Topic : 08/04 Daddy Drama

If he had these feelings then he should have thought about it BEFORE he got married 3 times and took on the responsibility of becoming a father. Yes, this peson was thinking of NO ONE but himself. I can more

than likely perdict that these girls will marry a man, looking for a father figure. Nothing is more important

to most women than their families, but most men are detached, and this man  was no exception. He is a

man dressed as a woman. Talk about abuse, this is the worst kind of mental and emtional abuse that

there is. I agree with Dr. Phil, as this was a man very self asorbed. He was so un-feeling and so unemotional as his daughters were going through their very emotional feelings about what and how they

were trying to deal with this major life changing time of their life. They did not ask for this and it's not their

problem or fault, but he is expecting them to call him mom.!! Is he nuts or completely out of his mind?????

They have a mom, they need a dad, not a dad that is playing dress up trying to convince himself that he needs to be a woman. He needs mental help first and foremost, tremendous amount of therapy.And these

girls as well. My thoughts and prayers go out to each of them. 

1st off since i am a christian,all i can say for the man who used to be a father,is i will def.pray for him,in hopes he realizes what he did,and will want to be a man and father,because if god wanted him to be a women,he would have been a women,but god does not make mistakes,so he is what he is!

i am sitting here watching this show,and i see the pain in christina eyes and even more in carlie's eyes,and let me just say,i am soooooooo sorry,that you are going thru what your going thru,you should not have to go thru this,not at 13 yrs old,but i want to say i am very proud of you for handling it the way you did,and you should be very proud of yourself

he is just sitting there,and he has an answer for everything,he is smug,and for lack of a better word he is cocky,and i was just floored when he said DO I,like do i have a daughter,i just cannot believe he would say that,i am looking at the tv saying are you kidding me,and you should be ashamed of yourself,he gives a short smug answer,and then he just have's a stuck up look on his face,like i am right and no matter what you say,your wrong

well i got news for you,YOU COULD NOT BE MORE WRONG,then the way your handling this with your daughters,you do not tell a 12,that she is a child,and that is so wrong there is not a even a word do describe it,and its pretty pathetic,that you cant pay your child support for your 13 yr old,but you can go get your nails done,and everything else,you need to give that money to your 13 yr old,she deserves it alot more

finally let me just say  i was very impressed  with the way christina and carly handled themselves,and i am so sorry again for everything your going thru

and christina if you still need somebody to walk you down the isle at your wedding,just let me know,and this stranger would be honored to walk you down the isle

god bless you both,you will be in my prayers 

michael       

I am transgender in the process of transition. I am also the parent of a 22 year old daughter and I'm married so i feel i have a good handle on this situation. If anything I have enough experience to speak my mind. What I will say is please read my entire statement before passing and judgement on my words. Also while i am of the belief that "god doesn'y make mistakes" as some christians post I will tell you that i don't believe he made a mistake with me, I believe he handed me exactly what he felt I could handle and made me this way. My point is that I don't want to be bashed for being who I am.

As a transsexual I can tell you that what we go through is not a choice, it is a matter of survival. We live always hoping that this will go away or that somehow we can manage it and live as we are told to live. To do this we take on very masculine roles, get married, have children and try to prove ourselves as men. A good many of us assume that love will cure us. For those who believe you shouldn't get married or have children if you are like this you are making a very short sited statement. Until the inception of the internet most of us didn't have the resource to understand why we feel the way we feel so we try to do the best wee can with the cards we are dealt, usually very unssuccessfully . Transsexualism has one of the highest rates of suicide known today because we don't understand and live in pain.

One of the words that is consistently thrown in our faces is that we are selfish for making the change. Being selfish is a two way St. Is it selfish to marry and not reveal it to a spouse? The answer is yes. Is it selfish of people to expect someone with Gender Identity Disorder to live as their birth gender ..The answer is again, yes!  This is not a choice and to get to this point it is a matter of survival I know, I've sat with a 9mm handgun in my hand thinking of the easiest way out. Thankfully I got help and decided it was better to transition than to be called selfish for taking my life. Now with that stated.

If I were on that stage I would have explained that there is a right way and a wrong way to handle transition. All to often Trans people feel the need to leave their former life behind out of terrible pain. So distance themselves as much as they can from old pictures, old prounouns, names and labels. It is very painful for a trans person to be addressed by their birth gender.

This womans first mistake was simply that she is shirking her responsibilities. No matter what the children feel, she is the adult and she needs to support them and make an attempt to be in their lives. If they reject just keep trying until the door opens. On the flip side as painful as this is for the children they don't have the understanding that this isn't a choice and going back is a death sentence. They don't understand the suffering that goes with it and all they want is their "dad" I don't blame them at all but what seems to be happening here is that by expecting this woman to de-transition or they don't want to be a part of her life they are essentially forcing her to build a wall of resentment and anything beyond that simply isn't being heard.

When I broke the news to my daughter the very first thing I explained was that Dad wasn't going away, I will always be her dad. I assured her I wasn't looking to replace mom. Lastly I offered to have her a part of my counseling sessions so she could come to understsand exactly what I was going through and get her own questions answered. To date I have an execellent relationship with my daughter.

The thing that bothered me about this situation was that once she heard that she needed to be dad she didn't want to be receptive to anything that was said and she shut down. I can tell you that I would have walked over and hugged my child at the site of their pain. Instead what we saw was a very detached woman who has distanced herself as to not feel pain over the situation.

Transition is not an easy path, there is a lot of soul searching and therapy that goes with it. I can say as I sit here today is that it can be done with dignity, respect and most of all in a positive way. If anyone wants to learn more about this issue I have a blog that that be accessed at http://karynm.blogspot.com/ 

As far as this show goes, I feel like dr Phil had some good points but he dropped the ball. He needed to address the deeper issue of the need to transition in order to establish a boundery of the right and wrong way to handle things ...He did not do that...

Karyn Maynard

I am transgender in the process of transition. I am also the parent of a 22 year old daughter and I'm married so i feel i have a good handle on this situation. If anything I have enough experience to speak my mind. What I will say is please read my entire statement before passing and judgement on my words. Also while i am of the belief that "god doesn'y make mistakes" as some christians post I will tell you that i don't believe he made a mistake with me, I believe he handed me exactly what he felt I could handle and made me this way. My point is that I don't want to be bashed for being who I am.

As a transsexual I can tell you that what we go through is not a choice, it is a matter of survival. We live always hoping that this will go away or that somehow we can manage it and live as we are told to live. To do this we take on very masculine roles, get married, have children and try to prove ourselves as men. A good many of us assume that love will cure us. For those who believe you shouldn't get married or have children if you are like this you are making a very short sited statement. Until the inception of the internet most of us didn't have the resource to understand why we feel the way we feel so we try to do the best wee can with the cards we are dealt, usually very unssuccessfully . Transsexualism has one of the highest rates of suicide known today because we don't understand and live in pain.

One of the words that is consistently thrown in our faces is that we are selfish for making the change. Being selfish is a two way St. Is it selfish to marry and not reveal it to a spouse? The answer is yes. Is it selfish of people to expect someone with Gender Identity Disorder to live as their birth gender ..The answer is again, yes!  This is not a choice and to get to this point it is a matter of survival I know, I've sat with a 9mm handgun in my hand thinking of the easiest way out. Thankfully I got help and decided it was better to transition than to be called selfish for taking my life. Now with that stated.

If I were on that stage I would have explained that there is a right way and a wrong way to handle transition. All to often Trans people feel the need to leave their former life behind out of terrible pain. So distance themselves as much as they can from old pictures, old prounouns, names and labels. It is very painful for a trans person to be addressed by their birth gender.

This womans first mistake was simply that she is shirking her responsibilities. No matter what the children feel, she is the adult and she needs to support them and make an attempt to be in their lives. If they reject just keep trying until the door opens. On the flip side as painful as this is for the children they don't have the understanding that this isn't a choice and going back is a death sentence. They don't understand the suffering that goes with it and all they want is their "dad" I don't blame them at all but what seems to be happening here is that by expecting this woman to de-transition or they don't want to be a part of her life they are essentially forcing her to build a wall of resentment and anything beyond that simply isn't being heard.

When I broke the news to my daughter the very first thing I explained was that Dad wasn't going away, I will always be her dad. I assured her I wasn't looking to replace mom. Lastly I offered to have her a part of my counseling sessions so she could come to understsand exactly what I was going through and get her own questions answered. To date I have an execellent relationship with my daughter.

The thing that bothered me about this situation was that once she heard that she needed to be dad she didn't want to be receptive to anything that was said and she shut down. I can tell you that I would have walked over and hugged my child at the site of their pain. Instead what we saw was a very detached woman who has distanced herself as to not feel pain over the situation.

Transition is not an easy path, there is a lot of soul searching and therapy that goes with it. I can say as I sit here today is that it can be done with dignity, respect and most of all in a positive way. If anyone wants to learn more about this issue I have a blog that that be accessed at http://karynm.blogspot.com/ 

As far as this show goes, I feel like dr Phil had some good points but he dropped the ball. He needed to address the deeper issue of the need to transition in order to establish a boundery of the right and wrong way to handle things ...He did not do that...

Karyn Maynard