Quote From: juliebggJewelsf, you make alot of sense (as always!!) I too sought out the nice guys, and had absolutely NO interest in the bad ones. There is nothing remotely charming about a guy who is self-centered and has a big ego. And the girls they attract aren't worth the ground they walk on. I still think all these jerks that complain are looking for the wrong type of girl...the typical type that would go for one of the jerks. These aren't quality girls. They are usually materialistic empty shells. So if that is what they are looking for then they have no sympathy from me.
Now mysterymethod only gave TWO requirements in his initial post about what he was looking for. Shape and youth. It was not until he was challenged that he added that she must bathe and be able to carry on an intelligent conversation and be trustworthy. People will usually talk about their most important requirements first, so the shallow ones (age and weight) were most important to this person.
Then it cracks me up the way they try to explain away the shallow values with natural selection garbage. If you want a quality relationship you look for something beyond "fertility". And where is it written that if a girl is ten pounds overweight and in her thirties that she is not fertile anyway! Just a bunch of crap someone, undoubtably male, made up to explain away their shallowness.
Jewelsf, you sound like you are a very attractive woman, but you are also an intelligent one with good values. (You hit the jackpot, lady!!!!) You looked for guys with great personalities and good hearts. this is why YOU succeeded and these guys did not. And you did not go for the bad guy, nor did I and like you I was successful in finding a great one!
I agree with you that the problems come from within these guys, and they aren't going to solve it until they acknowlege it. As Dr. Phil says, "you can't change what you don't acknowledge"!!!!!! And yes, any girl worth knowing is going to sense a jerk, because we are perceptive just as you state, jewelsf.
Have a great day.
your friend Julie!!!!
We think soooooo alike! As I have said before I wish that you, lady tinou, and I all lived in the same city. We could have such a blast together. I think Dr. P's quote "You can't change what you don't acknowledge" is one of my favorites. I also like the one "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" concerning arguing. I know people who would rather be right. Actually now that I think about it, niceguysyndrome & mysterymethod fit that category perfectly. They refuse to acknowledge that we know what we are talking about because they are too stubborn and can't be wrong in any way, shape or form. The are classic right fighters. Well, it's apparently not getting them very far in life is it? I can't even believe that one guy who included "must bathe". Who doesn't? And yes, I have noticed that they NEVER mention that they would be willing to go out with a woman who is only mildly pretty and not anorexic, and of course as old as 30, oh my gosh, how ancient! They have yet to mention personality, fun to be with, caring, honest, etc. as you said. Personally I think they have set their standards way too high because a woman of any substance would never go out with them. A woman of value would recognize their character flaws the moment they opened their mouths. And yet they still don't get it. Actually maybe they do but again they have to be right at all costs. Either way they are losers and we are fighting a losing battle trying to get them to see the light. I hope you have a wonderful day, Your friend jewels
P.S. My name is also Julie, my nickname is Jewels (funny, considering how much I LOVE jewelry)
(Original Air Date: 05/07/08) Ladies, listen up as Dr. Phil sheds light on men to avoid! You know the type: They can turn you off with their confidence, offend you with their arrogance and make you wonder if they actually hate women. He’s talking to men with out-of-control egos! John was dubbed The Worst Person in the World after sending what many would describe as a nasty, egotistical e-mail to a woman who rejected him on an Internet dating site. John admits he has a big ego but says he’s "all that and a bag of chips!" Don’t miss what happens when cameras follow John to a bar where he works his magic on the women! Then, meet Paul, a self-proclaimed Casanova who says men need to act more like cavemen. Paul says he’s proud of the fact that he’s slept with over 132 women and keeps a spreadsheet of his conquests. He says he’s so good at getting women into bed that he’s written a How To manual for men. Paul’s techniques are put to the test when he secretly coaches an introvert in a crowded club. Plus, one woman whom Paul couldn’t add to his spreadsheet joins him onstage. Where does she say he went wrong? Talk about the show here.
