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Topic : 05/06 Moochers

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Created on : Friday, May 02, 2008, 01:20:38 pm
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They drain your finances and try to take you for all you’ve got. No, it’s not the IRS, but family freeloaders! First up, when Ryan appeared on the show two years ago, he proudly wore the title King of All Moochers. His mother, Adele, was desperate to get him off the couch and out of her house. After the show, Adele took Dr. Phil’s advice and didn’t give Ryan one penny. But just when she thought her son was getting on his feet, she says Ryan was back to his old ways. She says he’s not contributing to the baby he has with his ex-girlfriend and is about to marry Tanya, a woman with a 5-year-old son, who is now pregnant with his child! Now that Ryan and Tanya have another baby on the way, Ryan says he’s serious about changing his mooching ways. Will he step up to the plate and be a father, or is Tanya just another victim of Ryan’s  freeloading lifestyle? Then, Stacey says her 42-year-old brother, Mark, is bleeding her dry. He lives in her basement and hasn’t paid rent in three months. Mark says he’s not a moocher, and it’s not his fault he doesn’t have a job -- he’s just not a morning person. Stacey says her mother, Nell, is a big enabler when it comes to Mark, but is Stacey just as guilty? Will Mark hear the wake-up call before he finds himself on the streets? Tell us what you think.

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May 6, 2008, 12:27 pm CDT

05/06 Moochers

Girls: here's a clue about men:  DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH ANY GUY WHO:

 

Still lives at home after age 21 and whose mommy still does his laundry, cleans up after him, gives him money and treats him like he's 10 years old.

Doesn't have a GOOD JOB.

Doesn't know how to keep his house reasonable clean.

Asks you for money....in ANY Amount!!

Has kids by another woman...or women...and doesn't support them.

Sits on the couch and plays video games for hours, or is on the computer, also for hours every day.

Is into alcohol/drugs/porn.

Seems to have money, but not an obvious source of income.

Has no plans for the future, no ambition, and no way to realize those plans if he does have any.

Hands you a crock of crap about how he's a victim of circumstances and can't get a job/house/car/etc because of "blah, blah blah..."

 

If you do ignore warnings and common sense and get involved anyway, don't cry to anyone when you get scammed and find yourself in debt, with a bunch of kids hanging off your skirts and looking on down the road as your Mr. Wonderful heads off into the sunset with yet another victim. You will deserve whatever you get! 

 
May 6, 2008, 12:56 pm CDT

I FEEL HER PAIN

ITS HARD BEING AN SINGLE PARENT BUT WHEN THE OTHER PARENT MAKES NO EFFORT TOWARDS THE CHILD THAT ALREADY HERE BUT TAKES TO ANOTHER WOMAN CHILD THAT ISNT HIS THATS HURTS, FROM WHAT SHE WAS SAYING IS THAT HE DONE NOTHING TO HELP HER OUT NOR SENT ANYTHING TO HIS CHILD BUT HE HAS THE NERVE TO GET MARRIED AND HAVE ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT IF SHE CAN SEE WHAT HE IS DOING TO HIS FIRST CHILD WHAT DOES SHE THINK HE IS GOING TO DO TO HER AFTER THAT BABY IS BORN THE SAME DAMN THING. HE IS SUCH AN DEAD BEAT FATHER AND I HATE THOSE TYPE OF GUYS THAT CANT TAKE CARE OF RESPONSIBILITY MAN UP AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD AND BE AN FATHER AND NOT JUST SOME GUY THAT COMES AROUND NOW AND THEN
 
May 6, 2008, 12:59 pm CDT

What is wrong with parents today??

Let me tell you that I didn't even need to see this show today. I knew how it was going to come down. These people have no one to blame BUT THEMSELVES!!!!!!!!!!   These parents today have got to start to let their kids take care of themselves!! I hear it EVERYDAY from parents. It's unbelievable how parents raise their kids today. Then they wonder why they become MOOCHERS!!!  Give me a break. Part of parenting is to teach your kids to take care of themselves. And today ALOT of parents don't do that?? I don't understand it. These parents are paying for their cars, their insurance for the car, their CELL PHONES, their gas. Heck their even paying for their kids to get tanned in a tanning booth. Their paying for their make up, their dates, THEIR EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!  WHAT IS WRONG WITH PARENTS TODAY????  And THEN THEY WONDER WHY THEY DON'T WANT TO WORK??????????/  THEY DON'T HAVE TO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!    I know kids that are 19 or 20 still living at home having their mother still do their LAUNDRY???  COME ON!!!  YOUR NOT TEACHING THEM TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES!!!!!  WHY don't parents get this? kids appreciate things more when they work for the things they want. When someone else is paying for it, they don't care about the things they have, because they have nothing to LOSE!! they didn't pay for it!!!  UNBELIEVABLE!!!! 

like I said at the beginning of this letter. PARENTS DON'T HAVE ANYBODY TO BLAME>>BUT THEMSELVES!!!  These kids today really scare me. And their going to be in charge of this country one day. I'm glad I won't be around.    I have 2 grown boys. Are they perfect>> NO>>>  But everything they own and have they worked for. We didn't GIVE them anything. And believe me, I'm glad we did it that way. Ofcourse I help out when I have extra money, but most of the time I don't!!  They learned if they want something, they have to work for it.Thats all I have to say. I hope parents out there read this, and understand what I'm saying. And for the parents out there who made their kids work for what they have>>> You've done them a BIG favor!!!!                    

 
May 6, 2008, 1:10 pm CDT

05/06 Moochers

I didn't see that DrP put a spin on anything today. Ryan's new girlfriend couldn't really articulate how she thought he had put a spin on anything. I think the new girlfriend has just gotten herself in a pickle and has believed everything that Ryan has told her. I would hate to be in her shoes. I agree with what DrP told Ryan, and I think Ryan can do better. I don't believe that a mother can keep her ex from seeing the child if he REALLY wants to see the child. And he's going to have to figure out a way to help the first child financially. I think it would be a mistake for him to sign over his parental rights. I'm glad Ryan's mother is there for the former girlfriend.
 
May 6, 2008, 1:11 pm CDT

can't wait for the divorce show

Is tonya that hard up for a husband. A good father would be out working 2 or 3 jobs and be able to pay for his car and cell phone. and pay child support to his childs mother not say i ain't giving any money to his ex girlfirend for child support. Boy you have no choice. The money will be given to Stephanie for her to use for your child without any input from you. Tonya Don't marry Him yet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!    I wish Stephanie all the luck and support toraise her child and hope things get better.

  42 years old and can't get up in the morning is bull you don;t want to. Do you not love your sister? don't you know the stress you are putting on your sisters marriage. don't you care. Go get 3 jobs and support yourself or go to a homeless shelter you bum.

 
May 6, 2008, 1:22 pm CDT

how stupid!

Here is a young girl, like many of us when we were younger, thinking she can change the guy. It never works. He is lazy and a moocher and if she thinks he will get better, he won't. Whatever you dislike before you marry a person, only gets magnified after marriage. She will end up just like Dr Phil said, on a conference call with the other ex!

 

It makes me mad how these "kids" bring more kids into this world only to end up on the already swollen welfare rolls!

 

 

 
May 6, 2008, 1:28 pm CDT

Yoohoo! Tanya! Earth calling...

 This girl is so self-serving and immature its not funny. She's a perfect match for someone like Ryan. Any girl who KNOWS that a man who has a  kid that he does not contribute emotionally or financially, then turns right around and gets pregnant by him, needs a reality check.  She is more interested in what Tanya can get out of it. GROW UP, Tanya!  IT's got nothing to do with Ryan's ex-clean up your own mess!
 
May 6, 2008, 1:40 pm CDT

05/06 Moochers

Ryans new babys mamma is clueless!!!!!! why do women find the need to defend worthless men? why do women feed, and house, men? Is there such a short supply of real men left? that they half to scrape the bottom and pull up men like ryan? i just find it sad, that in 2008 some women still feel like that is all that they deserve.
 
May 6, 2008, 1:50 pm CDT

Moochers.

Quote From: ramair

Mark says it isn't his fault he doesn't have a job? That's a crock! And, he isn't a moring person? That's another crock. He could become a morning person by going to bed at a reasonable hour. And, who says he has to get a job that starts before noon? As long as he gets a job. I think he's just too sorry and lazy to work. Thanks to an enabling family who has never required anything of him.

Tanya, Tanya, Tanya.....   I hope you go back and watch this show.  Ryan lied right in front of you. You need to run as fast as you can from this guy.  You know he doesn't support his child, stop making excuses for him.  Your future with this guy is not a good one.  Grandma and Grandpa are paying his truck payment and insurance.  WHY?  I would be talking with the grandparents about the money he is saying that goes to his babies momma. I would bet this is another lie...

 

Mark needs to get out of his sister's basement. Shame on you Mom for making her feel guily.  Let him live with you if you think he needs a place to live. Your daughter has her own children to take care of.  Mark is your son, if you want better for him then you take care of him instead of shifting the burdon on your other child.  She is the last person that should be taking care of him....

 
May 6, 2008, 1:56 pm CDT

tanya needs a wake up call

she is about to marry the absolute wrong man. She won't be able to say that nobody tried to warn her. i feel sorry for the kids - they deserve better.

Also, he had to have known about his court date. the courts send mail registered just for that reason.
 
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