Topic : 04/25 Confronting Grandpa

Dr. Phil is a gem for bringing this to an open forum, this individual is nothing other than a predator as Dr. Phil stated.  My attitude is people do not change.  I keep saying on these message boards that very comment, I do not FALL INTO people saying "they've changed".  It's such a convenient scapegoat to utilize that word "change".  You can modify your behaviour, work on addictions, seek help/therapy for personality disorders, but changing as a whole is hogwash.  Such as the simpl cliche, "A leopard doesn't change its spots."  Al this monster Grandpa will NOT CHANGE, he's so mentally twisted and in denial; yet trying to combat his bull by stating he doesn't remember things, crap!  Of course he remembers, he knows he's lying, he continues to quote the bible yet he misquotes and misconstrues even that, he's pathological.

My heart goes out to Sheri-Lynn and her poor child; this monster is a calculative, manipulative and twisted liar, he's a demon.  The fact alone that he laughed on more than one occasion throughout the taping of this episode indicates clearly this is NO BIG DEAL OR ISSUE to him; that's SICK within itself.  The absolute sickest part though is the wife staying with him after these horrid events, she needs to get her head read and right away; she's as sick as the husband.  Being the mother of a wonderful 20 yr. old daughter who is my life; I breathe because of my child and I feel that Sheri-Lynn's ability on the stage throughout her anguish mind you; to NOT jump on her dad and take him out right there was brave of her.  I don't think I could do that if it were me, I can honestly say I'd probably end up behind some pretty strong bars if anyone every harmed my child, I would go ballistic I would think.  I cerainly hope her son can work his way through these horrible emotional issues with therapy, love and guidance.  Same for Sheri-Lynn; I feel their pain, it hurts.

My ex-husband's father was a pedophile, he molested both his niece and nephew; they were siblings and my ex told me about this before we married.  Here's the sickest part:  When I was 7 mos. pregnant with MY BEAUTIFUL daughter, notice the "MY"...because she's my daughter not his, he was only a sperm donor as far as we're both concerned; he had the audacity and twisted mindframe to tell me, "Oh my I certainly hope I don't end up touching our child such as my father did to my cousins."  Can you guys imagine, here I am pregnant and married to a man who comes out with a statement such as that.  I left the bastard of course due to that and many other things.  So even before having my baby, there was a very clear warning sign...after all what kind of a person would even say that?  He chalked it up to saying it because of heredity, yeah right!  I hope and pray that this EVIL and SICK Grandfather goes directly to jail with no passing go!  Taking away the innocence of a child is the most heinous act anyone could ever partake of, these are not human beings, rather vampires; as they sleep upside down like the bloodsuckers they are.

G-d Speed Sheri-Lynn

One thing that boggles my mind is that Sherie-Lynn would leave Parker alone with the man who she KNOWS molested her as a child.  How it's even possible for a mother to actually witness her husband molesting their infant & do absolutely nothing about it is unconscionable.  And I don't buy it; nobody molests ONCE & then never again. 

Elaine says Sherie-Lynn told her she was raped & again did nothing.  Unbelievable.

Seems to me a henious cycle of abuse has been going on through generations. 

Al's demeanor, his tone of voice, his posture, the smirk on his face for much of the show, was truly disturbing. Bizarre how he clapped along with the audience.  And it annoyed me how in the first minute or so after Sherie-Lynn let go when the first polygraph answer came up that he agreed verbally with what she was saying.  And then after that whole thing he denied it all. 

That's not burying anything.  That's not denial.  That's arrogance. 

I hope & pray that Sherie-Lynn & Parker do get help...I fear Parker will continue to molest otherwise.  And Elaine needs a divorce.

Unfortunately most, if not all, states carry a statue of limitations for molestation crimes.  Depending on how many years have gone by, it's very likely Al can't be prosecuted for the crimes against his daughter.  MAYBE they could get him for molesting his grandson. 

It just is not right that this sorry excuse for a man, a human being, is allowed to live free.

I've spent about 20yrs in therapy dealing with my own molestation by my father and I too allowed my son to go on a trip with his new wife and other grandchild. 

My explanation for why I let it happen now is that I just had not reached a staged in therapy where I was conscious of the danger.

this family is very similar to my own, the dynamics.  Everyone is in denial, the daughter is made to feel guilty, grandpa is excused by his wife.  It's sickening.

Inthat environment it's very hard to say no when the issue is so minimized and swept under the rug.  You try to go on as if it didn't happen and of course the perpetrator does everything to make sure that no one finds out and the victim loses credibility.

Okay, Al is a monster

Look at his history.  Horrible!!!!!!!!!!  And I'm talking about the stuff he admits to doing.

Look at Parker- Grandpa has molded Parker in his image and given him the "gift "of his past.

Get the stones ready folks.    Parker, he is young now, someday he will BE Grandpa- it's just a matter of time.

Should we throw Parker under the bus now before the story makes another circle?  Or should we order a load of stones so we have plenty on hand?

Just wondering?

In IMHO we aren't even close to the answer in this discussion.  It's not so much a person as a pattern- think bigger.

Dr Phil we ask our selves why we try to trust a person who we knew did bad things to us when we were just children, we ask why do we even dare trust our own children with that person knowing what they did to us as children, LOVE, i do think that has a lot to do with it, we try to figure out just why we even love that person after they did what they do, WHAT THE REAL PITY HERE IS, even after we try to give a person every chance to be forgiven for such acts, THEY dare sit and DARE issue a CHALLENGE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO COME AND BRING THE TRUTH?  DOES THIS FOOL NOT KNOW GOD? IT REALLY SEEMS SO. AL YOUR MOST LIKELY THE BIGGEST FOOL I HAVE EVER BARED WITTINESS TOO IN 51YRS of life that i have lived, and I'm sure Dr Phil's staff has there hands full on this topic board after this show airs all over the world, my heart goes out to Dr Phil's mods on this topic board, there life will be busy after this show, and i still cant find any words in my mind but WOW, ill leave it at that i think, i for one am glad i don't have to read what i know the mods are having to endure on this topic, maybe i can find you mods something pretty to look at instead of all those ugly words im very sure your having to look at in a few posts. yall this really is from the heart , it may not seem like much but its the best i can do, no other pics avabile for me to give.  [ AL go get help you need it!! ]

Al's affect during this whole show was, for lack of a better word, creepy.  He smiled at the most inappropriate times and looked like he was enjoying himself immensely.  I truly think he thought he was going to get away with what he had done and was enjoying thinking he had Dr. Phil fooled in front of millions of viewers.  This man has no conscience and is probably psychotic.

The mother was not much better.  The best I could say about her is she has to be one of the stupidest women I have ever seen.  And she will probably stay with good ol' Al.