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Created on : Friday, May 02, 2008, 01:33:02 pm

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We've all got a mom, and they all come with different personalities, and in different shapes and sizes. While some are more traditional, like June Cleaver, others are controlling drama queens. First meet Jessica. She says that becoming a mom was one of the happiest moments in her life, but it has taken a huge toll on her marriage. She gained over 50 pounds having her children, and now her husband says she looks like the Pillsbury Doughboy. He even points to pigs and says to his kids, 'Look, there's Mommy.' What does Dr. Phil say this couple must do to restore their relationship? Next, Kathleen calls her mom, Grace, the biggest drama queen. She says she's so controlling, she will throw tantrums if things don’t go her way. Grace says she's just a concerned, caring mother who likes to state her opinion. Will Grace admit her behavior is over the top, and is she ready to make a change? Then, 14-year-old Sheri claims she has the most embarrassing mom in the world! She says her mom, Monique, will break into song and dance anywhere at anytime. But will she at the Dr. Phil show? And, you won't want to miss Robin's favorite Mother’s Day present ideas. Join the discussion.

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docwriter

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May 9, 2008, 4:36 pm PDT

Butt out, mommy!

I am SO-O glad I didn't butt into my kid's life! I've never cared what they do, as long as they are happy. Give advice? Of course! Rule their careers? Never! I think Grace is 'lucky' that her daughter even bothers to speak to her... at this point. Mommy's attitude has NOTHING to do with 'love' - it's self-centeredness! True love would be nuturing, and NOT manipulative.

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feistyd

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May 9, 2008, 4:36 pm PDT

Most Excellent!

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I don't eat much at all!! And anyways since the show I have lost 20 lbs.

So proud of you!! Keep doing what you need to do in order to be healthy- physically, spiritually and emotionally.

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feistyd

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May 9, 2008, 5:29 pm PDT

Kudos 'Oh Great One'

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I'm always surprised when these women 'boo-hoo' around about their weight gains. Good grief! I gained over 50 lbs... nursed for over a year... and 'regained' my figure as soon as I was allowed to exercise (C.Section). Jessica's just another fat lady trying to blame her fat on her babies! Of course, hubby's a real jerk! It may be no wonder she 'can't' lose the weight - who'd want to 'look good' for such a foul-mouthed, stupid individual? I'm not saying that they have to remain idiots, they could both get a little class by learning to be civil, growing up, and taking responsibility for their OWN health, and lives! Sadly, Dr. Phil appears to coddle these (types of) personalities.

Well, aren't you special!! If you had bother to read previous posts you would have known that Jessica has lost 20lbs since the show- with support and encouragement from the Dr Phil show. But wanted you to know that we (apologies for speaking for those that don't agree) are all equally THRILLED to hear that you didn't need that as you 'regained' your figure. Your compassion, sympathy and support are so overwhelming I almost felt my eyes stinging with tears.

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hulagirl1

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May 9, 2008, 5:38 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

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First off, I am not overweight so this is not written in self-defense. It is true that a lot of men probably would not date a heavy woman. But, I personally know a lot of men who have dated , fallen in love with and married heavy women. My late FIL worshipped the ground my late MIL walked on and she was obese. He was not ashamed to be seen with her. He was, in fact, proud of the fine woman she was. I understand that we as human beings have varied, diverse tastes and preferences when it comes to dating and marriage. But there is no excuse for rudeness and abusive treatment. When 2 people marry, there is no guarantee that they will remain the same as when they say "I do". And there are a lot of things that can happen to people besides gaining weight. I'm sure men prefer women with 2 breasts, but sometimes cancer strikes. A REAL man loves his wife no matter what, and so does a REAL woman love her husband no matter what. I have been married for 34 years this month and my husband has never called me a bad name and I have never called him a bad name. That doesn't mean things have always gone smoothly, but we have respected each other. I do means "I WILL".

Yeah, I wasn't saying anything different than what you've said in your response. What I was commenting on was simply that in general, men seem to be waaayyyyy more concerned about the weight of the opposite sex than women are.

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thimblekat

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May 9, 2008, 5:53 pm PDT

mama drama

I really don't know how other people feel, but I was in tears over the story about Jessica. All I wanted to do was give her a big hug. What a beautiful girl.

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May 9, 2008, 5:54 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

She's not boo-hooing! I did not detect "woe is me" at all. I had a C Section myself, and have been quite big. Now I am not. Whether fat or thin, my husband would never have dared to speak to me with such disgusting filthy insults. SHE doesn't NEED a little class, in fact, she seems to have entirely too much of it by tolerating the abuse so graciously. HOW could you say those things and still expect her to spread her legs happily for you, you twit. Because I certainly wouldn't.

That being said, I don't like when a woman uses kids as an excuse to turn into sexless, mom-jeans-wearing wife, thereby depriving her husband of a satisfying sex life. But this wasn't the situation here. She was still a relatively new mom, and we women just need time to lose it. If my own husband was indeed ever not attracted to me while fat, he at least never let me know it. But having such a sorry excuse for a "loving" husband...I'm surprised she didn't slit her wrists from the despair! Oh, but then he'd probably be absolutely mortified that she went to the morgue all fat and such, thus reflecting badly on him. Oh, and her picture in the newspaper would be a FAT picture, the horrors. (A little black humour, sorry if it offends, but you see the ridiculousness of his "tactic" and how cruel it is?!)

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cndrlla

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May 9, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

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Well, aren't you special!! If you had bother to read previous posts you would have known that Jessica has lost 20lbs since the show- with support and encouragement from the Dr Phil show. But wanted you to know that we (apologies for speaking for those that don't agree) are all equally THRILLED to hear that you didn't need that as you 'regained' your figure. Your compassion, sympathy and support are so overwhelming I almost felt my eyes stinging with tears.

HAHAAHHA....(have you heard of a "note of sarcasm?.....I hear a symphony!) Love your post!

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getrealtime

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May 9, 2008, 7:06 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

Jared, I think you forgot to put the LOW in front of the CLASS, when you speak of yourself....

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cndrlla

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May 9, 2008, 7:26 pm PDT

Mother's Day......

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The saddest day for me is mother's day. I hear all these stories about how "wonderful" mothers are and I don't have one of those. I haven't spoken to my mother in 4 years. I'm 59 and she's 82. When I told her I was pregnant (at 35 after 10 years of marriage) her response "I'm too old to be a grandmother, why didn't you have a baby 5 years ago when I wanted you to have one". In the hospital while in labor, the doc said I'd have to have a C-section and I was scared. My husband called my parents to tell them and hope they'd come to the hospital. Instead my mother said they were going on a bus trip to Atlantic City and they'd call from there to see if everything turned out OK. Years later she told me she wasn't going to give up her "day off from work" to come to the hospital. At my father's wake 4 years ago I noticed a poster near his coffin with family pictures. There was NO picture of me. There was a picture of my father holding a fish, but no picture of his only daughter. That started a huge fight in the funeral home. My brother was there with his fiance (who she refused to meet) and my mother turned around and called her a Whore!! My brother has not spoken to her since then either. All my life she treated me like dirt. I've always wondered what I ever did to deserve such treatment. She should never have had children. I would have been better off not being born instead of being so emotionally screwed up.

First of all, YOU ARE NOT DIRT!!

Unfortunately, not every woman who pops out a baby has the right to be called Mother.

That title is reserved for those of us who treasured each of our beautiful babies with whom we were blessed.........no matter how rough the road was.

I have three wonderful children who show me every day how much they love me.....because from the time they were born, up until this very moment, I have showed THEM how much I love them! It's a lifelong process.

I am so sorry your mother......let me call her an "egg donor".......has given you so much grief...but, please..accept that this woman is mentally ill, and know that it's not your fault.

Surround yourself with those who DO love you.....and let the bad times go.

One day, your mother will have to answer to God for her failures.

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missiej

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May 9, 2008, 7:39 pm PDT

05/09 Mama Drama

Congratulations on your weight loss...i know how challenging it can be even to loose just a few pounds...

I am glad to see you are following through with the effort to loose...in the long run it will make you feel better emotionally and physically...i was concerned with your reasoning as to why you thought you were fat...i think you should not bother wondering why or who to blame but just move on and be proud of the fact that you are now doing something about it...

I would hope that you do not take the abuse and name calling that your husbands dishes out...making you feel worthless isn't really helping the problem...i don' t doubt that you love him but i am not sure how you can love someone that isn't very nice to you...i would hope that the two of you are getting counselling..

TAKE CARE...MELISSA FROM CANADA

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