Topic : 05/09 Mama Drama

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Created on : Friday, May 02, 2008, 01:33:02 pm
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We've all got a mom, and they all come with different personalities, and in different shapes and sizes. While some are more traditional, like June Cleaver, others are controlling drama queens. First meet Jessica. She says that becoming a mom was one of the happiest moments in her life, but it has taken a huge toll on her marriage. She gained over 50 pounds having her children, and now her husband says she looks like the Pillsbury Doughboy. He even points to pigs and says to his kids, 'Look, there's Mommy.' What does Dr. Phil say this couple must do to restore their relationship? Next, Kathleen calls her mom, Grace, the biggest drama queen. She says she's so controlling, she will throw tantrums if things don’t go her way. Grace says she's just a concerned, caring mother who likes to state her opinion. Will Grace admit her behavior is over the top, and is she ready to make a change? Then, 14-year-old Sheri claims she has the most embarrassing mom in the world! She says her mom, Monique, will break into song and dance anywhere at anytime. But will she at the Dr. Phil show? And, you won't want to miss Robin's favorite Mother’s Day present ideas. Join the discussion.

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May 9, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

Jared, I think you forgot to put the LOW in front of the CLASS, when you speak of yourself....

 
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May 9, 2008, 7:26 pm PDT

Mother's Day......

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The saddest day for me is mother's day.   I hear all these stories about how "wonderful" mothers are and I don't have one of those.   I haven't spoken to my mother in 4 years.   I'm 59 and she's 82.   When I told her I was pregnant (at 35 after 10 years of marriage) her response "I'm too old to be a grandmother, why didn't you have a baby 5 years ago when I wanted you to have one".   In the hospital while in labor, the doc said I'd have to have a C-section and I was scared.   My husband called my parents to tell them and hope they'd  come to the hospital.   Instead my mother said they were going on a bus trip to Atlantic City and they'd call from there to see if everything turned out OK.   Years later she told me she wasn't going to give up her "day off from work" to come to the hospital.   At my father's wake 4 years ago I noticed a poster near his coffin with family pictures.   There was NO picture of me.   There was a picture of my father holding a fish, but no picture of his only daughter.   That started a huge fight in the funeral home.   My brother was there with his fiance (who she refused to meet) and my mother turned around and called her a Whore!!   My brother has not spoken to her since then either.   All my life she treated me like dirt.   I've always wondered what I ever did to deserve such treatment.   She should never have had children.  I would have been better off not being born instead of being so emotionally screwed up. 

First of all, YOU ARE NOT DIRT!!

 

Unfortunately, not every woman who pops out a baby has the right to be called Mother.

That title is reserved for those of us who treasured each of our beautiful babies with whom we were blessed.........no matter how rough the road was.

 

I have three wonderful children who show me every day how much they love me.....because from the time they were born, up until this very moment, I have showed THEM how much I love them!  It's a lifelong process.

 

I am so sorry your mother......let me call her an "egg donor".......has given you so much grief...but, please..accept that this woman is mentally ill, and know that it's not your fault.

 

Surround yourself with those who DO love you.....and let the bad times go.

One day, your mother will have to answer to God for her failures.

 
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May 9, 2008, 7:39 pm PDT

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Congratulations on your weight loss...i know how challenging it can be even to loose just a few pounds...

I am glad to see you are following through with the effort to loose...in the long run it will make you feel better emotionally and physically...i was concerned with your reasoning as to why you thought you were fat...i think you should not bother wondering why or who to blame but just move on and be proud of the fact that you are now doing something about it...

 

I would hope that you do not take the abuse and name calling that your husbands dishes out...making you feel worthless isn't really helping the problem...i don' t doubt that you love him but i am not sure how you can love someone that isn't very nice to you...i would hope that the two of you are getting counselling..

 

TAKE CARE...MELISSA FROM CANADA

 
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May 9, 2008, 7:50 pm PDT

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Bottom line, men don't want to be seen with a fat wife or girlfriend. Most of them know better than to admit it, but it is the truth. I think they think it's a direct reflection of their manhood to the world. If a fat chick is "all they can get", then they feel that they're seen as a deficient man. It makes them feel like they will lose status. Not just a few insecure, weak men but really, just about all men. How many discussions have we heard where heavy women looking for men are advised on their self-esteem, their approach, blah blah blah, but nobody is allowed to say the truth, the men don't go any further when they see fat. I wouldn't care all that much if my husband was fat, but men are different. They just don't say it to women because they know they'll be considered shallow and cruel. But it is what pretty much all of them think.

First of all, you are being way too presumptuous when you assume that "it is what pretty much all of them think".

You are wrong.

 

Secondly, any man who judges a woman on her appearance without taking the time to get to know her is most likely lacking in some other aspects of his OWN personality and attributes....like behind the zippered denim, for instance.

 

Think about it... 

 
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May 9, 2008, 7:53 pm PDT

whoopy to you

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I'm always surprised when these women 'boo-hoo' around about their weight gains.  Good grief!  I gained over 50 lbs... nursed for over a year... and 'regained' my figure as soon as I was allowed to exercise (C.Section). Jessica's just another fat lady trying to blame her fat on her babies!  Of course, hubby's a real jerk!  It may be no wonder she 'can't' lose the weight - who'd want to 'look good' for such a foul-mouthed, stupid individual?  I'm not saying that they have to remain idiots, they could both get a little class by learning to be civil, growing up, and taking responsibility for their OWN health, and lives!  Sadly, Dr. Phil appears to coddle these (types of) personalities.
i am so glad you decided to write and let us all know how angry and bitter you are....even after losing your weight, it apparently had no effect on your happiness what so ever. thanks for absolutly no insight, and you apparenlty watched the wrong channel because i've never seen dr.phil coddle. he's a straight shooter.
 
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May 9, 2008, 8:09 pm PDT

mommas

Hey everyone i have soon to be mother in law that takes care of her mom all by her self and even now when she in a home she there everyday and not any of her sister go to see her or help her with anything and its so hard on her she not young really she in her early 5os and it sad that sisters cant help taking care of there own mom . I have and ex mother in law that takes care of my son everyday like he hers and he loves her so very much and she takes care of everyone but never has time for her self just like my soon to be mother in law these to moms never have time to do anything for them selfs. God bless moms that take care of eveyone i jsut wish i could do something for both so they have time for only them self.
So happy mothers Day to all mothers.
 
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May 9, 2008, 8:13 pm PDT

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Congratulations on your weight loss...i know how challenging it can be even to loose just a few pounds...

I am glad to see you are following through with the effort to loose...in the long run it will make you feel better emotionally and physically...i was concerned with your reasoning as to why you thought you were fat...i think you should not bother wondering why or who to blame but just move on and be proud of the fact that you are now doing something about it...

 

I would hope that you do not take the abuse and name calling that your husbands dishes out...making you feel worthless isn't really helping the problem...i don' t doubt that you love him but i am not sure how you can love someone that isn't very nice to you...i would hope that the two of you are getting counselling..

 

TAKE CARE...MELISSA FROM CANADA

What could he possibly be giving her to make her love him?? Even any kind words he uttered  would carry the stench of his previous insults. He couldn't possibly be giving her a satisfying, loving sex life, with all the degrading comments about her poor body....if my husband spoke of me that way I think I'd never sleep with him again. It must make her feel so used...she knows that he thinks she is "disgusting" (which she isn't!) but I guess he occasionally deigns to sleep with her just to get off or something.

It is amazing that strangers like us are thinking such loving, affirming things about her and her own husband won't.

And, one more thing: as a woman with a small chest, having "big cannons" isn't necessarily an insult, luv. :)

 
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May 9, 2008, 8:13 pm PDT

LOVE

I have been overweight for most of my life, I have had 2 kids with a c-section, and many other operations that have made me not look as I onced did. However with everything my husband has been wounderful and let me know he loves me no matter what and always let me know that I was and will alwas be the most sexyest and beautiful woman to him. I can't even begin to tell you how great that has been. I have made changes in my life for me and he is alwas behind me. No one needs to be with someone that can't love them for who they are. If they don't treat you very well, kick them to the curb with all the weight they find such a problem, and give them a pain for all the pain they have caused you. You are wonderful!!
 
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May 9, 2008, 8:17 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

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First of all, you are being way too presumptuous when you assume that "it is what pretty much all of them think".

You are wrong.

 

Secondly, any man who judges a woman on her appearance without taking the time to get to know her is most likely lacking in some other aspects of his OWN personality and attributes....like behind the zippered denim, for instance.

 

Think about it... 

I'm not presumptious, and my statement isn't about what you think men should think, it's about what I think they do think. I didn't say it was right, I just said it was so. Whether you like it or not, or know it or not, doesn't change a thing.

 
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May 9, 2008, 8:33 pm PDT

Mother's Day

I'm writing to ask about the Mother's Day gifts. I'm not sure if its here or another link but, I have two daughters 20 and 22. They feel really bad that they are broke and cannot afford to get me a present. They will not ask their Dad.. If you choose me to receive those gifts then maybe they will not feel so bad. You see, all three of us are in school and that is why we are so low on funds. My daughters are really great girls, smart, beautiful and I do not want them to feel this bad. Thanks for the opportunity and Happy Mother's Day to Robin.

Sincerely,

Sherri(saralee16)

 

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