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Created on : Friday, April 11, 2008, 08:23:11 am
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How far would you go to get attention? Mark holds the unofficial streaking record of 444 streaks. He has snuck onto the field during the Super Bowl, the courts at Wimbledon and the ice at the 2006 Winter Olympics ... all in his birthday suit! He's speaks with Dr. Phil via satellite, because he's not allowed in the United States due to the charges against him. Next, Laura's daughters say they're mortified when they're in public with their mom because she dances, sings and speaks loudly. She says they need to lighten up and have more fun! Is Laura really having a good time or is something deeper driving this behavior? Then, meet a woman who thought she had the perfect marriage, until her husband posted nude pictures of her on a Web site where men "share" their wives. She says she's humiliated and doesn't know if she can ever trust her him again. What does Dr. Phil say she must do? And, hear from Bob, a reformed exhibitionist and voyeur, who wants to teach you what to watch for so you don't become a victim. Join the discussion.

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April 26, 2008, 1:16 pm CDT

04/18 Exhibitionists

Quote From: ec2kids

Okay if she was looking for the limelight... don't you think she would have shown her face???  You remind me of my mother a lot.  You stick by men in your life even if they are absolutely in the wrong.  My mom stays with my father who is a sexual pedophile while my 14 yr old sister lives in the house.  You are sticking by your brother for the same dumb reason my mom sticks by my dad... which I couldn't tell you.  Even if your sister in law took those pics of herself, it doesn't give ANYONE the right to post them on the internet for other people to oogle at.  I think you may be too young to be commenting on this subject because you obviously don't get the fact that he did wrong.  We all know that there are two sides to every story and I'm sure your sister in law wasn't perfect in the marriage, but it still doesn't give him the right to be sneaking around posting naked photos of her.  I'm not judging him or her, I don't do that because I do know that when I was a show, we don't get to see the whole story.  The point is that it's wrong, the website is wrong, and people need to be aware of this.  You should take a step back for a minute and try to understand what everyone is trying to say to you instead of jumping to the defense of this behavior.  It's the behavior everyone is shocked by; we really don't care about your brother or his wife.

I agree that it's the behavior that is shocking, and not the two people invovled.  As I wrote earlier about my own situation, I take responsibility for allowing my ex husband to take the pictures in our bedroom.  He had no right, however, to share the pictures with the world. And to make matters worse, I have tried to get the pictures removed without success. The police wouldn't help; the website won't bother; and my ex has hired three separate lawfirms who have done a fine job of running up our legal bills and dragging this on. In the meantime, the courts have treated this humorously, on the record, by making jokes about it in my presence, betting money on whether I'll cry during cross-examination, etc. It's still a man's world, and I have been treated like an object. By the way, his family supports him as well, even though they have told me they know he did this.  Because they have "supported" his bad behavior, through three wives (and he's now doing this to an unsuspecting girlfriend...and they know that too) he continues to get away with it because they are all afraid to confront him.  Perhaps if his bad behavior (there are lots of other issues) had been addressed when he was younger, he might have been different, I might not  have been used, and his family might not be afraid of him.

But frankly, don't turn to police, courts, or anyone else to help you. Just keep your top on, even if it's your husband.

 
April 26, 2008, 7:26 pm CDT

Laura Mom of Amythist & Jennifer

Dear Mom,

Im shocked and never been so disappointed with Dr Phil's abrasive critisicm I wish I had the guts to get out and have good fun like you do. Dont LOSE Yourself!!!! My husband and I agreed that we wish there were more people like you in the world. Think of all the real WEIRDOS that are not having innocent fun. We think you must be such a joy to be around. We saw your daughters were having fun watching you enjoy yourself. We wondered what Jennifer said to you before break cause it looked like she was concerned that Dr Phil was breaking your spirit. The problem is Your daughters are worried how people perceive you Wait until they are not around and cut loose. FYI Your pictures are beautiful and you have 2 wonderful daughters I can see they have a sweet spirit. I think this was the wrong show for you to be on  & I wish Dr Phil could have shown you respect I wonder what Robin thought of it all.   What you did in WA near the capital for the Lord was so beautiful and touching

Our hearts go out to you from TN

Mike & Christy

 

 
April 28, 2008, 9:40 pm CDT

Need to find out

Quote From: bunny08

I can really identify with Tammy.  When my boyfriends behavior started changing toward me I immediately started thinking that he was no longer in love and was directing his attention toward someone else.  I was on his computer one day and found this website for posting nude photos of women.  I wrote the websites down and waited until I got home to investigate.  Not only did I find that a picture of me was on this website, he had subscribed to 11 other websites for finding sex partners.  He had been active on all of them within the last 24 hours.  He had previously admitted to me he had watched a little porn from time to time.  To make sure there was no doubt in my mind, I created a profile on one of the websites and hit him up on there.  I soon found out that he was indeed looking for sex partners on the side.  He even said it could lead to a LTR relationship.  I think he was just keeping me around until he had someone else and he could keep treating me like he had been.  When I had enough proof, I presented it to him.  Of course I was the sneaky one and it was all my fault.  He went on to say he wasnt married, he could do whatever he wanted with whom he wanted.  I grew some balls and walked away from his ass and I have never been happier.  I am going to stay unattached for a while and enjoy life and my granchildren and see where it goes from there.  Tammy needs to get self respect and not live with this liar.  I dont think my boyfriend would have ever changed....most of them dont.
Can you please tell me what the names of the websites are that you looked at?  I know this has happened to me and I want to find out.  Please give me any information you can. 
 
May 1, 2008, 4:13 pm CDT

04/18 Exhibitionists

Quote From: dchristman98

 yes! he took some of the pics yet she took some of herself and sent them to her lover in another state and also sent some to my brother while he was at work !so you tell me who's to blame !we're all not what people see us to be. and my sister-in-law's best job is lieing so that she can be in the lime light!!!! my brother is a hell of a man to put up with her s*** now and in thepast 'NO ONE ELSE WOULD PUT UP WITH IT!!!
Um, a person can send naked pics of themselves to anyone they want as long as they aren't a minor. That is up to THAT PERSON.

It's not hard to understand.

Your brother does sound like a "hell of a guy"...as in, what hell to live with.
 
May 9, 2008, 3:52 pm CDT

LAURA the "Exhibitionist"

Quote From: connerchristy

Dear Mom,

Im shocked and never been so disappointed with Dr Phil's abrasive critisicm I wish I had the guts to get out and have good fun like you do. Dont LOSE Yourself!!!! My husband and I agreed that we wish there were more people like you in the world. Think of all the real WEIRDOS that are not having innocent fun. We think you must be such a joy to be around. We saw your daughters were having fun watching you enjoy yourself. We wondered what Jennifer said to you before break cause it looked like she was concerned that Dr Phil was breaking your spirit. The problem is Your daughters are worried how people perceive you Wait until they are not around and cut loose. FYI Your pictures are beautiful and you have 2 wonderful daughters I can see they have a sweet spirit. I think this was the wrong show for you to be on  & I wish Dr Phil could have shown you respect I wonder what Robin thought of it all.   What you did in WA near the capital for the Lord was so beautiful and touching

Our hearts go out to you from TN

Mike & Christy

 

I agree with you on the most part.  I spent most of my life worried about what everyone else thought, so it was quite exhilerating to get to a place in my life ( mid-30's) where I don't care what other people think.  Now I am what I call 40-ish, fat and faded and I have never been happier.  When I stopped trying to fit others' expectation I started loving me and guess what happened....even more people loved me just as I am!

 

As for Laura, I would hope that she would take that spirit and joy of life and share it where it would be more appreciated.  Why not volunteer to entertain or just spend time with people in Senoir Centers or Veterans Groups, maybe join (or start) a theater group or volunteer her cheering skills for Boys & Girls Clubs or after school programs.  Maybe even women's groups to help other find that joy. I have a friend who is a bit like Laura and I am happy to say it rubbed off on me.

 

So Laura, if you can read this  YOU GO GIRL!   Perhaps tone it down a bit when you are with your daughters so they want to spend more quality time with you, but find an outlet where you can shine and share that sparkle! 

 
June 25, 2008, 8:42 pm CDT

Centre of Attention - Laura - Physiological Explination?

I was diagnosed with Bipolar Type-2 in 2006, and before being stabilised on medication was suffering Hypomanic to Depressive episode crashes, hour to hour, even sometimes minutes to minutes (known as rapid cycling), which was very detrimental to my work-life, home-life and social-life. I was 19 years old.

I am now 21, and am feeling pretty much the best I have since the on-set of my illness.

 

Seeing this episode, broadcast in Australia June 26th 2008, and wittnessing the activity of Laura (the mother from the story dubbed 'Centre of Attention'), I can identify some similar traits between herself and my un-medicated self, though I found hers to be at a much larger scale, with Manic tendancies (possibly an indication that if diagnosed with Bipolar she may be catagorised as Type-1?)

 

I would hope that if such a suspicion had occurred, that she would be given the chance to get some help, and an evaluation to see what was really going on.

The combination of her expressions and activities strongly suggest the issue is not : 'too much confidence'.

There must be a physiological explination here.

 

-Rebecca, Australia, 21YO

 
September 10, 2008, 7:14 pm CDT

Thanks for a positive message

Quote From: nikkaj

I hope this is read,

 

The show(April 18,2008)

The lady that performs everywhere and her two daughters get embarrassed.

 

I would just like to say, thank god for her and her spirit.  There are so many people who are depressed and mean spirited, you don't want to be around them.  I understand her, because I became over weight after having my children and it depressed me deeply.  Everyday getting ready for work I would cry or be so angery. Once I left the house and get to work, I would bury those feelings and  put my game face on.  I would be nicer, kinder and more open hearted to those that was in pain.  I would be judged for that, most times i could shrugg off the negativity, occasionally someone would go to far to push my buttons. I say all of this to say she is wonderful, just maybe need to channel it differently. If someone could suggest to her, maybe setting up her own entertainment business for the elderly or sick, people who may truly appreciate her bubbly and high spirit. She would brighten someones day!!! also she would get the audience, and that may help to satisfy her need to be accepted as a performer.

 

Gods love,

 

N. J.

Dear N.J.

This is the loud mom and today 9-10-08 is the first day I have read any of the messages on the message board regaurding the show. I appreciate what you wrote and your suggestions and hearing a little bit from you about your life. I was a Single Parent abandoned by my daughter's fathers and have had hard times all my life financially, emotionally and my daughter Amethyst was taken from my daughter Jen and I after I suffered an injury and my ex-husband and or daughter chose not to see us for 6-7 years. It killed Jennifer and myself I was in deep depression for years. Recently about a year before we went on the show my daughter Amethyst told me that she never wanted to see me again and won't say why, but that her dad forced her to go with me. My kids visit their dads but will not visit me at my home and I have put an ultimatum recently to show some effort that she wants to be in my life for her to come visit here and she said no that her and her sister live in another city. I told her than I can't come over there. When I visit I hear my granddaughter say things like I'm not her family, etc. Instead of being a joy to see her it is actually painful because you sense my daughter not wanting to be close and the distance that I also feel as she lied to me for over 6 years and it hurt my other daughter and that is not easily gotten over.

I ask for prayers for me and my daughter Jen was actually upset because we never got to hear from Dr. Phil on why he thinks I am doing what I am doing and how to control it. We were actually on the show the Flasher exposed and they got into it and Dr. Phil never got to get back to me and my daughters to suggest anything. I have tried to control myself in certain situations but it feels like I am not myself. I am unsure of who I am anymore, I used to think people liked me and now feel more alone than ever and unwanted.

 
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