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Topic : 08/29 Internet Dramas

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Created on : Thursday, August 21, 2008, 04:08:59 am
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More than half of the households in America have one or more computers. These days, it’s common to surf the net, pay bills or even shop online, but do you know someone who spends way too much time on the computer? Dr. Phil’s guests are desperate to get their loved ones off the PC because their obsession with the Internet is causing major drama in their families and marriages. Chris and Virginia say they had no idea their 10-year-old daughter was having sexual conversations with men online, until a phone call in the middle of the night shocked them to their core. Parents, you won’t believe where the inappropriate conversations started! Then, meet Bob, a husband and father who is so addicted to the online game EverQuest that he admits he’s forgotten to feed his children! He spends up to 80 hours a week playing his computer game and has stopped eating with his family, playing with his kids and even sleeping in the same bed with his wife, Tiffany. See what happened when Tiffany gave him an ultimatum: give up the game or his family. And, meet a mom who spends all her time perfecting the online profiles she created for her dogs! Her two sons say, "What about us?" Join the discussion.

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August 29, 2008, 2:17 pm CDT

truth

how can you keep doing this day after day? the truth is watching too bud. it`s a scam - i`m pretty sure you know that. it`s a casino but much worse, much uglier & hey dude - it`s lucrative isn`t it? it`s gonna catch up with you.
 
August 29, 2008, 2:19 pm CDT

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Quote From: tomaratorres

Watching the part of the show with the parents of the 10-year old having sexually explicit conversations online makes me wonder if this is a sign that she is being or has been molested. Generally you see that kind of inappropriate behavior and comfort talking aout sex so inappropriately at such a young age in children who have been exposed to sex by an adult. I wonder if she was molested by someone, and God forbid, by one of her parents. Or maybe it's just from talking to her friends at school that she is familiar with these sexual terms. But either way, this story is so disturbing.

My kids say all kinds of crazy stuff and I can assure you that they have never been molested.  Kids here stuff like this everywhere.  One example is the shoe that’s on ABC Family I believe it’s called Life of a Teenager.  All its about is sex and more sex and I do mean SEX!!  And this stuff is gear towards young teenagers.  Sorry but you sound a bit paranoid.

 
August 29, 2008, 2:25 pm CDT

Internet Dramas

I kept waiting for the obvious....Contact the local PD. This is what's known as a cyber crime!!! No one mentioned contacting the parents' local PD! The next obvious thing is to REMOVE all of the computers from the home. I am so sick and tired of adults asking what to do when something like htis happens!!! Cowboy/cowgirl up and be adults!!!
 
August 29, 2008, 2:32 pm CDT

Hub addicted for almost 10 years

My husband and I came here from Wisconsin. As soon as we came back a friend of mine had a computer. There was a game on there called Slingo and my husband started playing it and got hooked but I didnt realize is when I was in bed sleeping he was talking to woman on the game . Then Pogo came out and he would go into Backgammon games and others and say he was a single rich guy. So One day I went to our other computer and made a fake name on the game and I made my profile interesting and I went into the same room he was in and he started talking to me and saying things.So I left the room and I walked in the room he was in and I said How you making out he said oh I am winning. I said oh that is good and I said so how is the name I made up in pogo and he looked at me He knew he had been caught. I begged him to get help. To this day he still plays games and he gets up in the mornings and gets on the computer and then takes a nap before he goes to work and then when he comes home he gets right back on. This has been going on for almost 10 years. If me or one of the kids try to talk to him he ignores us but if one of my kids talk to me then he will reply.. I have a one day a week hub.
 
August 29, 2008, 2:34 pm CDT

World of Warcraft

I play World of Warcraft (WOW) and work fulltime, have a wife and 5 kids with the sixth one on the way.  I play at night after everyone else is in bed.  On occasion I may play during the day on my days off if we have nothing going on.  It is fun and I guess a bit addicting but my family always comes first.  There have been times when my wife will get mad that I am on the PC but I don’t let it bother me much, I do pay the bills and the house payment and spend plenty of time with the family.  Sometimes I just need some me time;-)

 
August 29, 2008, 3:06 pm CDT

Internet & Kids

I just want to say I have a daughter that just turned 15 and had the same computer problems, she is a good kid and would have never thought it would lead to what I found.  I found several conversations with older guys and am trying to prosecute them now, she gave them her real age and they proceeded to talk with her very sexually asked for her phone number which she gave and what state she lived in and she gave that.  Everything and every rule I had she broke.  I never thought this would happen to my family and now that it has I have taken all the steps to make sure it doesnt happen again.  She is not aloud online and I have her phone blocked to only call me.  I found a software program called key logger by spectorsoft.com, in working with an investigator he gave me this sight so i know everything happening on our computer.  As of now it is password protected and shut down whenever she is around.   She decides go out and make a new account and password (which she has done 2 times in the past 3 weeks) instead of me having to search and find it, it will email and give me the info if she trys to get on the compuer with the software on it.  This internet preditor searching is very scarry, you can tell in the conversations she was not comfortable talking about it to these guys and didnt know how to get out of it.  Even though she didnt know what to say she keep going back to these same people as she said to me they gave her attention and said she was beautiful.  It was a very very big wake up call with all that happened we also removed the xbox and all wireless devises out of all hte rooms, I'm a pretty stict mom and thought i was on top of it, well i guess i'm deffinately more on top of it now and parental blocks and loggers will be on.  Please beware it is everywhere she was doing this on Tagged.com i even emailed these guy and geve them a piece of my mind and how sick they were.  She deffinatly doesnt  think its fair that i took everythign from her but that is my job as a parent.  Please watch your kids online they are everywhere.
 
August 29, 2008, 3:26 pm CDT

tmnames4

tmnames4,

 

You have to put some of the blame you yourself not just your daughter.  My kids are allowed on the pc ONLY when I am there watching them.  Every bad site you can think of is blocked.  No chat no messaging no nothing.  The internet is a great learning tool but can also be a haven for a neglected child to try to find friends and attention and it is not always bad but it can be which you found out.  Spend time with your daughter take her out and do things with her and she will forget all about the internet.  I don’t mean to be mean but for this to happen you could not have been as strict and attentive as you make out to have been

 
August 29, 2008, 3:28 pm CDT

Online Games & I'm scared for my Son

Hi Everyone...This is a very scary thing. I have a Son that started playing games when he was young. My ex Husband didn't ever play sports or do a heck of a lot with my boys when they were young. They are now 25 and 21. The 25 year old has a fulltime job and has gotten away from the computer a lot. He is very socialble. My problem is with my 21 year old. I am so scared for him. He plays role playing games online all day...If he's not sleeping he's online. He barely showers and takes care of himself. I have tried to get him to go to job corp and do something with his life but to no avail. Now he lives with his Father and Grandmother who seem to cater to him. I stopped waking him up to feed him dinner after I cooked because he was old enough to take care of himself and I refused to cater to this young man who didn't want to do anything but play games. At one point when we had Insurance I even tried to get him professional help but he refused to go. He's my son and I love him but what more can I do. My energy is wasted in trying to convience him he needs to do something more with his life. He also pretends to be Female in these games and has at one point talked about having a sex change operation. How does someone who role plays and never gets out in the world really know what they want? I am so scared for him. Any advice would help at this point.

 

Mom in Tears!!!

 

Thanks!!!  

 
August 29, 2008, 3:35 pm CDT

Internet Nightmares

Well I must say that when I watched the show today my eyes were glued to the screen for most of the program. Having experienced first hand what the internet and all it's glory has to offer, I must say that I am not at all impressed in any way. As a matter of fact, I am discouraged. After enduring a few years of chatroom nightmares that turned into real life nightmares, I see no reason to ever chat with anyone I don't know on the net. From my very first day in a chatroom, I have felt uneasy about chatting with someone I don't know and it has been a major complaint of mine ever since the first day I entered a chatroom.. Worst yet, I have experienced first hand how bad things can get when there is no validation of who you are speaking to on the net. There is literally no way to figure out if you are talking to a 90 year old grandmother or a 10 year old child. Furthermore, everyone is trying to be someone they are not, meaning a 90 year old grandmother is posing as a 10 year old child and a 10 year old child is pretending to be an adult and in some cases a 90 year old grandmother. Now this is all fine and dandy until you got a pedophile lurking right in between everyone waiting to make the kill.

Hello.....

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PS: The internet has now become reality....

    And I think it's time we all realized that....




 
August 29, 2008, 3:39 pm CDT

Those Parents Are ******* IDIOTS

What a couple of ******* TOOLS.  They sit there and moan and groan about 'Boo hoo, just look at this vile message' yet they DON'T TAKE THE COMPUTERS AWAY.  Are they insane?  You enable the innapropriate behavior, then you complain about it???  What's wrong with you?

You are the parents.  YOU HAVE A PERFECT RIGHT TO REMOVE THE COMPUTERS FROM *YOUR* HOUSE!  Why have you not done that???

I just cannot stomach people who are SO INCREDIBLY STUPID.  You deserve evreything you get if you are too stupid to do the obvious!
 
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