Quote From: pjlm818 So, this is where it ends? You don't reach out to your husband's family? You don't try to be the hero and make things right? You and your "friends" and all the other, poor pitiful in-laws have a pity party on this board? You all have the same problem so you become your own misguided and wrong support group?
What a tragedy. Dr. Phil was wasting his time after all. I don't care about you, and I don't care about your husband, but your son deserves a relationship with his paternal grandparents. I bet if you reached out to your father- and mother-in-law and invited them to, say, a birthday party for your son or just a little picnic for him. If you make the relationship about your son and let go anything you think is "negative" then this trouble could be greatly healed. Then also, with the positive relationship with the parents, your husband's sibs would come around. I mean, they aren't perfect - they have made a lot of mistakes. But you are also keeping the flame of hatred fanned. I hope you really stop this and reconsider your very bad behavior here.
Sorry to be harsh, but I'm deeply disappointed that the last comments have all been bent on continuing the feud. Again, I wish you all well.
My sister-in-law is a walking disease. She never married, yet is still a very beautiful woman...on the outside. While my Mother-in-law was alive, I had her to every family event...she was my husband's mother, and my childrens' grandmother. However, she was not "allowed" to go anywhere without the demon daughter.
Once my Mother-in-law passed away, I cut down the invitations. Why? Because my sister-in-law insulted me, every guest in my home with her pretty poison...it really was offensive. The next to last straw was her absence at the Memorial Services of Both my parents...they died four months apart...I am an only child...while I was supportive of her when her Mother passed, she acted as if a goldfish was flushed down the toilet when it came time to respect my parents.
One last time...I invited her out to dinner with my husband (her brother), my son, my daughter and her date. My daughter is dating a pre-med young man, who is of Spanish decent...he has a name. My sister in law who is Italian, repeatedly called him PEDRO, during the entire night, knowing full well that is NOT his name. He was uncomfortable, my daughter was devastated, my son said "NEVER AGAIN", and my husband just said to me that I'd never learn.
I learned! NO ONE SHOULD BE SUBJECTED TO THE VENIM OF PEOPLE LIKE THAT! DNA means nothing. There are people who desreve to be alone...my sister-in-law is one of them. This is one rift that cannot be healed, and I only wish I had quit trying years ago....would have saved PEDRO from the evening from hell, along with her other "victims".
I am not having a "pity party", I just refuse to enable this totally disgusting behavior to exist around my family. I will never hurt her by spreading rumors, or by stooping to her level. To me, she is dead..my husband and children feel the same. Sometimes you cannot fix the problem or the person. The wisdom is in knowing when you cannot.
(Original Air Date: 05/12/08) They say when you marry, you marry the whole family. But what happens when a member of your new extended family is the source of chaos and pain? Five relatives claim their sister-in-law, Kelly, is toxic. They say she spreads gossip, sends stalking e-mails and acts self-centered and psychotic. Kelly’s father-in-law, Austin, calls her The Destroyer and says she’s hell-bent on ruining the relationship between his sons, Tim and Greg, and her husband, Bill. Kelly believes she’s being unfairly targeted because she showed up in court as a witness for Greg’s ex-wife. The outspoken sister-in-law may have ruffled some feathers, but is she the only one at fault? Find out why her friend, Jennifer, feels Kelly is getting a bad rap. Join the discussion.
