I was excited to see today on Dr. Phil. All the talk about siblings. I even giggled a bit when the twins called themselves good and evil twin. As that's how my sister and I sign things to eachother. We are 5 years apart. Though Many think we're twins or I'm the older sister. I love my sister very much, and no matter what the problems she's put me though...and she has. I always remembered all you have in life in the end are eachother. No one can understand the situations of our family other than her. No one can remember and understand the pain and loss of our Papa, other than my sister. They are fighting over trivial things. I understand frustration. My sister ran away at the age of 17, I was 12. I was left to grow up them. Be the adult in our family. I was lucky to have my Papa and Grandma to help. She was gone. She ran away becasue of drugs. Before that, she was the hero of the town, all the teachers knew her and loved her, prefect grades. We moved and I was given a chance and to not live in her shadow. She called us, I took off of school to go with my mother to see my sister, in Austin Texas. Which meant even picking her up from her work, not exactly in the safest place at 4am, while we were there. My mother fully furnished her apartment. And bought her a used car. My sister eventually returned home, with her boyfriend. They ended up moving in with us. No clue what happened to the furniture I can only assume now it was used to buy drugs. Them moving in with us I was a freshman in high School. I awoke one night to her boyfriend snapping my boxershorts and rubbing my back, he was high. I tried to confront my sister about it but she didn't believe me. I got a lock on my door, and waited until the danger was gone. It was a confrontation between my mother and sister. I was led to be a "drug dog" as my mother called me as I searched the basement for anything that looked like it could be used for drugs. My sister went to a drug detox place. Some type of house. My mother and I drove to visit her. We also after she finished that program drove her to NA and AA meetings I was brought along to wait in the car. She seemed to clean up. Joined the Navy. My mother has a room dedicated to her accomplishments. I graduated from High School, the first of us. Both my mother and sister got their GED's. It's a small shelf hidden in the office. She did have problems in the Navy, they included several DUI'S. I can't remember how many calls we got that she was in prison for the night. Eventually she had her license revoked. She still hasn't gotten it back and isnt' driving which is probally best. This was after she was out of the Navy. She lived in Colorado with her husband. Where he would call us about the problems with her. Not knowing where she was, her disappearing while he was at work. He was an ex marien working as a military contractor. A good guy, who she used. My mother wasted a lot of money on the wedding which, was what I said a waste. She lived with us after that, because things weren't working in Colorado. I was going to college full time at this point. I was also working and trying to do an internship. I was left to drive her around and take off of my classes to get her to her counseling, her dui classes, her college testing. I took my time off because I had to. I also would get calls that she had walked to a bar and was drunk. While I was at college in play rehearsal and would have to go get her and take care of her. I've always been the one to take care of my family. After my Papa died, I took care of my grandmother learning to check her blood pressure during High School everyday. To missing out on a meeting personal one on one time with a playwrite because I had to rush my grandmother to the er because she was having nosebleeds and my mother worked full time. She still does. I love my sister very much, I just feel it's her turn. I need the freedom she's had. It's her turn. I've still rushed up when she moved out and we roamed the city she was living in searching for her, she was in her bed drunk. My sister and mother fought, almost physical if I hadn't stepped in the way and stopped it. I've graduated from College now. My sister did too at the same time. Both have bachlors. Except mines in Theater my passion. Where my sister is in education. She's persuing a masters and working two jobs, which keeps her busy. Because if she had time she would be drunk. (She doesn't do well with free time) She teaches at a community college and is a pharmacy tech. She's getting a master and then to persue a docotorate in Pharmacy. I just graduated and am trying for a job in acting. An impossible field to break into in the midwest. I'm also working my job as a lighting techinician. I've been harped by my mother everyday. She doesn't believe what I'm going after (my mothers a nurse, well she workes in charge of care management) Because my background isn't scientific I don't get the support. I've been here for my family and my mother. I pay my bills (my sister does "favors" and doesn't pay her) Yet I get pestered to pay. When I do and on time. I do live at home (which doesn't help my situation, I'm trying to gather money it's all been spent on supplies and trying to persue my passion) So I may move out. Though while home, I clean, care for my grandmother, her animal, my aunt and uncles animals and house when they are gone. I also cook. I love my sister. Very much. I understand how different we are, being the "good twin" that I am. I still love her and understand our differences but she's still my sister. Through it all no one can understand our family like her. Our life and situations. I also understand that my mother is a lot of our turmoil between us. Always remember, they are your family. They are your connections. People need that. I need her, I love her. I'm the tall one in the picture.
Do you ever wonder how your children grow up to be so different despite being brought up in the same house? Rob and Jenna are siblings who had a close relationship growing up. Now that Jenna is immersed in college life, and Rob works at the Dairy Queen, they barely speak. Jenna says her brother needs to grow up, and Rob feels judged by his sister. Their mom joins them and asks Dr. Phil how to motivate Rob to get his feet moving and his butt in gear! And, twins Mandy and Jennifer just can't seem to get along. Mandy says ever since she walked down the aisle, Jen has been jealous of her. Jen says her sister is way too judgmental. Can Dr. Phil help these twins in turmoil repair their bond? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
