Topic : 09/01 Custody Chaos

Quote From: cdb8868

DR. PHIL MADE SEVERAL COMMENTS TO THE MOTHER IN LAW I DON'T AGREE WITH. HOW CAN HE SAY SHE DOESN'T HAVE A VOTE IN THE CHILDRENS' WELFARE. IN ESSENCE, THAT'S BASICALLY WHAT HE IS SAYING. DOES SHE HAVE A VOTE IF SHE HAS TO PAY FOR FUNERAL ARRANGEMENTS FOR HER DAUGHTER OR GRANDCHILDREN???????? SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO VOICE HER OPINION AND BE CONCERNED ABOUT THEIR WELL BEING. I ALMOST ALWAYS AGREE WITH DR. PHIL.....BUT NOT THIS TIME!!!!!! IS SHE SUPPOSED TO STAND BY AND WAIT FOR THE "CHAOS" TO END??????, AND THEN PICK UP THE PIECES?? COME ON....REMEMBER THE PHRASE...."IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD". IT IS SOOOO MUCH HER BUSINESS. I STOOD BY AND WATCHED MY GRANDSON IN A VERY SIMILIAR SITUATION, AND ALL HELL BROKE OUT AND DESTROYED MY ENTIRE FAMILY. RE-THINK THAT ONE, DR. PHIL. WHAT IF IT WAS YOUR DAUGHTER OR GRANDCHILDEN? YOU DON'T HAVE A VOTE? I DOUBT THAT VERY MUCH.

Quote From: silencedmother

One of the most disturbing scandals in the history of our court system has already been  investigated. Lots of people know about it but no one has been able to do anything about it - yet.

 

Around the 1970's, a quack named "Dr". Richard Gardner - who was pro-pedophile - invested large amounts of his time to promote his warped ideas. Just Google Custody Prep for Moms and take a look at their links or articles section. There's a plethora of information about how child abuse cases are mishandled in our family courts- mostly because of Gardner's wacky ideas about children and sexuality.

 

In Connecticut, there is a "regional family trial docket" in Middletown, CT  where the state's family courts send custody cases involving domestic violence and/or sexual abuse. Many attorneys and court evaluators working with those cases call them "contested" or "high conflict" custody cases. However, the custody cases which involve domestic violence and or child abuse are not "contested" or "high conflict" cases. They involve victims of child abuse and domestic violence and, instead of being handled by experts in child abuse and domestic violence, they are handled by pro-Gardner attorneys and court evaluators in an adversarial family court system.

 

Most everyone knows that when a non-family member sexually abuses a child, the child is usually protected. However, most people in this country have no idea that when the sexual predator is the child's father, and when there is a question of who gets custody of the child, our family court system is a place where attorneys and court evaluators freely use Gardner's ideas of "the sexuality of children" and  "parental alienation of 'affection' "  to take abused children from protective mothers to place them with their abusers. 

 

If you are reading this and can do something to investigate and expose "PAS" set-up once and for all, you will be a hero. The set-up has been going on since the 1970's when Gardner first began to offer lectures and publish his weird ideas. No one has been able to do anything about protecting our nation's children from it.

 

Please help in any way you can. Thank you.

Quote From: drumlord30

here is my last input ok u don't even ******* know john or melissa i do and just because im john's friend doesn't mean im on his side but yeah i see what gos on in that house and i have seen just about all of what i want to see from her so if u have a problem with that then i guess u can just deal with it cause ur input doesn't matter in this situation mine does cause i have seen what  this woman puts her children through

Quote From: senior_editor

 To Mom:
You made several mistakes here: 1)You agreed to a divorce in order to help defraud your collective creditors; 2)You also agreed to remarry him after cleaning up your collective finances; 3)You let YOUR mother get in the middle of your relationship with your husband; and 4)You allowed your mother to convince you to take the opportunity at hand to permanently bag the family and marriage all together.

First, you are no better than your ex-husband for agreeing to file in order to defraud creditors. You are NOT the more upstanding person because you have an equal responsibility for your fraudulant actions.

Secondly, you betrayed your husband by NOT keeping your word to remarry after things were cleared up. I understand that it may have been an ideal opportunity for you to not have to struggle with him to actually get divorced if you wanted. But there was no indication on the show that you ever wanted out of your marriage to him. You stayed married to him for at least 8 years while know of his ways; why was there no effort to leave? I understand the fear of his background. I was married to a nut with a cabinet full of high powered guns; but he also knew he should not challenge me in the area of gun use because I have no problem rounding up brothers and uncles to take him behind the barn. I find it hard to believe you would stay with a man that you deeply feared.

Lastly, and most importantly to mom..... IF you love your kids [and I believe you do, then WHY on earth would you EVER let your own mother into the middle of your marriage to create and stir up a constant family drama? Your children will not calm down [even if you get sole custody...I know, I have sole custody UNTIL you get YOUR MOTHER OUT of the entire situation. She is a trouble maker. I'm sure she loves you, but SHE LOVES THE DISCORD MORE..... She will never stop telling horror stories to your children; she will never let anything die, pass or be forgiven..... Frankly, she needs her butt kicked!  ..... Again, unfortunately I know too well what I am talking about here.....we have had to kick out my ex-mother-in-law AND my mother just to give our child an opportunity to truly love all of us..... We do not leave him unsupervised with ANY of the grand parents, and all of the grand parents are cut out of our family's conversations and decision making.


To Dad:
You say you love your ex-wife and would like to remarry her.  Well, frankly, you need to ACT like you mean it. You have some serious and deep apologies to make to her. My husband made similar comments as yours concerning child birth. Your wife put her full soul into bringing your children into the world and this is the best you can do? You think you are justified or funny to say demeaning things about the birthing process or her body? You can NEVER expect her to DESIRE you when you have only horrible things to say about her. A husband's ugly comments about his wife's body NEVER quite leave the wife's mind. You should not expect a quick or easy healing; in fact, you should not expect anything from her at all. YOU should be the one to approach her with a contrite spirit and ask forgiveness...... and IF she agrees to try to forgive you, don't be an ass and go behaving and speaking to her in the same manner next week, next month or next year.  Examine your heart, prayerfully and continually until heaven moves on your behalf.

You, dad, have some real issues about your manhood and your sexuality. If you love your wife and your children, then invest the time and effort to seek healing.... Oh, and I know this may be unpopular, but try the throne of God rather than the counselor's chair. Direct communications with heaven will yield positive results that no man on earth can adequately provide. And don't kid yourself to think that your problems will all be healed over night or quickly. Prepare to spend several years seeking permanent solutions. Your children and your wife [IF she ever agrees to be yours again deserve a dad who isn't always replaying twisted images in his mind when he interacts with them.


To Grandma:
Shut your hole; keep your opinions to yourself completely; and don't expect to be consulted or have information given to you. If your daughter wants to love her ex-husband [or remarry him while heaven works out healing in his heart and life, then that is between them. NOTHING about this family concerns you; not even where the grandchildren are spending their time. You know that dad has no explicit abuses toward his children, and you are cooking up this crap and stirring the pot constantly by keeping everyone upset all of the time. IF you love your daughter, then shut up and give her peace. IF you love your grandchildren, then shut up and give them peace while mom and dad work out their problems. YOU HAVE THE MOST TO LOSE...... I have an ex-mother-in-law JUST LIKE YOU, and to this day she doesn't get to visit or know anything. We do not visit, and her other children and grandchildren do not visit. And, my dear grandma, that's what a meddling spirit and a non-stop mouth will get you.