Topic : 08/06 Nuptial Nightmares

Apologies.  I should not have brought up this issue under this topic.  I was just sitting listening to the first girl and it made me so angry that she actually thought her wedding was bad because her cake fell, hair fell!  My issue is a whole other topic and i  need to put it in the proper place, I just get so p.o'd when people whine over stupid things (that to me seem stupid anyway)  Blessings to all.  Incidently, my wedding ended up being wonderful!  It was the marriage that sucked    lol

the sad thing is that Hillary Clinton has made me aware of how desperatly some women still need husbands to get anywhere.....

My husband and I have been togeather for 15 years,and happily married for 12 years. We were so poor when we got togeather,we were in tax bracket of poverty. I really didn't need a wedding,but I thought my husband deserved it because he had never been married. We got married at the local court house. I had gold jewlery that I had a local store melt to make our wedding bands.We still have yet to go on any kind of romantic vacation /honeymoon,but we are happy when we are togeather. We have shared the same drinking cup since we have been togeather.2005 we were planning to have a small church wedding for our aniversary in 2006.The first of feb. 05,he was diagnosed with an agressive throat cancer.All of our plans were dropped,not just because of finances,but because he was so tierd physicaly and the state of mind from the effects of the treatments and monster itself.I have been beside myself for the last two years trying to become the bread winner,so that my husband could stop working because of his physical trama of the massive surgerys he had to endur and effects of radiation and chemo. I ended up with back injuries,and out of work,since 2007. I think the couples whom are just upset because it didin't go perfectly,need to get over it,someone else has had it worse.I get through life with this thought in my mind. Enjoy each other instead of wasting good energy on somthing that you can't change.Life is way to short!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 This is for the "Drama Queen" who said that her wedding was ruined.

Well at least you had a wedding.  I had dreams of a beautiful wedding when I got engaged but I was told the wedding could not happen.....Why you may ask?   My parents COULDN'T AFFORD IT.  I had to get married by a judge and then it was just my normal routine. 

Be grateful that you had a wedding....Some of us here never had one and we turned out fine....

You seem to know the true values of life.
Be happy and stay the way you are as you seem to be a truly genuine person !!

Take care. Lady Tinou.

Please stop taking for granted how wonderful your life is.  You think your high school experience was cursed?  Try being a new girl in a rich neighborhood, shunned, abused, and humiliated daily by nearly every person in the school to the point that you purposely miss your senior prom, Miss Homecoming Queen.  How about not meeting a great guy and getting married AT ALL?  Or just that you're ALIVE.  My parents recently learned about their best friends (a couple) -- the man has suddenly, out of the blue, ONE year to live due to cancer.  When you have gone through something like this, THEN you can use the word "cursed".  On the show, I heard a different word in my mind while listening to you:  SPOILED.

 all your points are well-taken. but people can start out with a well-planned marriage and then, evnetually things change, needs change, they grow apart, etc. you can't really "plan" the wholemarriage b/c you can't see the fututre.much easier to plan a single event.

also,speaking of divorce.. i hate to say it, but often the wedding album and the video far outlast the marriage. sometimes those memories are the only good thing left behindwhen the marriage is over.

that being said,i think people should take a lighthearted attitude toward their weddings and laugh off anything that goes wrong. a sudden storm, a toppled cake, it's all part of their own unique "story." the pictures from such a wedding might be seen as interesting -- even fun -- not "ruined" by such mishaps.

What an immature young woman! By the way she acts she is too young to get married in the first place. She thinks she is cursed? I can tell her about being cursed! I've had to go through the truly hard things in life beginning in my teens. She is upset that her sweet 16 party wasn't perfect? I had to bury my Dad on my 19th birthday. He died suddenly from a massive heart attack at the age of 47 on New Years Eve. Who do you think had the worst b-day? I have to remember his passing every New Years and b-day. My husband lost his son on my sisters b-day and was buried on Valentines Day. Every year when the Valentine decorations go up in the stores I wince because I hate for my husband to have to see them. My other sister was extremely close to my grandmother, we all were but she was closer, and my grandma passed away on her b-day. Let's see, I was slipped something in my coke when I was 15 and raped while unconscious, I was a virgin, that has haunted me for many years. When I was 20 I lived in Palm Springs and went through an attempted kidnapping and assault with a deadly weapon. The man was caught and I found out that he had planned to rape and kill me. I was truly blessed that I got away with the help of a car passing by in the parking lot. My husband and I were in a car accident that almost killed us when we were t-boned on a back road in the middle of nowhere and it took quite awhile for medical help to arrive. I have had 3 back surgeries, the last one to correct the massive mistakes inflicted upon me by a surgeon who got her license on the home shopping network, after the 3rd surgery I was in critical condition and in ICU for 4 days. Let me tell you, it's instinct when you know your body is trying to shut down, you do know that you are dying. It's hard to explain, I guess you just have to go through it. I had to have blood transfusions for 2 days. After the hack doctor from the first 2 ops was through with me I was left with kidneys that have been in renal failure ever since. I kept trying to tell her that I hadn't peed in a month, not 1 drop and I was HUGE and she just ignored me and said that it was normal. After 30 days I could no longer breathe and called an ambulance to take me to the hospital. They gave me lasik ( I don't know how it's spelled) and I dropped about 30 pounds in 2 hours. If I hadn't gone to the hospital when I did I would have been dead by morning. All of my medical costs have taken quite a financial toll. also, my husband had to have his hip replaced about 2 years ago, went through MRSA for over a year, and has lost the feeling in his feet because he's diabetic and his feet were run over by a forklift on the job. He didn't get any kind of financial settlement for that either. When it come down to our wedding, well, we were married in the court house. My husband had to take the afternoon off to do it and be back at work at 7am the next morning. We never had a honeymoon. We've still never had a honeymoon. Returning to my back, I am now disabled and have to live with severe chronic pain every day of my life. There is so much more to tell about the things that have gone wrong in my and our lives but I don't dwell on them. Also I don't want to subject you readers to a novel of depression. I do want to finish this by stating that of course I would like for some things to be different but if I had the option to go back and marry someone else and change my future That I would scream out a resounding "NO"! My marriage and my husband is beautiful. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. It just sickens me to hear some whiny little immature chick moan about her trials and tribulations in life. It seems that she married a nice guy who made lemonade out of lemons and just went with the flow. If I was her I would laugh when I looked back at our marriage and think (boy, that's something to tell our grandchildren someday) and take it in stride. If she can't handle the tiny, minuscule things that have brought her so much torment then how will she ever handle the real hardships in life when they do happen? And for sure, they will happen. She needs to get over it and count her blessings. Amy, get a life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is the deal with you guys? Do you just like to argue for the sake of it? Of course we are not talking about them because there is nothing to talk about. Believe me if the show was about cheating, on either side, I would have plenty to say. I DO NOT support cheating whether it's the woman or the man. Cheating is wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe you just didn't watch the whole show? Whatever, get your facts straight. By the way, I think this is another perfect example of you whiny men bashing women because you have some deep dark need to do so. Please, for all of our sakes, get a life!