Topic : 08/06 Nuptial Nightmares

 My parents had a excellent wedding on July 17, 1982. A cupole of years before I was born. The only bad thing that happened was that both of they family showed up... Ha ha ha....

I once thought I was cursed when things didn't go right in my life just like all the things the 1st girl on the show talked about. Just like her, I was a whiner and complainer and had no idea how lucky I really was. Unfortunately, I found out the hard way how to appreciate what really matters in life. In the last month of my life, my 34 yr old sister in law died, my mother died (both unexpectedly) and my husband and I separated. I am now a single mom raising 3 kids and mourning 2 people at the same time. I would give anything to be able to think that the drama of a nuptial nightmare was something to get upset about.

The guest who grumbled that she did not have her whole family photographed hit home for me.  She needs to put things in perspective.

 

Sept. 9, 2007, my brother was married.  I'm more like a mother to him, so understand this was a very important day for our family.  As things were winding down, the photographer was getting ready to leave.  I asked her to take a family picture before she left.  Since I have a large family and we were all there, (miraculous!) I very much wanted that picture.

 

Less than one month later, I was contacting that photographer asking her to rush print a copy of that photograph so I could have it framed in time to display at my son's funeral.  Yes, that picture is the last I have of my 17-year-old son, who died suddenly on Oct. 2, 2007.

 

I am blessed to have one last picture of my family, including my son who is now gone.  I am grateful for that photo, but would much rather have my son.  This young bride still has her family to pose for pictures at future events.  She needs to put things into perspective.

O.K. so I am about 5 minutes onto the show, when I just can't take anymore of this crap. She wants to talk about things going wrong? How about your groom being late for your weeding, your hair falling b4 any pictures were taken, ur dress being way too big, ur wedding party all wearing the wrong thing, ur rings being forgotten, ur father almost taking u out when he trips taking u up the aisle, saying "awfully wedded husband" instead of "lawfully weddied husband" in front of ev1, ur pictures ruined by a huge branch hanging in ev1's faces, ur pictures being taken in a place u didn't want b/c noone wanted to make a 10 minute drive to a nice location, ur dinner consisting of cold cuts b/c noone was willing to make a simple dinner, u going to the liquar store in ur wedding dress b/c someone forgot most of the alcohol, no car to drive in b/c noone wanted to decorate one, no music at ur reception b/c noone remembered to make sure it was there, no video of ur wedding b/c someone forgot to charge the camcorder, no decorations at ur reception b/c noone remembered to do it, a sister who causes a scene and tears off in her car b/c she thinks ur having sex with her husband at ur own reception, a groom who gets so drunk he pees on ur lazy boy then passes out with his pants around his knees at the bottom of ur stairs, a cake that melts and doesn't get cut until the next day b/c ur too busy dealing with drama caused by ur sister, no gifts from anyone b/c they just couldn't  be bothered, shooing ur now abandonded brother in law out the door at 7am b/c he wont stop hitting on ur new husband's aunt, finally crawling into bed just to discover ur sleeping in about 4 boxes of rice krispies. That's a bit more of a problem then rain and wind. But I don't look back on my day as a disaster, I look back and laugh...alot, at how unwonderful the day was. Too me what isn't important is a day of frills and gimicks, what's important is growing old with the wonderful man I married on such a strange, backwards day.A marriage doesn't begin and end with the wedding, a wedding is just the stepping stone to a new way of life.

What this society lacks is EMPATHY pure and simple. 

 

  The fact of the matter is that I just read more than 2 dozen disaster stories from YOU POSTERS.  You didn't have to tell them, but you did.  

 

 It's alright for you to do it?

 

You guys could have all gotten married on your front lawns, in blue jeans, with Twinkies for wedding cakes, but you didn't.

 

If you think Amy is the problem, check out the next National Geographic special on tv.  Then maybe you can see what a big deal a wedding is in those cyclone and earthquake torn areas that YOU probably hadn't even heard of before 3 weeks ago.

 

By the way, it is pronounced ME- an- mar.

 

Weddings are big deals everywhere.  

I was one of those typical girls wanting the whole package, a real Cinderella story. Let's just say my fairy Godmother must have only been in her apprenticeship or maybe the wand was just broke. Maybe my expectations were set too high & I looked for every available excuse not to get married. Finally 9 months pregnant with my 4th child we did it on the spur of the moment. We had our usual Christmas Eve celebration with our closest friends and family with a twist. We got married in front of the Christmas tree by my husbands first wife. (lol) My only regret is that none of the photos came out right. Either demon red eye, blur, or my mouth was full of food or wide open. (story of my life)

 

I had come to the realization of what was important. I am his wife & he is my husband. A big expensive one day blow out wasn't gonna make it better. We are making many days and years of happy memories and although not a Cinderella wedding, our wedding day is still a happy memory.

 

Thankful in Florida

 

 

topic 1:        I am amazed that Dr Phil never asked WHY any of the guests that fell off the balcony when it crashed has any financial problems due to this.  there should have been a HUGE payout to all of the guests involved,  the owners of the hotel/lodge HAD to of been sued. so this topic is not one this couple has to whine about.  yes, on the fact if someone has a limp or scars.

 

 

and  most important topic:      what are we doing to our little girls that make them all think that they are princesses? why didnt Dr Phil address THIS issue. giving these whiney little girls time and on TV for such trivial matters is insulting to the rest of the population. the LOOK AT ME disease strikes again.

 

just think if they (and all the others that are spending thousands on weddings) gave $$ to a needy family somewhere here in the USA that needs a helping hand up  how satisfied they would still be feeling today! instead of empty.    a few thousand to a family that just cant come up with first last and security deposit, paying for a montly cleaning lady for an elderly neighbor for a year, paying for their yard to be mowed, planting flowers for them, giving $$ to the local shelters so they can SPAY the feral animals, giving $$ to the local meals on wheels program, the local library on wheels, giving $$ to the local schools for the needy school lunch program.  there are lots of better ways to spend these thousands.  AND you will reap the wonderful feeling for LIFE.

 

and do i dare say to spend the day volunteering after a quick trip to the court house! 

 

we really need to change the way we as americans waste money.  but first we have to deal with the LOOK AT ME disease!

 

just my thoughts

 

--Gem

 

 

I never dreamed about my wedding when I was a little girl.  I dreamed about what I was going to be when I grew up.  I'm sure there were "girly girls" out there who spent their time dreaming about their wedding, but quite frankly, those kind of girls bored me to tears when I was a kid. The girls I hung out with had much bigger plans for themselves than that, and it just didn't register on the radar when we "dreamed" about our future.  Oh well.  To each his own, I guess. :o)

To Amyy...get over yourself. Nobody else cares what happened on your wedding day and more than likely doesn't even remember it.
Amy ou need to educate yourself about people in this world who have REAL problems, like the 100,000+ women in Africa who suffer with fistulas (holes in their bladder or rectum from childbirth problems). These women live with urine and/or feces streaming down their legs because they have HOLES in their bodies.
Or how about people born with physical or mental defects? They face challenges every day just to live their lives.
I'm so sick of 20-something whiny, spoiled, stupid (mostly) women who don't have a clue about difficulties in life are really like. GROW UP. And good luck to your poor husband.

The first guest on the show, really had a lot of minor complaints compared to the second couple.  They really had a nuptial nightmare.  I hope that she will count her blessings that even though things didn't quite go how she had planned, that at least no one nearly died at her wedding.