Topic : 08/04 Daddy Drama

Doctor Phil is a real psychologist, but like you he dropped the ball on this.

He should have asked Kayla if she would be willing not to wear make up, dress like a man etc. around his children. There should be some sort of compromise and not shades of black and white. That is what all therapist strive to do is to get the clients out of the all or nothing mentality that society has edicted.

Feeling are hurt all the way around they need to be acknowledged and then the rift needs to be mended.

Meeting in the middle of such emotional issues is the only way anyone can walk away with a sense of peace and not feeling like they were the victims.

This was totally 100 percent his choice to do this. That is such bull that he didnt have a choice. He could have chosen his daughters.  No matter what he does to his body he will still be a man.  He may change his outward appearance but he can never change what GOD made him.  He may turn himself into a woman but he will still just be a gay man living as a woman.

Why should DR Phil have shown him more compassion? Not once has he shown any compassion for his daughters. Not once did he shed one tear for the pain he has caused them. He has absolutely no compassion or sympathy for the greif his daughters feel.

I feel absolutely no compassion or sympathy for this person. He was first and foremost a dad, and that has to take presedence over what he wants or needs. When you make the choice to have children, their wants and needs should come into play before you do something that is going to tear their lives apart.

He is a typical male who wants what he wants and everyone else can just deal with it.

Everybody keeps harping on "Where"s the compassion for the dad'?  Where was his compassion and consideration for his daughters? These are children he chose to have. I dont agree with the comments that he had no choice in the matter because he did have a choice. He chose to put himself before his children. I agree with Dr Phil when he told this man he was very selfish and inconsiderate.  He chose to put his daughters in this pain. Then he has the nerve to sit there and say he is a victim. That is such crap.

He can change his outward apperance but he cannot change what GOD made him. He will still be a man in a womans body. He will still be gay no matter how you look at it.

He made the wrong decision and he has caused his daughters a considerable amount of pain. Pain that he could take away but chooses not too.

The saddest thing about this message board is that the majority of the posts are from people who are removed from this type of situation and yet have soo many opinions. I saw many posts from people that criticized the daughters.  I am the daughter of a father that is going through a transition and I want you to know that before this was in my family I accepted transgendered people openly. The reality of it is: until it is your life you can never understand the degree of pain that we feel. 

I agree completely. These people suggest that our feelings are wrong, that we should just "accept" this new person into our lives. I posted my story several pages back. The reality is, is that our father is gone, and there is this new person in our lives with whom we cannot relate to. It takes several years to even come to a place where a superficial relationship can be started. Good luck in your quest to find a good therapist.