  I believe it is a healthy thing that you teach your family that death is a part of life and can not be skipped over. We have also taught our children that it is important that they stick together as a family no matter what may come. The old saying," stick and stones may break bones, but words will never hurt you", is SSOOO true!!! We taught our children  that material things come and go, but that the love of a sibling or a parent is the most precious thing in the world. And that the relationship you have together is THE ONLY Thing you can take with you when you pass on,and what stays with your loved ones when you are gone.

  I hope this family can get their life in order before it is to late! Each and every one of them are going to be so sorry if they don't forgive and forget before one of them leaves this earth. 

  Another message to the mother is this also. You may cut the oldest daughter out of your will,but when you are dead and gone, you have no more control over who gets what. The youngest may just be the loving sister she saids she wants to be and divides EVERYTHING 50/50.

   God did not give a mother ( or a Father) the miricle, the life of a child,to step on and make miserable!!

  I know in my heart that I may have not be the picture perfict mother 24/7/365, but I do know that EVERY one of my children think that I am just 10 bags of chips and then some,LOL. And they have friends that have told all of them that they wished they could have parents like they have.

So to the Mother, step up to the plate,and as Dr Phil saids, be the hero! Be the Mother to Both daughters that you hear every one talks about and saids "WOW, wish I could be like that!"

                                                            Mom & Nana of some GREAT Kids!!!

                                                    

 

 

 

 

You are exactly right !!!! 

If you listen closely...  I believe what Lisa was saying was she wanted to be loved the same as the other daughter... unconditional love like a mother is suppose to have.