Topic : Back to get it right and need help/support

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Created on : Tuesday, July 15, 2008, 01:06:59 am
Author : suujoy

I was here in 2004/2005 and dropped the weight, changed my life around, and lived the keys.

 

That was until having surgeries last year when I allowed myself to drift back to using food as my pain medication while recuperating.

 

I put on 9kg (20 pounds) and I'm now 'doing the book' again.  I've lost 3 of those kgs and I've begun to get real all over again.

 

Anyone want and need support while we continue our journey into weight loss freedom?

 

Suu - 53 - New South Wales, Australia



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July 16, 2008, 2:16 am PDT

It's time to get real

P.20 As I lay in bed last night I made the decision to not wait another day to delve into the keys so I said out loud that I would start immediately. At 10pm I committed my time, energy, and all that stuff to the keys.

P.28 My optimum weight is 120lbs but I'm going for 139lbs (63kg) to suit my lifestyle, genetics, and doability. I am 152lbs (69kg) now.

P.33 With specificity, what I hope to achieve:
I will get my waist-to-hip ratio under .80. I will get to be 139lbs (63kg).
I want to be able to buy clothes from any shop. I want to want to shop. I want to smile at myself when I see my reflection.
I want to be free from overeating and free from dieting.

To do this:
I won't buy junk food. I will cook from scratch. I will walk daily. I will read the entire book without skimming the pages and will do all of the audits.
I will not wear baggy clothes.
I will not allow negativity from others get to me.

P.36
Measurable goals:
I will lose 13lbs (6kg) in the next 7 weeks (1st September '08).
This equals 1.8lb (0.85kg) per week.

P.37
Timeline:
Mon 14 - 152.1lbs (69kg)
Mon 21 - 149.8lbs (68.1)
Mon 28 - 148lbs (67.25)
Mon 4 - 146.2lbs (66.4)
Mon 11 - 144.4lbs (65.55)
Mon 18 - 142.6lbs (64.7)
Mon 25 - 140.8lbs (63.85kg)

Mon 1st - 139lbs (63kg)

P.38
Steps:

I will turn my smile upwards.
I will use the keys.
I will move daily.
I will not eat processed sugars.
I will not eat white flour from now on unless it's a special birthday celebration ;D.

P.39
Create Accountability:
Dolly, Kathleen, Leigh, Mick and myself. (In alphabetical order ;))

p.41
Readiness Profile:
The time is now!

Be - Do - Have
 
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July 17, 2008, 4:08 am PDT

Key 2 - always something to learn

I finished reading key 2 again and still I have something to learn. ;D

The "Are you an emotional eater?" audit score was 42 - I filled it out according to whenever my father shows up.

"Stress Audit" - Ticked 7, 10, 14, 20 = 215

Page 90: 4th paragraph: my thoughts have become habitual. To change this and the outcome all I need to do is tap into it, slow my thinking process down, and follow the next lot of steps.

I will begin by not trying so hard to protect the people around me. I will work on my own reactions and take deep breaths when I find myself in the situation where my heartbeat starts to accelerate.

I will begin by not trying so hard to protect the people around me. - re-reading this made a bolt of electricity go off! I've been trying to protect the Grots and my sons from my father instead of hardening my own outer shell. I have no power over other people, or what they say, or what they do.

Forgive and forget? I choose to forgive myself for allowing this to happen time and again.
I choose to forgive my father for whatever he has said to me, and in front of me, in the past.
I forgive him for his warped brain and sexual inuendos.

MER: I will not allow him to finish a sentence when it is derogatory no matter where we are (in public or private). I will remain calm and I will not react other than to speak calmly.
If he is speaking in a sexual way about any female I will stop him and tell him that it's not appropriate to say those things.

When the repercussions from this happen I will take it as it is, and that's to remember that I at least stopped him from making unsavoury remarks. His retaliations will not hurt me.

I will no longer need to reach for food to medicate my emotions.

 
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July 18, 2008, 5:32 pm PDT

Key 3 and it's unlocked!

While the audit on page 109 was excellent, I managed to still score with number 13 - do specific people trigger me to eat? Yes, they do and they don't even have to be here! >:( An overall good score though.

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External cues that trigger the hunger pangs are:
sight of cake
aroma of hot bread
sitting doing nothing
the dining table (of all things ;D)

Ahhhhhhhhhhh, yes! I finally read it properly!! Programming means for life. Not just until I think it's all right to allow those foods to come back into the house.

Over the past couple of years I've kept saying to Mick that it's all right to start buying biscuits and other crap for him/Grots/family because I'm not going to touch them because I've changed my habits. How the heck was I supposed to stay fit and healthy if I was going to let the things that I was most prone to, to come back?

P.117 says it right at the top of the page. - The best and most effective way to deal with cues (to eat) is to wipe them from your environment or lessen your exposure to them.

STEP ONE: Mick's white bread is gone (when I ran out of wholemeal I gutsed (is that a word? >:() on his white. Out go the Atkins low carb/low calorie bars because they are simply a substitute for chocolate.

STEP TWO: I'm not going to put my fruit in a bowl on the table any more because I've been eating too much of it. Especially the grapes!

STEP THREE: I've generally shopped to a list since 2004 so that's a good ingrained trait that I have. ;D

STEP FOUR: My main problem has been that we've started going to the club where it's an all-you-can-eat type of deal and while I choose pretty carefully I know that I salivate over the cake and dessert bar and that sets a chain reaction inside me where the insulin bucks up a treat and I begin to actually put on weight without eating any of it. Sheesh.


The strategy is to either not go there any more or at least write out what I'm going to eat, and how much of it, before I go.

STEP FIVE: My closet has not had any fat clothes in it since 2004.
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July 20, 2008, 4:33 pm PDT

Monday weigh-in

Last week: 69kg
This week: 68kg
Loss: 1kg
Remaining: 5kg

??? ??? ???

On track for the time of my life again!

 
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July 27, 2008, 1:02 am PDT

Key 4 is going to be a blockbuster

This is another key that I've allowed to fall into the abyss.

But no longer! ;D

Even in the first page of this key I realized that I have been lacking a big thing called discipline.

Yes, I said again, that I have been choosing what to put into my mouth and also how much exercise I do so I have always been the one in control of the consequences.

 

I'm going to be in control once more seeing I got a score of -3 in the Behavioural Audit.  The last time I took this audit I got a score of 6!  Now I'll be aiming for that again.

 

The behaviours I have to replace are:

2. Eating dessert even when not really hungry

5. Taking my time to eat properly

6. As I said before - I've been using low-carb treats as a replacement for chocolate

14. When I'm tired I've been snacking

Some of the other questions were b's and I only got one 'a' so I have a fair bit of work to do.

 

P.132 I like the idea of  enjoying the consequences of my new behaviours.

 

I've been overdoing it because of the following -

Pleasure (mainly)

Irrational Rewards

The Appeal of Immediate versus Delayed Gratification

 

I'm about to go onto New Ways to Cope on page 139 and iwll report what I find.

 

It's never too late to get it.  I am soooooooooooooooooooooo lucky to be able to get my favourite book out and learn new things that will only enhance my life.

 
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July 28, 2008, 1:30 am PDT

Key 4 continued

From page 139 onwards.....

Replace the negative coping mechanism with more positive, constructive tools that will generate the same payoffs.

A big payoff that I've been getting is the gratification from the taste of food so it should be a good time to get stuck into this part of this key.

The incompatible behaviours I've chosen to do are:
Walk - anywhere. Treadmill, outside, around the house.
Pick a flower and put it in a vase.
Take 3 humongous breaths.
Take Ariel for a walk.

I have to consistantly do these habits and I don't have to like them (he says I'll buck at the changes at first), I just have to do them. HAVE TO do them. Not maybe do them - HAVE TO do them. I just have to get through those few minutes over a whole day and make new habits.

If I audit my day it seems to be after I've sat and eaten that I want more. I need to slow my eating down, eat at the kichen table (I'll put the heater on out there), and put utensils down between bites.

When I go out for a meal it will need to be somewhere different to the buffet that Mick likes so much. He was pretty darn good at seeing me have a problem with it a while back so it means talking. Just as well I love talking to him ay? ;)

If I go to where we usually shop then I know that the routine calls for - coffee and food. Swapping that behaviour will be a little hard due to Mick wanting to do it as much as I do. It is absolutely doable though. We just have to think about it. ;D

Up to page 151 and will read that on the treadmill tomorrow morning.

 
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July 29, 2008, 3:18 am PDT

Key 4 cont.

P. 151
With the new and improved look at this key I am already beginning the changes so that I eat less, salivate less, and want less food.

p.151

Yes, he's right about the short-term payoffs I've been getting from eating when the urge hits. I thought about it for awhile and found that I was heading for an all out binge-fest if I kept going.

I've typed out the affirmation at the bottom of this page and will read it every Monday after weighing in. After weigh-in seems to be a time when I mostly think about getting stuck into unhealthy eating (rewarding).

P.153
I still find the paragraph at the end of this page the most inspiring to me.
People around me know it - that I truly did make it glaringly obvious that I meant business by them seeing the changes as they happened.
I have people who see me walking every day and ask me why I'm still doing it. I tell them it's a lifestyle for me as much at eating is. >:(

Well, that another key read. I've learned a heck of a lot all over again.

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July 30, 2008, 3:13 am PDT

I'm on my way back!

Who cares about weighing-in when size matters!?!?!?!?! ???

I went shopping today and was going to buy a size 12(AU) pair of jeans and ended up trying on size 10(AU)!! 

(I think a size 10 Australian is equal to a size 6 American)

 

I did it! ??? ??? ??? I got into the jeans of my dreams >:( >:( >:(

 
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August 1, 2008, 5:38 pm PDT

Back to get it right and need help/support

I have glaucoma. I was going to text you but that seemed even more informal than right here.

I thought I needed new glasses so went off to my optomestrist (on Thursday evening) and he puffed some air onto my eyeballs among other 'normal' things. He got very stern and told me that I had to see a specialist right away and so I got to see a wonderful doctor (yesterday) who told me the news. Left eye is much worse than the right but it's in both eyes. I also have cataracts forming in both (cloudy lens').
I am the luckiest person on this planet! ???

Because the optometrist did the test, I am now confident that I should retain my sight. Catching this so soon was the difference between seeing and not. So I am grateful and lucky and feel like I've been blessed.

AND I get to have new glasses that have purple frames (because eyesight is weak)!

The treatment has already started with drops in the eyes at night and I have laser treatment in 3 weeks. The cataracts get dealt with when they get bad enough.

I'm not going to sit here and tell you that I wasn't scared, that I didn't emotionally eat, or that I didn't get gut-aches over it because that would be lying. But I can tell you that I didn't cry. ;D

 

Key 1 and Key 4 are inside my head thank goodness.

 

Back on Monday to finish off Key 5.


 
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August 2, 2008, 9:48 am PDT

SUU

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I have glaucoma. I was going to text you but that seemed even more informal than right here.

I thought I needed new glasses so went off to my optomestrist (on Thursday evening) and he puffed some air onto my eyeballs among other 'normal' things. He got very stern and told me that I had to see a specialist right away and so I got to see a wonderful doctor (yesterday) who told me the news. Left eye is much worse than the right but it's in both eyes. I also have cataracts forming in both (cloudy lens').
I am the luckiest person on this planet! ???

Because the optometrist did the test, I am now confident that I should retain my sight. Catching this so soon was the difference between seeing and not. So I am grateful and lucky and feel like I've been blessed.

AND I get to have new glasses that have purple frames (because eyesight is weak)!

The treatment has already started with drops in the eyes at night and I have laser treatment in 3 weeks. The cataracts get dealt with when they get bad enough.

I'm not going to sit here and tell you that I wasn't scared, that I didn't emotionally eat, or that I didn't get gut-aches over it because that would be lying. But I can tell you that I didn't cry. ;D

 

Key 1 and Key 4 are inside my head thank goodness.

 

Back on Monday to finish off Key 5.


SUU - Had a difficult time finding you.   I put in all that you told me to do but Dr. Phil's site came back and said that they could find no such board.    Then I finally clicked on to "find posts by this person" (or something like that) in your Profile and through that I found the site "Back to get it right and need help/support".

 

I saw a gorgeous before and after picture of you.    You must be so proud of yourself.    You look fantastic.   

 

I also have glaucoma in my right eye and I am having laser treatment this Friday, August 8th.   It is a very simple and easy procedure, according to the specialist.    They have to dialate your eye so it is good to take someone with you so they can drive home.   We will have to compare notes.     My doctor said that there is a possible chance after laser that I won't have to use the drops......but time will tell.

 

Hugs,

Shirley

 

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