Topic : 05/20 The Dr. Phil House: Brat Camp

 This could be interesting I remember the preview the kid slapping his mother "Be quiet, I am speaking ", my first thought and I'm not kidding, " They wouldn't find the body ", then after the knee jerk, I thought, hmm how did the kid get this way in the first place. Now I'm sure we'll hear ADHD be brought up (raised two boys with this disorder, and nope, ADHD is NOT synomous with this type of behavior ).
Is Mom parenting out of guilt ? Or has the boy never LEARNED no hitting, or that kind of backtalk ? How have the adults in his life modeled appropriate behavior, are they the parents who go into a store or retaurant bully the staff, yell at service personel for no other reason than they KNOW that service provider has no recourse or they lose their job ?  Are these the parents that SCREAM at a teacher because the teacher had the NERVE to fail their precious child ?
More seriously, has he learned from the male role models in his life, that this is the way we treat women, or anyone who has the NERVE to not "Toe the Line ", so to speak, and is Mom too tired or too much of a wimp to be the parent he NEEDS, if he needs counselling, then you take him.
How much good are these camps really, if there is nothing in place to change the home environment for these kids to come home to.
I am also tired of these parents that allow their kids to run wild then scream foul when their kids become unruly teens, then instead of being parents, we just send them away and let someone else fix them.

when i saw the preview of the brat boy hitting his mom and telling her he's talking burnt me up. If it had been my son he'd gotten the spanking and grounding of a lifetime. if that don't work then i'd send him to juvy for a while.

This is going to be a great show!  Now we can finally see some of those Family First techniques everyone has been raving about.  Thank you Dr. Phil team!

You first thought was funny.  I think we all have been there, but never would we actually do it.

Hi Everyone!

I have a 10 yr old grandson that is a full blown brat.The doctor of course says attention deficit disorder,BUT I believe its bad parenting,now his mom was disciplined by us.She says if she spanks him he just laughs,you say take away his psp,xbox,guitar hero,ps3,dirt bike well she does,but then he keeps whineing so she gives in within hours.This same kid gives a kiss my butt look if you try to discipline him.This same child failed 5th grade last yr,made straight f's this year <too lazy>yet he's still free to spend the night with friends,go skateing etc.And because of the wonderful no child left behind law,he will be pushed through to 6th grade,makes sense right?...not!He didnt understand the work for 2 years,but hey lets move him to the next grade.So basically by the time its time to graduate he wont be any smarter!And previous post from other members are correct,every parent is afraid to discipline because their afraid they will go to jail <preety sad> I was spanked+not lightly&guess what I am a good person,have NEVER been to jail+have never done drugs,so I think that parents should be able to discipline,I am not saying abuse,I am just saying give parents their right to discipline their kids,notice how much different kids are since parents cant discipline them.Teen pregnancys are up,kids useing drugs are up,crime etc.Other problem is including my daughter's is,they want to be their kids friend,they dont want their kids to hate them,give me a break,like I said I was spanked&disciplined+I absolutely love my parents!To all of you with brat kids,grandkids etc I wish you well!

WHAT?  The missionary meeting is at the other end of the hall!!  If you want to comment, stay on point and don't proselytize, please. 

dr phil im so glad u are dealing with brat kids we need more of this on hear & u show i hope u  can have alot more dealing with brats kids i love u show .candlelite

When my children were youngsters (now they are in their 20s), I only worked part-time. I got elected onto the School Governing Board of 2 of the 3 schools they attended and although this volountary work was adding to my 'burden' it was so worth it. Any problems I had with my children, e.g. mixing with the wrong crowd, not submitting their homework in time, were discussed with the staff and they also would tell me immediateley of any problems and they were addressed at the time and sorted out. There was a great partnership between the school and home and I'm sure both I and my husband had the same problems bringing up our kids as everyone else and made mistakes along the way but our kids always knew we were passionatley interested in all that went on in their lives and when they mis-behaved at school we knew and when we felt wrong decisions were being made we could discuss this with the school.

As I was part of 'The Board' the staff knew they had to keep an eye out for my kids and play by the rules.

You have to invest a lot of time in your children which is difficult and costly but neglected children are the ones who will cause lots of problems which will be more difficult to deal with and cost much more both financially and emotionally. 

 

Therefore I encourage all to become active in your child's school life, make the teachers your allies. If you can get eleced to the school board do, it makes life so much easier bringing up your children.

 

As an aside when my eldest was a teenager I used to despair of how to find a punishment when she stepped out of line. The most effective one was humiliation. She loved being part of the cool set and I had a very old car which was the uncoolest car to own, a Skoda, which in the States you won't have heard of. It was made in Eastern Europe and was the ugliest car ever made. My girl did something one day and I punished her by driving her up to the front door of the school in front of all her friends and dropped her off. She was so ashamed that whenever she back chatted or swore etc. I would remind her that if she didn't stop then I would take her to school in my car again. Result!

 

She is now in her mid 20s and I couldn't be more proud of her or her sibling.