Quote From: mylove33I forgot to add on my pervious message that, as a matter of fact, my sex life with my fiance is way better then it was with my ex-husband who was only a year older then me..I think part of it is that my relationship with my fiance is filled with so much love and passion that it doesnt matter how good the actually sex part is..dont get me wrong about that, its amazing but thats not the point...My ex was so into making me someone I was/am not, that I could not put all of the love and passion into it. I can be completly me with my fiance and I love it...Even with all of my flaws or his, we love eachother unconditionaly.
Yes, that was one of the many instances that someone thought that I was my husbands daughter. We were at a new doctor for my husband and I hadn't gone to the first appt.. When his next appt. came around I went with him and after we were settled into his office, he began by telling us, "As I was telling your father", both of us, at the same exact moment said "She's my wife" & "He's my husband". The doctor was so embarrassed! We found it hilarious! Another time that really sticks out in my mind is when we were in San Diego buying me a new car. After we had picked it up we decided to hit the mall as I wanted to pick up a few things. As we were making our purchases, I saw a Dooney & Bourke key chain that I wanted to go with the new car. I was goofing around and asked my hubby "can I have this too?", which of course I could. Well, this older couple that were standing right next to us and had overheard the conversation, knew about the new car, and the man said "Children! They will break you if you if you let them, won't they?". He said it in a joking manner but truly believed that I was his daughter. My husband just played along and agreed with the man, he never let on that I was his wife. We laughed so hard when we got out of there!
As to our intimate life together? You hit it right on the nose! When you love someone that much, and you have that much trust in them, you can be your true self. It really makes all of the difference in the world. I had some serious relationships before I had met my husband and because they weren't the right man for me, although they were in fact very good relationships, I was never able to allow myself to just let go and be me. I always held something back. How good can that be? And then there are the bad relationships. There is no way on earth that a normal woman can have a great sex life with a man that she resents!
Unconditional love, the type that you would die for, that is what makes it so great. I have a saying that I tell younger people who have come to me for advice. "Married sex is the best sex that you will ever have". It's not that I have anything against having while you are single, that would be very hypocritical of me, but, it's so much better when you do find that right person. I don't know what else I can add to this since I think my statement sums it up best. But I will say again, do not care about the opinions of others as long as you are happy. That is all that matters in this world. Yes, there will be the fact that you could very well outlive your husband, I knew that going into my marriage, but it didn't prevent me from doing so. I would rather have what time I can with him than to have never had any time with him at all. I wouldn't change anything at all, and I have NEVER second guessed my decision. Wishing you the best,
Jewels
(Original Air Date 05/02/08) Demi Moore did it. So did Madonna and Halle Berry. This trend of older women dating younger men is called the Cougar Craze, and it’s sweeping the country. Recently, at a New York speed-dating event, Sugar Mamas and Boy Toys, good-looking 35-year-old men wooed women over 35 who made at least $500,000 a year. Jeremy organized the event and says he was just answering a demand from affluent ladies. Was he sincere in his matchmaking or just out to make a buck? Dr. Phil talks to two women who participated in the event -- Gail, 44, and Nancy, 50. Their experiences might surprise you. Then, 51-year-old Kat says she’s no cougar; she just likes to date younger guys because men her age are set in their ways. She says her 23-year-old ex-boyfriend, Ryon, was loving, passionate and had a much higher libido than older men. Her friend, Nancy, says Kat has a great head for business, but a bad one when it comes to the opposite sex. She says young men just see dollar signs when they see Kat. Is Kat dating down, or should Nancy just butt out? And, Bobbi had an 11-year relationship with a man who was 17 years her junior, but she says once she turned 50, he saw her as too old. She wants to be in a relationship again, but not with an older man. Her son, Nathan, says someone still wet behind the ears can’t appreciate all Bobbi has to offer. Does Nathan have the right to put his foot down with his mother? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
