Topic : 07/25 "It's My Baby Too!"

Maybe the registry was created and the law labeled obscure because men have been obscure about how to show up in a relationship as a responsible fertile adult. It became so bad that men now have to be coached by public policy to act like responsible people. Men's right advocates cry foul, giving men another good reason to harass women. Which creates an environment that could elevate the already high assault and death rate of pregnant women at the hand of partners or spouses.

 I think that the whole show was a HUGE waste of time!!! No one seemed at all concerned about the welfare of the baby! It was all about everyone else's feelings. That little girl did not ask to be born into disfunction and her biological mother at least had the maturity to see that both her and the biological father could not give this child what every child deserves to have!
Come on!!!!! That man is 35 years old and can't even support himself let alone a baby!

Children can be placed for adoption and be loved by their adoptive parents just as much if not more than the biological family.
I placed a baby boy for adoption when I was barely 17 and he is in a wonderful family who loved him dearly. I hope that Esther will keep her head up and know that though she was irresponsibe in being with than man, she made a wise choice and the outcome for the baby will be sooo much better!!

I AGREE, ESTER DOESN'T HAVE A BIG HEART, SHE WAS SELFISH AND THINKING ONLY OF HERSELF. THAT BABY HAS EVERY RIGHT TO BE RAISED BY HER FATHER IF HE THINKS HE CAN AND WANTS TO DO IT AND HE HAS THAT RIGHT TO PROVE HE CAN AND I BELIEVE HE CAN. HIS MOTHER EVEN SAID SHE'D HELP. ESTER ADOPTING OUT THAT LITTLE GIRLS WITHOUT TALKING TO THE FATHER FIRST IS THE CHICKEN WAY OUT AND NO LAW SHOULD BE ABLE TO STOP THE DADDY FROM TRYING TO RIGHT WHAT WAS WRONGED. THERE ARE SO MANY DEAD BEAT DADDIES OUT THERE THAT DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH THEIR KIDS AND THIS GUY WANTS TO BE A DAD, I SAY LET HIM. ESTER DAD IS THE ONE WHO SHOULD BE PUNISHED FOR STEPPING IN AND SAYING HE RAPED ESTER WHEN SHE SAYS HE DIDN'T. ESTERS DAD SHOULD BE SUED FOR SLANDER AND FOR TRYING TO RUIN THIS YOUNG MANS CHARACTER. I HOPE HE GETS HIS DAUGHTER BACK WHILE SHE'S STILL YOUNG ENOUGH TO HANDLE THE TRANSITION WELL. SHE'S STILL A BABY, IT WOULDN'T TRAMATIZE HER YET. GOOD LUCK DADDY, I'M ON YOUR SIDE. AND DON'T GIVE ESTER AND HER FATHER VISITATION RIGHTS. THEY DON'T DESERVE IT.

 Both are to blame! They both made the mistake and at least the mom was willing to try to make it right by giving the little girl a fair chance at a good life!!!

Boy, is this ever a hot button for me!

 

The first words out of Dr. Phil's mouth were the same ones that would come out of mine had I been in front of those two parents: "WHY DIDN'T YOU USE BIRTH CONTROL???" They knew each other for one lousy month before she became pregnant....well DUH! Now here we are dealing with the adoption/parental fighting issues once again because of two careless, selfish, immature dingbats who couldn't care less about the consequences of their stupidity!

 

In my opinion, NEITHER of these parents (nor the paternal grandmother) are fit to raise this child, so adoption is the right way to go....but, as for this open adoption by friends of the mother....I think that's a total cop-out. The mother and maternal grandparents get to go visit and koochie-coo the baby (how convenient) whenever they want to, for only as long as they want to, but don't have to take any of the daily responsibilities of caring for this child....kind of like when the parents were having sex: all the fun with none of the responsibilities.

 

If I were the adoptive parents, open adoption would not be on the table at all!  I think it's selfish and confusing for the child that the mother and her parents are so verbally insistent about caring so much about. If you choose adoption, then choose it and all that it means; get out of the child's life and let her have a secure, stable, non-confusing life with her new parents, and don't interfere.  

 

Then, if someday, when the child becomes of age and wants to find the biological parent(s) there's a registry that both the child and bio parents can go to, put down their names and can then find each other if they so choose. 

 

Meanwhile, get on with your lives, all of you, and next time use some common sense and some damn birth control!!  

 Excuse me but how do you know that she was permiscuous??   You have some nerve telling a mother who made mature decision that she is unfit! We know nothing more than what was revealed on the show and that wasn't much!! Is every mom who gives her child up for adoption unfit??????

What I don't understand is why this girl thought he was good enough to lay down with and obviously not care whether or not she got pregnant but he's not good enough to marry or be a father to his daughter.  She shouldn't be able to just "bail" out by giving the baby away. It's like saying, "Oops, I made a mistake by having sex and getting pregnant with a loser, so now let's try an erase that." What she and her dominating father fail to realize is that, it took two people to make that baby they didn't want and the father should have a voice in the childs future.  Would her father or her given the baby up had she gotten pregnant by a lawyer or doctor instead of a recovering meth addict? I bet not.  She will have to answer to her child one day and explain why she shut the childs father out of her life without consulting him. What couples fail to realize is that no one gives a crap whether or not you like the person any longer after the child was created. You liked them enough at one time to create the child and because of that each party has a right to decide about that child's future. It is completely irrelevant whether Esther or her family likes the father or not. Did she consult them before she slept with him?  I bet not. 

Today's show was the story of my life and 60 years latter this is the outcome---I found my father 12 years ago and he was the light of my life until 6 months ago when he died in my arms.  My mother is a mean bitter women and she will not "allow" me to met her.  Do who won that battle of the wills???

There are not a lot of parents out there that can afford to give a child their every want. You do not have the right or authority to tell someone that because they do not put a child's every want above everything else. I have several children and I assure you that they do not get everything that they want and that does not make me a bad parent. There are a lot of good parents out there that love their children dearly and give them everything that they NEED. A child does not have to get their every want to be healthy, educated, law abiding and emotionally stable.

 

This father evidently loves his child very much. He is fighting to be a part of his daughter's life and no person should be denied their child. I am not saying that he should be given the child without knowing that it would be a good home, but he should have just as much of a right to that child as the mother had. He had the support of his mother and I believe that Esther and her parents were wrong in the way that they put his daughter up for adoption without his knowing about it. He is trying to step up to the plate and love his child. We are always hearing that fathers should step up to the plate and take care of their children. This is a man who is trying to do just that and the mother and her parents have taken this away from him. Being that they baby was adopted by friends of the parents of the mother it seems to me that they were more concerned with providing a child to their friends for whatever reason than ensuring that this little girl has the chance to know her father. It should have been prove in court that the father was an unfit parent and that a biological grandparent was unfit before this child was adopted out to "friends" of the mothers parents. Shame on the system for allowing this......

Oh my gosh......That baby deserves a family that is stable, loving and productive citizens. The father is unstable is all areas. Life is hard enough, why should that baby have to deal with him and his family.
Cause and effect. He needs to be told that... not helped to make this a bigger mess . That right there shows he is not thinking of the baby , just himself. Why would Dr Phil support that!! Now, he will continute to fight, and mess that babys life up forever. Nice job Dr Phil......this is about a soul....not a law!!!  The laws are for people!!