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We've all got a mom, and they all come with different personalities, and in different shapes and sizes. While some are more traditional, like June Cleaver, others are controlling drama queens. First meet Jessica. She says that becoming a mom was one of the happiest moments in her life, but it has taken a huge toll on her marriage. She gained over 50 pounds having her children, and now her husband says she looks like the Pillsbury Doughboy. He even points to pigs and says to his kids, 'Look, there's Mommy.' What does Dr. Phil say this couple must do to restore their relationship? Next, Kathleen calls her mom, Grace, the biggest drama queen. She says she's so controlling, she will throw tantrums if things don’t go her way. Grace says she's just a concerned, caring mother who likes to state her opinion. Will Grace admit her behavior is over the top, and is she ready to make a change? Then, 14-year-old Sheri claims she has the most embarrassing mom in the world! She says her mom, Monique, will break into song and dance anywhere at anytime. But will she at the Dr. Phil show? And, you won't want to miss Robin's favorite Mother’s Day present ideas. Join the discussion.

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May 9, 2008, 4:25 pm PDT

Fat? You Bet!

I'm always surprised when these women 'boo-hoo' around about their weight gains.  Good grief!  I gained over 50 lbs... nursed for over a year... and 'regained' my figure as soon as I was allowed to exercise (C.Section). Jessica's just another fat lady trying to blame her fat on her babies!  Of course, hubby's a real jerk!  It may be no wonder she 'can't' lose the weight - who'd want to 'look good' for such a foul-mouthed, stupid individual?  I'm not saying that they have to remain idiots, they could both get a little class by learning to be civil, growing up, and taking responsibility for their OWN health, and lives!  Sadly, Dr. Phil appears to coddle these (types of) personalities.
 
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May 9, 2008, 4:36 pm PDT

Butt out, mommy!

I am SO-O glad I didn't butt into my kid's life!  I've never cared what they do, as long as they are happy.  Give advice? Of course!  Rule their careers? Never!  I think Grace is 'lucky' that her daughter even bothers to speak to her... at this point.  Mommy's attitude has NOTHING to do with 'love' - it's self-centeredness! True love would be nuturing, and NOT manipulative.
 
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May 9, 2008, 4:36 pm PDT

Most Excellent!

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I don't eat much at all!! And anyways since the show I have lost 20 lbs.

 

So proud of you!! Keep doing what you need to do in order to be healthy- physically, spiritually and emotionally. 

 
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May 9, 2008, 5:29 pm PDT

Kudos 'Oh Great One'

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I'm always surprised when these women 'boo-hoo' around about their weight gains.  Good grief!  I gained over 50 lbs... nursed for over a year... and 'regained' my figure as soon as I was allowed to exercise (C.Section). Jessica's just another fat lady trying to blame her fat on her babies!  Of course, hubby's a real jerk!  It may be no wonder she 'can't' lose the weight - who'd want to 'look good' for such a foul-mouthed, stupid individual?  I'm not saying that they have to remain idiots, they could both get a little class by learning to be civil, growing up, and taking responsibility for their OWN health, and lives!  Sadly, Dr. Phil appears to coddle these (types of) personalities.
Well, aren't you special!! If you had bother to read previous posts you would have known that Jessica has lost 20lbs since the show- with support and encouragement from the Dr Phil show. But wanted you to know that we (apologies for speaking for those that don't agree) are all equally THRILLED to hear that you didn't need that as you 'regained' your figure. Your compassion, sympathy and support are so overwhelming I almost felt my eyes stinging with tears.
 
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May 9, 2008, 5:38 pm PDT

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First off, I am not overweight so this is not written in self-defense.  It is true that a lot of men probably would not date a heavy woman. But, I personally know a lot of men who have dated , fallen in love with and married heavy women. My late FIL worshipped the ground my late MIL walked on and she was obese. He was not ashamed to be seen with her. He was, in fact, proud of the fine woman she was. I understand that we as human beings have varied, diverse tastes and preferences when it comes to dating and marriage. But there is no excuse for rudeness and abusive treatment. When 2 people marry, there is no guarantee that they will remain the same as when they say "I do". And there are a lot of things that can happen to people besides gaining weight. I'm sure men prefer women with 2 breasts, but sometimes cancer strikes. A REAL man loves his wife no matter what, and so does a REAL woman love her husband no matter what. I have been married for 34 years this month and my husband has never called me a bad name and I have never called him a bad name. That doesn't mean things have always gone smoothly, but we have respected each other. I do means "I WILL".

Yeah, I wasn't saying anything different than what you've said in your response. What I was commenting on was simply that in general, men seem to be waaayyyyy more concerned about the weight of the opposite sex than women are.

 
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May 9, 2008, 5:49 pm PDT

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I am a mama myself, I have a 4 year old and one in on the way, It took me 2 years to get back to my pre-prego weight but I did it!  I had to change some clothing like couldn't wear certain cuts but could wear the size.  I understand her husband about her not trying to lose the weight, I know people who have had kids back to back and some work at losing the weight and others, sorry like Jessica, are too busy making excuses as to why they won't try to lose the weight.  I am sure that if Jessica even was attempting to improve herself her husband would be a little bit nicer, but he probably watches her eat things that are unhealthy and it pisses him off.  There is no reason Jessica cannot join a gym or one of the stay at home mom stroller clubs to help get in shape.  She will always have some stomach damage just a fact of pregnancy and C-sections but she needs to start watching what she eats an try to attempt to get healthy for herself and her family. 
THanks but I had tried to lose weight I went to the gym and worked out and Ido eat healthy but nothing would work. Finally with Dr Phil's help and his book and a trainner I have lost 20 lbs and he is still an asshole so trying to lose weight doesn't change anything. But thanks for your input.
 
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May 9, 2008, 5:53 pm PDT

mama drama

I really don't know how other people feel, but I was in tears over the story about Jessica.  All I wanted to do was give her a big hug.  What a beautiful girl.
 
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May 9, 2008, 5:54 pm PDT

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I'm always surprised when these women 'boo-hoo' around about their weight gains.  Good grief!  I gained over 50 lbs... nursed for over a year... and 'regained' my figure as soon as I was allowed to exercise (C.Section). Jessica's just another fat lady trying to blame her fat on her babies!  Of course, hubby's a real jerk!  It may be no wonder she 'can't' lose the weight - who'd want to 'look good' for such a foul-mouthed, stupid individual?  I'm not saying that they have to remain idiots, they could both get a little class by learning to be civil, growing up, and taking responsibility for their OWN health, and lives!  Sadly, Dr. Phil appears to coddle these (types of) personalities.

She's not boo-hooing! I did not detect "woe is me" at all. I had a C Section myself, and have been quite big. Now I am not. Whether fat or thin, my husband would never have dared to speak to me with such disgusting filthy insults. SHE doesn't NEED a little class, in fact, she seems to have entirely too much of it by tolerating the abuse so graciously. HOW could you say those things and still expect her to spread her legs happily for you, you twit. Because I certainly wouldn't.

That being said, I don't like when a woman uses kids as an excuse to turn into sexless, mom-jeans-wearing wife, thereby depriving her husband of a satisfying sex life. But this wasn't the situation here. She was still a relatively new mom, and we women just need time to lose it. If my own husband was indeed ever not attracted to me while fat, he at least never let me know it. But having such a sorry excuse for a "loving" husband...I'm surprised she didn't slit her wrists from the despair! Oh, but then he'd probably be absolutely mortified that she went to the morgue all fat and such, thus reflecting badly on him. Oh, and her picture in the newspaper would be a FAT picture, the horrors. (A little black humour, sorry if it offends, but you see the ridiculousness of his "tactic" and how cruel it is?!)
 
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May 9, 2008, 7:03 pm PDT

Jessica, I'm deeply sorry.

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THanks but I had tried to lose weight I went to the gym and worked out and Ido eat healthy but nothing would work. Finally with Dr Phil's help and his book and a trainner I have lost 20 lbs and he is still an asshole so trying to lose weight doesn't change anything. But thanks for your input.

Jessica, I'm deeply sorry that your husband is a difficult bully.

 

In the field  its called abuse,  emotional and verbal abuse.

 

I didn't think his actions, his choices and behavior towards you was anything but.

 

I had deep concern that this 'weight issue' of his was not the only area he justified his abusive behavior.

 

And the way he used the kids and involved them, against you.  I'm so sorry.

 

I applaud you for your weight loss, because this is what you want ...  I'm sure you're working hard at it.  Do it for yourself as its what YOU want, do it for your health.

 

Please , sweet gal , do NOT allow your husband 's abuse to drag you down or prevent you from taking good care of YOU. 

 

YOU can't change him, NOTHING you do will ever change him.

 

HE NEEDS TO MAKE CHANGES IN HIS BEHAVIOR AND CHOICES.  Most abusers, don't. Sorry to say.

 

I do hope when you do a follow-up with Dr. Phil....or as you work with Dr. Phil.......I do hope you bring up his continuance of the abuse.

 

Is Dr. Phil....providing a counselor for you, so as to get " a spine implant "  so you can stand up to any and all of this nonsense? 

 

There was certainly more than a weight issue happening here.

 

Did you know that love is not about hurt?

 

Your husband has  lots of homework to do...on himself.

 

You stay strong.

 

 

 

Take care.

 

 

 

 
 
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May 9, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

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Well, aren't you special!! If you had bother to read previous posts you would have known that Jessica has lost 20lbs since the show- with support and encouragement from the Dr Phil show. But wanted you to know that we (apologies for speaking for those that don't agree) are all equally THRILLED to hear that you didn't need that as you 'regained' your figure. Your compassion, sympathy and support are so overwhelming I almost felt my eyes stinging with tears.
HAHAAHHA....(have you heard of a "note of sarcasm?.....I hear a symphony!) Love your post! 
 
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