Quote From: systoleWhen people decide to have children, it is their choice, not that of the future child. Children do not just need parents until they leave school they need them for life.
Adult children have problems too and often these problems are far worse than the problems they had as little children. It is a wonderful feeling to know that one's parents still love one and still are there in the worst moments of their lives.
This father managed to live as a man for forty years. What was so pressing that he had to turn his children's lives up side down at this point in his life? I see it as the ultimate selfish act. Could he not have done this discretely? He obviously does not live with them, or they would have seen this long ago.
I find it to be outrageous that he feels he can turn his back on them and ask them to treat him as someone completely different. For what? What is he trying to do? What is he hoping for that they will love him how ever he behaves and looks?
He is the only father they have or will ever have, so he is robbing them of their father and expecting them to just be happy with his choice? It is like expecting a child to come to terms with the death of their father.
It has been 26 yrs since my own father died. I still miss him terribly and at the important times of my life and that of my children, I so would have wanted him to be there.
I think this father has not thought at all what this must be like for his daughters. As their only father he had no right to rob them of their father and expect them to be pleased. Will they come to terms with this? Maybe!
But they will be robbed as I was of my father. Something you learn to live with, over many years of grief. But why do this to people you love?
Why put them through so much grief, if you have managed 40 years. So he says he could not wait any longer, well at some point he accepted it, and he chose a macho job. He could have worked as a hair dresser, and the idea of him changing could have come more slowly. But to be a cop and then become a woman is really too much to expect them to take in.
His act will have a dramatic effect on what they see as the truth in life. It will destroy their trust in anything. They see one thing but what they see is not real. How will they cope with this and come to terms with their whole life being made up of a lie. This could actually destroy them. Has he even thought of this. has he sought counseling to help him help them deal with this? I do not think so.
Lets say he stays on this path, and they go into the future with this amount of change and are unable to cope with their lives and relationships and they destroy any hope of happiness because they can not trust anyone or anything. Will this desire of his to become a woman been worth it?
Well, That's from an "attackers" point of view.
Like what the show said, he was like that for most if not his whole life, I honestly don't find anything bad with it, just that It's society that's done that to him, he could've changed it quickly in the first place if it was so bad, and none of this would've happened, hence christina and err, the other girl wouldn't probably be here.
In a way, they have to accept the choice, in order to have an adult figure in their lives, they have their mother, why not another?
It's only appearence, and genitalia and different hormones, but what about the personality? I'm doubting that's changed.
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His act will have a dramatic effect on what they see as the truth in life. It will destroy their trust in anything. They see one thing but what they see is not real. How will they cope with this and come to terms with their whole life being made up of a lie. This could actually destroy them. Has he even thought of this. has he sought counseling to help him help them deal with this? I do not think so."
Well, that's kinda reality, if they can go through this, they could've gone through harder things that other's haven't gone through, such as break-ups' unfaithful relationships, and other difficult things, I think they'll get stronger, because reality works that way.
They've already know that their father's a mother now.
He can't honestly go back to the way he was, because if he did, i doubt he'd be so happy.
How about this, A mother, a father, a daughter and another as a family, back to their old ways.
Except their father would be extremely unhappy, eventually leading to depression, and possibly suicide, you'll never know.
(Original Air Date: 04/29/08) Christina, 21, and her younger sister, Carlie, 13, say they had a close relationship with their father, Michael, until two years ago when he decided to transition to a female. Michael was a police officer, soldier and loving parent who lived his life as a male for 40 years. Now, he wants his daughters to call him Mom, because he says Dad is gone, but they refuse. Michael, who prefers to be called Kayla, says she wants to explain to her daughters why she's living as a woman, but they've never given her the chance. The last time Christina saw her father was two years ago when he showed up at her work in lace and blue jeans to break the news that he's transgendered. When she sees Kayla onstage, does she greet her with open arms? Next, Carlie joins her sister and father. She says she wants her old dad back, but will she feel the same after seeing Kayla? Can the father-daughter bond be turned into a mother-daughter one? Be prepared for an emotional journey as two daughters struggle to understand how someone they say loved so much could hurt them so badly. Talk about the show here.
