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Created on : Friday, May 02, 2008, 01:25:28 pm

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(Original Air Date: 05/07/08) Ladies, listen up as Dr. Phil sheds light on men to avoid! You know the type: They can turn you off with their confidence, offend you with their arrogance and make you wonder if they actually hate women. He’s talking to men with out-of-control egos! John was dubbed The Worst Person in the World after sending what many would describe as a nasty, egotistical e-mail to a woman who rejected him on an Internet dating site. John admits he has a big ego but says he’s "all that and a bag of chips!" Don’t miss what happens when cameras follow John to a bar where he works his magic on the women! Then, meet Paul, a self-proclaimed Casanova who says men need to act more like cavemen. Paul says he’s proud of the fact that he’s slept with over 132 women and keeps a spreadsheet of his conquests. He says he’s so good at getting women into bed that he’s written a How To manual for men. Paul’s techniques are put to the test when he secretly coaches an introvert in a crowded club. Plus, one woman whom Paul couldn’t add to his spreadsheet joins him onstage. Where does she say he went wrong? Talk about the show here.

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samanthaf63

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May 8, 2008, 3:07 pm PDT

pretty funny

I was on a "dating" website and I'm pretty specific about myself - namely, I am a 5' tall BBW. I am careful to show a few pix that illustrate it since the last thing I want is an argument about my size. Well, some ninny "winked" at me, which sent me into gales of laughter. Just like these jokers, he just thought he was the hottest guy in the Chicago area with the best education, job prospects, car, lifestyle, etc. and he said he wanted to find a woman prettier than his car (a Corvette) and boasting about how superintelligent he was and how he demanded a "hot, well-proportioned woman" who worked out frequently as he did.

I sent an email back saying, well, you may be bright but you seem to have MISSED something - I indicated on the website that I am large (the biggest category they had) and the text that explained I was a BBW who didn't work out as often as I probably should. However, unlike the scum on the show, he actually said, "Well, you have a really pretty face. Good luck to you." and didn't say anything nastier or more rude. I thought it was a riot that he wasn't smart enough to a) read or b) look at all the pix, despite his Ivy League education and high-income lifestyle.

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texas4ever13

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May 8, 2008, 3:46 pm PDT

05/07 Male Egos Out of Control

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Are you kidding! Dr. Phil is positively oozing with sex appeal. I know I can't be the only woman who thinks this way. He was the babe on the show yesterday. OK, I admit it, I've had a huge crush on him for years now. He's tall like my hubby, he's 6'5" with broad shoulders. Love it!

What makes Dr. Phil ooz sex appeal? I'll tell you,,,,,,,,,,,,, it's the way he loves his wife!

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zondervanus

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May 8, 2008, 3:53 pm PDT

I have kept a list of 83 women

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To Paul and all others like him:

I really don't understand how you cannot fear the hand of Our Lord God Almighty!?! You may be having your fun here on earth but it is not going to be fun when you are burning continually in hell for the rest of eternity.

Yes Paul you may be very proud of the number of woman you slept with. Soo proud you kept a list. But Paul remember God Almighty is keeping a list too. I suggest you bring it to confession with you immediately!!

May God bless you and have mercy on you Paul and all the others like you!!!

I kept a list not for the reasons that most people would think. During my heyday before accepting Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour during 1989-1991 I had a rule that I only had sex with women on Thursday thru Sunday. At the time I was catholic and if you know anything about growing up catholic it was ok to sin because all we had to do is confess our sins to a priest on Friday. That usually followed by reciting a couple of hail Marys. I always played it safe and used a condom but in very rare ocassions I did not. I used to go out every single night in Miami and the Steven Seagal look was in at the time and of course I had long hair all one length down to my back.

I am Latin, tall at 6'2", trim and tanned but none of that will get a girls number.. its all about the Labia.. in other words what you say and how you say it. Pretty much like Paul that was on the show who obviously exudes confidence. When i had sex with a woman it wasn't the same woman I met on the same night but rather the ones I met the week before or two weeks before that. For me , I value the art of conversation rather than going on the dance floor and trying to make heads or tails of what a person is trying to say amidst the noise of the music playing.

I kept a list which was more of Larger than Large Black book where a woman's information such as her history, her vitals were kept. I was not much of a praying man at the time since I was Catholic but in the back of my mind there was always the IF someday I would get something from one of my partners. I essentially kept the womens contact information just in case i needed to refer back to them in the event there was a health issue. I have always been a private person so my idea was not to use the list of conquests for boasting. I really did enjoy the company of women and treating them well. Like a Man should treat a woman. I was surprised about that time when I met a woman that kept a similar list of the men in her life who she had sex with. It can work both ways.

In 1991, I accepted God's calling to Ministry were I am presently operating in the gifts that the Holy Spirit empowers me in but I use this old environment to speak and mentor other men with similar backgrounds. Testimony is a powerful word and to be used as a vessel to reach the lost and witness to the unsaved letting them know that there is an alternative to that lifestyle.

Be Blessed

Zach

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mysterymethod

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May 8, 2008, 3:59 pm PDT

Double Standard

Bashing Paul is completely irrational. He is doing nothing morally wrong. He isn't cheating on his wife or his girlfriend. He is living the single polyamory lifestyle and has developed some very good tactics for seducing women. Well guess what... Women seduce men ten times more often. Women have all these magazines like Cosmo and Vogue that give them advice on how to look super sexy so that guys will swarm to them. Guys like Paul are just trying to level the playing field.

The fact of the matter is that Women are almost always the SELECTORS when it comes to dating. It's up to them whether a romantic interaction happens. Women have been taught that they are the honey and men are the bee's. It can be very frustrating as a man when you continuosly fail to get involved in a romantic relationship even though you have tried all the polically correct nonsense that mom and dad taught you. Notice how I didn't say anything about sex. I am talking about a ROMANTIC relationship and not some friend that she cries too when her jerk boyfriend isn't treating her right. Men like to have sex early in the relationship because it's one of the best ways to get a girl to want us for a long term romantic relationship. Not all men just want casual sex but still perform these techniques that many of you say is "disrespectful to women" because it's an effective way to get women to really desire us romantically. It may sound messed up but hey... Life's not a romantic comedy.

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ritawt

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May 8, 2008, 4:09 pm PDT

re-title this show, "How to get an STD"

The Center for Disease Control statistics show:

Sexually Transmitted Diseases are increasing at a dramatic rate!

Gee, I wonder why?

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zondervanus

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May 8, 2008, 4:10 pm PDT

Headshots... usually means Drama and Complex

When the panel guest John made mention of a profile that had 4 headshots it clearly meanst generally that the woman has issues with her weight... I have been on the dating scene for a number of years.. and yes Pastors, preachers and ministers do go to online dating sites.. remember that we too are made of flesh and bone just like you.

Oftentimes, If i saw a profile that only had headshots... it had the tendency of being that a woman had issues with her weight...

A couple of years ago I met a woman on Christian Cafe... only met her online but not in person... The profile was nicely written... the weight description said: "That's personal" which raised a red flag .. but I looked at her photos and she looked fine.. some of them were blurry and when i asked her about the photos she simply told me that they were taken some 6 years ago. I replied with WOW.. that is not very honest... after which I would ask her to send me recent photos.. she would say that she didnt have a camera... then i said to send me some photos from her digital camera..

Guess what she sent.. a headshot !
She made a grave mistake.. it was a mirror shot and the mirror showed the reflection of her backside bouncing off the other hotel mirror. I got to see her backside and it was big... but i thought i would give her the benefit of the doubt.

When we finally agreed to meet I drove up to Orlando and i waited for her in my car outside a restaurant. When she finally got out of the car this girl was HUGE... Rosie ODonnel huge..

I went through with the date... and the following day until it was time for me to go home on Sunday for the 4 hour drive back home to Miami.

We talked once in that week and she asked me " Is there something wrong... ? Did my exterior shock you ? " What could I say at that point. ?

I had to be honest and told her exactly what i thought.. and went further to say that I thought it was dishonest of her to post photos of herself taken 6 years back. I also told her that she should practice being honest and that if she was to find love let it be the man that likes big women.

Isn't there someone for each one of us out there in the world.

Zach

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poets1heart

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May 8, 2008, 4:11 pm PDT

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In my opinion, these guys are so psychologically challenged. I think maybe you missed the point of having them on the show if you weren't going to get into why they would behave so archaically. I wanted you to tell them they have an addiction. I was waiting to hear you say they needed professional help. I've dated guys like that, and they all have serious inferiority issues with women. John was saying "as long as you're not hurting anyone...", but they don't realize that they very well may be hurting lots of women. They just don't care enough about them to stop.

I think the one they are hurting is themslves. These games will come back to haunt them one day. They will grow old and women will pity them. They will die alone and unloved. That is what their legacy will be. It is sad to live a life like this. To be remembered as a self absorbed person if you are remebered at all.

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ramair

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May 8, 2008, 4:40 pm PDT

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So, John automatically assumed that, because a woman, replying to his online personal ad, sent only head-shots, she was fat. Not necessarily so. While some fat woman might have thin faces, most don't. If she's fat, it will usually show in her face.

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lissann

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May 8, 2008, 8:31 pm PDT

At your request...

At the end of your show, you encouraged a responds.

My perspective is that the men featured on your show are cheating themselvesout of something greater in their lives. Hopping from one relationship toanother is a shallow experience that begins to blend and even, in some respect,become forgettable creating a need for a spreadsheet.

My advice to these men would be to challenge them beyond fishing in a streamthey have already gotten to know and to look deeper into their desires andexperience something in life that not only makes them grow as a person but alsobetters the one they are with.

These men will never make love in a way that married couples with years ofwell-traveled paths come together. It is something of a mystery, but somethingto treasure. A life with constant companions goes on the same path over and over,but a life with the one you choose to love is a path of adventure andcompleteness.

I share this with compassion for these men and so compelled as a Christian woman to share what they can still have if they choose. And I close with this note: God has made each of us unique. There is no manual that covers all women or men. What these men prey upon is our desire to love and be loved. That is universal and includes the men featured.

Thank you.

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tinam336

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May 8, 2008, 10:25 pm PDT

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Oh Good, I'm glad I was not the only one wondering why John thought he was all that. He must see someone totally different in the mirror then the person then we seen.

ha ha that is to funny. I was like Omg what is he thinking ? I literally got out of bed and logged back on to the internet just to post a blog. I haven't even got to the other guy yet. I still need to finish it thanks goodness for Tivo. I wonder if he reads these>>LOL

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