I found it very interesting that at this very time when the show “male egos out of control”
was aired, I am actually reading the book SEX GOD by Rob Bell.
Part of what I had just recently read is this: (sounds like Paul to me!)
“A friend of mine talks honestly about how he spent years exploiting women for sex. He knew exactly what to say, how to act. He was a master at finding a woman who had a troubled relationship with her father and manipulating the situation for his pleasure. The first time he was telling me his story, he made a profound point that is true for all of us. He said that exploiting women for sex didn’t just rob them of their humanity, it robbed him as well. As the years went on, he found that he didn’t like what was happening to him. He was becoming less human in the process.
He said he was becoming a monster.
In treating women as objects, he was losing something of his own humanity. Somewhere along the way he came to his senses. He was repulsed by the person he was becoming. He describes it as a ‘rebirth’ in which for the first time he saw things as they really are. Several years later, my friend came across a group that works undercover in Southeast Asia to free young girls from the sex trade. In remote rural areas, girls are kidnapped and brought to the city, where they are forced to work as prostitutes. My friend signed up and recently went undercover on a ‘mission,’ rescuing girls and helping them start a new life. I was with him when he showed a group of people a picture of him surrounded by the girls he had helped rescue. People were blown away by the picture.”
I sincerely hope that John has such a personal revelation. If he already walks away from girls mid sentence if they do not meet his ‘criteria’ – he already is losing his humanity.
Interesting quote from the same book – “A concentration camp is designed to strip people of their humanity. It’s anti-human.”
Becoming less human results in bringing us to a similar status of animals.
“Have you ever seen a dog concerned that its life just isn’t going anywhere?
A cat reflecting?
A horse not feeling centered?
Animals have a physical body but no spirit.”
They, too, have sexual lives. Urges. Instincts. Mindless. On the prowl.
It greatly saddens me to see John diminishing his humanity and that of others.
This mentality is so pervasive, to greater and lesser degrees….again from SEX GOD-
“Picture a group of high school boys standing by their lockers when a girl walks by. One of the boys asks, ‘How do you rate that?’ They then take turns assigning numerical values to the various parts of her anatomy, discussing in great detail how they evaluate her physical attributes.
This scenario happens all the time, all over the world, every day. It’s a pastime for some. There are television shows and websites and endless discussions all devoted to deciding who’s hot and who’s not. It’s an industry, a form of entertainment, a culture.
And it’s everywhere.
The problem is that ‘that’ is actually a ‘she’. A person. A woman.With a name, a history, with feelings. It seems harmless until you’re that girl – and then it hurts. It’s degrading. It’s violating. It does something to a person’s soul.”
I found it revealing that John couldn’t even live with the ‘rejection’ from the one gal…
He had to turn it around so in his own mind HE was the one doing the rejecting.
I am thinking every woman in the audience already was thinking Paul has lost his humanity.
It would be interesting to do a follow up show of the 132 women on the spread sheet to see if they felt like they were stripped of their humanity. Exploited. De-humanized.
(Original Air Date: 05/07/08) Ladies, listen up as Dr. Phil sheds light on men to avoid! You know the type: They can turn you off with their confidence, offend you with their arrogance and make you wonder if they actually hate women. He’s talking to men with out-of-control egos! John was dubbed The Worst Person in the World after sending what many would describe as a nasty, egotistical e-mail to a woman who rejected him on an Internet dating site. John admits he has a big ego but says he’s "all that and a bag of chips!" Don’t miss what happens when cameras follow John to a bar where he works his magic on the women! Then, meet Paul, a self-proclaimed Casanova who says men need to act more like cavemen. Paul says he’s proud of the fact that he’s slept with over 132 women and keeps a spreadsheet of his conquests. He says he’s so good at getting women into bed that he’s written a How To manual for men. Paul’s techniques are put to the test when he secretly coaches an introvert in a crowded club. Plus, one woman whom Paul couldn’t add to his spreadsheet joins him onstage. Where does she say he went wrong? Talk about the show here.
