Topic : 07/22 Male Egos Out of Control

Attaching a syndrome to all sorts of bad behavior is almost like giving a ready-made handy excuse for a person to continue the behavior.  I too am tired of all the syndromizing.  Bad behavior is bad behavior!  Yes, there are the exceptions that are truly "syndromes" but these a few and far between.  I believe that these people certainly have the capability to make choices and they just happen to be making bad ones...that THEY are responsible for!!

what is he hiding?  Anyone that is that errogant & has to keep reminding people of what he has & how much he is worth is over compensating for something... Manhood I suspect....  His pose on his website is quite funny,,, Any man with any type of body can look that good, depending on the angle.. And the amount of weight he presses collectivly?  Oh please... the average  guy can do that... He is nothing special & he might want to think about some hair plugs with all the dough he is making!!!

well I have a thought on this subject I havent seen anyone else post........maybe dads arent teaching sons to respect women  and motheres arent teaching their daughters to respect men and neither are teaching self respect and respect for others.....if this is the next generation it truly saddens me

I watched this show and need to tell you, unfortunately, that men like these are a dime a dozen. I have discovered that men whose screen names say Handsome, Hunk, Hot are the opposite. It seems that many men overestimate themselves, and many women underestimate themselves. The man who wrote the book, "How To Get (Laid or Screwed or ****ed) In NY" is just a "Mystery" wanna be. I remember seeing Mystery's "reality" show, and your gues was a weak wanna be. He is slimy and disgusting. I hope he has safer sex so as not to spread it all over the place to unsuspecting women.

I do agree that the guy is a Mystery knock off. Guys like Mystery, Neil Strauss, and David DeAngelo are the top dogs of the seduction of the community. None the less Paul is using the same tactics used by these pickup artists which is why he is so successful at getting laid.

However people shouldn't be bashing on Paul for his actions. It's not like he's cheating on his wife or anything. He is just very successful at getting women to have casual sex with him. These women CHOOSE to have one night stands with him which makes them equally in the "wrong" (I don't consider one night stands wrong but many of the posters on here do). I think it's obvious that many young women fall for this type of behaviour yet they like to blame the men for their (the women's) poor decisions.

There is a saying that 20% of the men sleep with 80% of the women. You know what that means? That means 80% of men are actually nice guys that women say they want to date but in actuallity ignore because they are attracted to bad boys. The vast majority of young men have very little sex even though they desire it strongly. They may get lucky a couple times a year but nothing with any sort of consistancy. That means the minority of young men that do have a lot of sex make up for the majorities lack of sex. That minority of men are the badboys that that women say don't respect them yet they sleep with them anyway.

If young men want to have a fullfilling ROMANTIC relationship they need to quit being a nice guy and use the methods of the seduction community.

Although I find this kind of man highly irritating...I also feel sorry for them.

 

As long as they have this kind of attitude, and project this kind of behavior, they'll never attract a truly good woman.  They'll get the empty headed, shallow, money grubbing and easily swayed...but not one of substance.

 

Now that I've said that  ;-)  let me also say that the one guy looks like his mama doesn't feed him and the other one...hmmm...not attractive facially.

So I just watched this episode on my DVR and I am quite worried about this. I am also glad I am not in the dating scene anymore. The first guy I don't really understand who he thinks he is...he wasn't even attractive so he needs to stop bragging about himself (and tell the truth about his AGE!) . The 2nd guy definitely has a sexual addiction. He is creepy and is basically a sexual predator. Hopefully everyone watches Dr. Phil and he won't be adding to his long list. I wonder if something happened to him as a child? Maybe his mom left him or something so he feels the need to conquer every woman in sight???? He has to be a walking STD.

Don't you mean, "labido", not "labia"???? I sure hope so!

    Why is it ok for women to use men? Society not only approves of this, but it is the humorus punchline in endless jokes in sitcoms and dramas on tv. It's clear women only want  one thing from men.  What men can buy them! "I don't wan't no man unless he gots a J.O.B. ".  Women are just as bad if not worse than these men.  Women use sex to get what they want. These guys are just turning the tables on beautifull women that are used to getting what they want.
     I am divorced because my ex wife had nothing left to drain from me. I was sucked spiritually, intelectually, emotionally and financially dry by her. So, she moved on to find a nother poor sucker to vamp. All I see are zombie husbands and boyfriends all over, lumbering in that walk of shame and depression.  It's about time a few men are fighting back. I wish I could be more like the guys on this show. I wish I could objectify women like they objectify me. All I am to them is a bank account until they find out that I've been bled dry. Then they have no interest in getting to know me. Professional, strong, careing or not.  I want that pamplet that guy wrote so I can have a fighting chance.
     It's a war and men are losing. I'm tired of being used. Women just don't like it being thrown back into their faces. There isn't a woman alive that hasn't used sex to get what they want. Why shouldn't the tables finally be turned on them?
     This is not the rantings of an angry or bitter divorced guy that is looking for an audience to unload his anger. I've been over that years ago.  I have made a lot of observations for over 40 years and I think it's about time men finally stood up for themselves when dealing with women. I think it's finaly time that there is some equallity.
    I have learned love is a fantasy perpetuated buy women and inflicted on young boys to fool them into thinking that a woman could possibly care for them. They do this be sure our species continues.
    Men then grow up with this fantasy in their head and can't understand why women are just using them. Why what mom taught them just doesn't jell with the real world. They keep trying what good old mom put in their head about being a good guy, be respectful, be affectionate, be a provider, be understanding, be witty, be smart, be caring, and be the responsible bread winner. Then they learn that their wifes are sleeping around on them spending all their money on shoes (because who is going to get the thousands of dollars in shoes in the divorce? Well it isn't the men). 
    They learn that there are no women anywhere on the planet that will ever want them for who they are or what is in their soul. They learn that all they are to women is a shell of resources to be drained, licked clean and the withered husk thrown in the toilet.
    I say more power to these guys. If I were younger I'd try to join them. It's to late for me. All you young men out there, learn from these guys.  The only person that will watch out for you is you. It will never be a woman. Quit being that nice guy. Look where it got me. Don't end up like me, with a life time of regret for trying to be the best guy I could be. You will never find that fantasy of "Love" because it doesn't exist.
    If you are woman and you want to say how much you pitty me, and that I'm a sad little man. Or you want to question my masculinity or some other childish assinine attack. Give it a rest. Give me a intelegent argument or go say nothing. After all these year I finally figured it out and I want help break the cycle women using men in my own little way.


Thank you reading and I hope you have great day.

Confidence is an attractive trait but these guys are just far to over the top.

Paul claims he is good looking, works out, makes good money and lives in the best part of town. All this information tells me that Paul thinks very highly of him self. He isn't really that attractive. He claims to be a member of MENSA but doesn't seem to bright. An intelligent man would know that one does not advertise ones accomplishments like a used car. Paul's biggest issue is he lacks class. He can make all the money he wants to, he can't buy class. You either have it or you don't.

John and his book, "How to get ______ in NY City" is actually kind of funny. He seems intelligent and is definitely good looking but kind of lost. He keeps scoring because so many females are just dumb. The refuse to take responsibility for their actions and blame the guy for getting them in to bed. Sorry, the women are in control of sex. Unless it is rape, they decided to go along with it.

One person posted that women use men all the time and it is alright but when a man does it he is a horrible user. Sorry but I don't agree with this double standard. If a guy wants to be a player and the women are dumb enough to fall for it, then that is their problem.

The bottom line with these two guys is they are just two sad little boys seek attention. A real man with class knows how to treat a woman. A real women with class doesn't give into sex until she is truly ready.