Topic : 08/06 Nuptial Nightmares

What this society lacks is EMPATHY pure and simple. 

  The fact of the matter is that I just read more than 2 dozen disaster stories from YOU POSTERS.  You didn't have to tell them, but you did.  

 It's alright for you to do it?

You guys could have all gotten married on your front lawns, in blue jeans, with Twinkies for wedding cakes, but you didn't.

If you think Amy is the problem, check out the next National Geographic special on tv.  Then maybe you can see what a big deal a wedding is in those cyclone and earthquake torn areas that YOU probably hadn't even heard of before 3 weeks ago.

By the way, it is pronounced ME- an- mar.

Weddings are big deals everywhere.  

For the reasons I posted I'm not very empathetic to her wedding misery or her so called curse in her life. Read my post called"Amy belongs in brat camp" and maybe you will understand my point of view. Personally I think her husband had a blast and I think she should have just relaxed, had fun and figured she would have a very funny story to tell her kids and grandkids in the future. Sometimes you just have to laugh when things go so wrong. I don't mean wrong like the second couple, I really feel sorry for them, but she could have salvaged her day if she would have danced with her husband and had a good time anyway. By the way, I bake wedding cakes on the side at home, I'm disabled so I can't work, and you HAVE to take into consideration the weather when it comes to the cake. If it's really hot and humid it should stay in the fridge until it's time to cut. She should have known that just as you said.

   Look, let's face it , there is always someone in the crowd, who's glass is half empty and they are the victim.  This young woman gets a payoff for her many disappointments, and her family and friends tip-toe around  trying to take her seriously. 

   I'm so grateful that (except for one family member, there is always one) my family and friends wouldn't want to waste the good times on that kind of behavior.  We celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, the 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, etc... with the understanding we are doing the best we can for and by each other. It's damn good.

    Which brings me to a television program about out of control brides.  This program exposes women planning their wedding which is "all about them."  They are the most vulgar, insipid and selfish individuals.  I am always amazed that when they finally get to the ceremony, after these women have kicked, insulted, over spent, over-indulged themselves at everyones expense, there are only 10 to 15 people in attendance. I've wondered how much they were paid to show up.

   But I need to get back on track.  I suppose if her wedding was a legitimate train wreck I'd have sympathy.  It just seems to me, she's making every milestone event in her life a predictable train wreck.

    Oh well.... 

'Sounds to me like too much emphasis on the "event" rather than the marriage. My husband and I were married 38  years ago and it rained all day. Get real! The bad weather had no bearing on the success or failure of our marriage. Young people today seem so spoiled and used to having Mommy or Daddy make everything "perfect" throughout their lives, that they have often  not had to face a disappointment or a challenge.

PS:  The idea of young people having "trial marriages" etc. is disturbing to me. If both parties don't go into a marriage with commitment and the determination to work through problems and issues, it's doomed from the beginning.