Topic : 08/06 Nuptial Nightmares

Apparently  I'm a couple months late on this topic but this show aired today & I happen to be home to see it. 

I wish I could explain my wedding disaster here but there's not enough space to do so.  I wouldnt believe it if I hadnt lived it so I know you wont. But it's a true story.  I really thought about calling Oprah to tell her about it for she was doing shows on wedding disasters & I KNEW she would be interested in mine!  She was giving new honeymoons to those who had a wedding/honeymoon disaster & I didnt want to seem like I was trying to get something for free (my "Momma" didnt raise me that way LOL)  It's a southern thing. 

 

Anyway, after my whole wedding went south...my marriage has been blessed.  Again, I wish I could explain all my marriage blessings but, again theres not enough space.

 

My point to those with wedding disasters (my thoughts are with those who were injured during one of these disasters - I'll say a prayer for you) forget about the bad stuff & focus on the marriage.  I look at it this way:  One day I'll have a really funny story to tell my grandchildren! 

 

My husband & I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary in May.

 Dr Phil, Her payoff is that she is hoping you will give her a new wedding-- FREE!!  This little princess need to get over it.  She is a spoiled BRAT.  All these girls do this so they can get a free Something from you.  Come on!!!!

If only I had the "problems" the first guest had.  In the two months before our wedding, my siser was hopitalized wih a life threatening illness, and was supposed to be hspitalized the morning of our wedding,  my infant nephew died and my husband's brother died.  She had her loved ones there, and that should be what matters.

I totally agree with you.  Too many people put more thought into this one day and don't plan at all for the lives they are planning to share together.  How absolutely stupid!

The first girl needs to get a life! So it rained and God forbid...the preacher "talked too long!" I'm sorry her dress and makeup were ruined and that the cake fell apart, but.....life goes on! She seems like a "princess-type" who thinks the world revolves around her. At least no one was injured like the second couple. Ugh, women like this drive me nuts.

Let me just say that the first "fairy tale princess" on your show that cannot even watch her wedding video just made my blood pressure boil!!!!  And then when I watched her tell her "life story" about all of the "trauma" in her life, I really got frustrated.  I cannot believe that a person gets up in the morning with these issues being the biggest problems of her life.  As I say in my profile, I have just been blessed with a perfect and beautiful little girl after being told for years that I could never have children.  I have had a great career, a great family and a very happy life bar a marriage that ended in a bad divorce.  Yes, there have been some valleys and struggles, but....I could still go back in my mind and watch the vidoes of my life and smile because we were all blessed with health and happiness.  When my daughter was four weeks old, my father collapsed unexpectedly and was diagnosed with terminal cancer.  Again, we are a VERY CLOSE family.  He lived 26 days and died telling us how much he loved us and would miss us.  Now, I dont know if the princess bride has ever lost a parent or anybody she loves, but......I REALLY DONT FEEL LIKE A FEW LITTLE DRAMATIC THINGS IN HER LIFE THAT HURT HER FEELINGS MAKE FOR A REASON TO WANT TO GET ON PUBLIC TELEVISION AND WHINE ABOUT IT.  Give the woman a taste of reality.  I really feel sorry for the groom (and Dr. Phil) for having to listen to the story and deal with her!!  Get a real life Alice in Wonderland!  Some people amaze me as to how they prioritze their "problems".  God help her if anything bad ever happens.  I hope Dr. Phil is silll around to get her through those times ~ if she could even survive "real" trauma.

Deserve each other - they're both narcissists.  I don't understand why this is on the air - very shallow.

As a newly married for the first time "40-year old Bride & Grom" I will tell you this! I wanted the perfect wedding, but MY perfect wedding was that everyone that we love and that love us could be there and that we would have a lovely ceremony and party afterwards that would let EVERYONE know how much we love them....and each other!

Our wedding was in Vail. It snowed like CRAZY (which we loved)...we were married OUTSIDE (which we loved) and people were snowed in and couldn't get back to Denver (Which was fine with them!)

A disaster? Not in the least. Did things go wrong? Yes...don't they always? Did we care? Nope. We laugh at all of those things today, and they were the fun moments that we wouldn't give up for ANYTHING.

My "diagnosis"? Maturity!!
Life is too short.

As many others have said...
The MARRIAGE is so much more important than the ceremony/reception. Respect, loyalty, laughter, honesty, and a FABULOUS sense of humor is the key to a WONDERFUL marriage. We may be old, but we sure did it right!

EVERY day should be a Celebration....and it is!

That first bride is the nightmare.   I understand wanting to have a nice wedding day, but get out of the shallow end and get over it already.  Focus on what is important - the marriage, not the wedding.  Because frankly her wedding was a disappointment (not a disaster) in part because she is a lousy planner.  Why on earth would she plan an outdoor event in July in an area that gets so hot?  And rainy?  Without a weather backup?  And then put food out  in the heat?  You always, always, always have a weather backup for any outdoor event.  Because bad weather can come up even in the most perfect climates.  How do I know?  I'm an event planner. You always have a contingency plan, and you triple check everything to try to minimize the chance that something major will go wrong. 

 

But you know what?  Something, or several things, major or minor, will go wrong every time.  Someone will let you down, the rain will fall, and the wind will blow. There is just no such thing as "perfect", not in people and not in weddings.  You do your best, but you cannot control everything.   And as long as no one is hurt , you roll with it, move on with Plan B, and try not to be so self absorbed.  Because it is NOT all about you.  It's not about your childhood fantasies, or cake, or the perfect dress, or any of the other bits of fluff that the wedding industry has convinced you that you are entitled to.  Those things are nice to have if it works out and there is nothing wrong with wanting to have those things.   But ultimately they don't mean much.  What's important is your union with your husband, and, if you are lucky enough to have them around, sharing your commitment with your families.  Anything else is gravy.

 

(by the way, much sympathy to the couple involved in the deck collapse - that really is a nightmare and I wish the best to any that were hurt)

Your wedding story will last for generation.  How many times have you watched wedding videos that are all alike.  Yours made me laugh, not at you, but because at my age (61) I have seen many marriages fall apart.  Think about how you want to share this wonderful event with your grandchildren someday. You don't want them to think you regret it.  Let them know you had a blast.