Topic : 07/01 A Secret Inside: Extreme Hoarding

 ...unless the woman gets intensive, long-term therapy and, likely, one or two medications. Just cleaning the house and fixing the kitchen will accomplish nothing. It will just put off the problem for a short time. It's like trying to bail out the ocean. The place will be full and filthy again as soon as she can manage it.

This woman is seriously ill. She's not just going to decide it's time to clean up her act and to demonstrate responsibility. She's incapable of that kind of reasoning. She may put on an act as if she's "trying" for a brief time, but that will be just part of the manipulation and sickness, allowing her to return to her current behavior. The idea of her trying is meaningless. She can't "try" to miraculously cure her own illness.  It would be like someone trying to cure their own cancer.

Those kids need to be separated from her immediately and until she gets the intensive help she needs -- and it works. Sad to say, it may well be incurable and the kids should stay away until they are adults and can take care of themselves. Dr. Phil should know this and not waste a second on getting her to "try." 

Nancy: Your house is not cluttered -- it's filthy. Clutter is piles of old magaines and too many knick-knacks. Rotten food is garbage and animal waste is disease ridden filth. You have not had it worse than everyone else. None of us are as pretty now as we were at eighteen. Half of us are divorced. Many of us don't have the jobs we would like to have. You say you "have no life" when you have three healthy, beautiful children, good looks, good health, and a 3000 sq ft dream house. Show a little gratitude for these blessings and quit complaining. You are not the "sacrificing" mother you keep saying you are. You have a clean bed for yourself but you have not managed to give your little ones a clear space to sleep. It's a wonder their spines aren't curved. You have not given your children a safe sanitary place to live or clean healthy food. You obviously have found time to get your own hair done and shop for yourself, but where is the time spent on providing a clean safe wholesome place for your children to grow? I feel such pity for the sick "friend" whom you cared for by filling her home with clutter and then expected payment from. I realize that hoarders have a mental issue that needs therapy and understanding, but Nancy your constant self-pity and bragging about how much sacrificing you do for others was just too hard to take. You can only start to change if you quit denying your responsibility in all this.

yeahyou got the anger part right to a T thear aint no haterd in my post tho, as i hate no one that is a sin, you seem to be a bit confussing discust with hate, and hell yeah im discusted with seeing people force children to live the way this woman and her boyfriend are doing those children, and im really sure every one making exscuses and trying to sugar coat what these people are doing is helping those children??? man let me tell you something,my damn dogs live in a better enviorment than those poor children are having to live in, please do not call me a hater, i hate NO one,  

 

 

 

 

damn you got good hearing i didnt hear this post screaming and the cap lock aint hard for me to read it helps me to see that posters words better lol i have seen some posts that took up my computer screen in the past ,now those were hard to read .

well one thing for sure !!! times have changed, it seems we have advanced into a new era and have learned a new word for being a sorry ass house keeper ,and we can now justify making children live and waller in pure filth, THE NEW WORD FOR THE DAY{ HOARDING } damn aint we going places,

i think the woman dr phil asked a question to in the audence was from cps i could be wrong, but as for the cps workers having to visit that home dr phil saved them the trouble, he sent his staff in to film the house, i bet those poor souls would have rather went rattle snake hunting that day,

i really dont think any doctor would go over and help clean her house nether, dr phils idea was better, that man from GOTJUNK.COM however will go get alot of that stuff out for  her, yeah its a good thing dr phil thinks like he does, that mess will get cleaned up now for sure. and the children will get a good nights sleep breathing fresh air. and have a kitchen table to eat on. i wouldnt worry that my property was being devalued if those people lived next door to me, but i would try to get them to clean up the smell a bit, i cant stand breathing foul air when im grilling out, even onions wont kill a smell like that.

Honestly, It's funny how people come up with new words to replace what they really mean. Hording is just another example. Where I come from, this behavior is straight up being a slob and that's being nice!! There is no reason for having kids and animals live in that filth! After tuning in, I felt so filthy that I had to scrub up in the shower! These kids and animals should be taken away! We all have been through some traumas in our lives and we don't resort to this. I know if I were one of her kids, there would have been no way I'd show my face on national TV talking about my very nasty and unstable living conditions! Those poor kids! Reading some of your posts, I see that there are some people defending this and that is your right, but just remember that if you start in on me about being too harsh.

well i can tell you a medication that would get her off her ass and cleaning but dr phils mods cant allow its name posted, you cant get it from no doctor is why it cant be posted, but it would give her the energy she would need to get that mess cleaned up, hell i bet she could get it all cleaned in a day or two, BOTH houses, i was supprised at her being a nurse that she didnt think about it her self, as a nurse she should have known that pain pills make you want to sleep a lot, and im sure that drinking beer and popping those pills sis not help her at all.

 i know why LOWES  wont fix her house till its empty, you cant find the house in all that filth.