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Created on : Thursday, September 04, 2008, 12:06:31 pm
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(Original Air Date: 09/08/2008) Parents, listen up! If your child has an online profile, he or she could be one click away from disaster. We’re living in a digital world, where photos can be published online for the world to see in an instant. What you or your child might find acceptable might not be acceptable to college recruiters, potential employers or even the police. Former Miss Washington Elyse Umemoto knows all too well the pitfalls of private photos posted online. After being crowned Miss Seattle in 2007, she posed for pictures while celebrating with friends. When the snapshots ended up on the Internet, she landed in the middle of a scandal. Now she worries how it will affect her future. Then, a college student and a recent graduate meet with a job recruiter to perfect their interviewing skills. Find out what the job recruiter saw online that he thinks might keep them from being hired. And, don’t miss how one college student’s online profile may have helped land him in prison! If you think your digital photos are for your eyes only, think again. What you post on MySpace or Facebook could lead to serious consequences. Talk about the show here.

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September 8, 2008, 3:29 pm PDT

09/08 Busted Online

Quote From: angelcake22

Well little miss "goody-two shoes.  I mean, you act like she was stabbing somebody or something.  She was drinking alcohol for goodness sake!  Which is totally legal, not only after the age of 21 in the U.S. but also in REALITY!!
I absolutely agree with this poster...her behavior was disgusting and she showed who she was in those photos. She was so proud she kept her photos on the computer! Duh????
 
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September 8, 2008, 3:35 pm PDT

09/08 Busted Online

Quote From: bella13

Why should she have remorse?  She was having a good time.  Have you never had a good time?  So she got unlucky and the photos got posted.  That could also happen to you.  They don't show who she really is, they show who she WAS FOR ONE NIGHT!  If she was really a depraved party chick, how did she win her title?  If she was an all out, everynight partier, she would have been onstage with pale skin, under eye circles, reeking of alcohol.  Almost all people who drink or party have pictures of them doing crazy things.  Big deal.  It wasn't illegal for her to do it!

You consider that behavior a good time?

She should have remorse because it was inapprpriate  and mocking behavior. Didn't you hear her... she said it wasn't who she was? Well if she's not who she is in those pictures then she should be remorsefull. I have never taken photographs like that. I had parents who raised me with a firm hand , proper behavior and manners. She won her title by being a fraud. When I have had a drink I have never done anything stupid.

 
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September 8, 2008, 3:38 pm PDT

09/08 Busted Online

Quote From: pynkkittie

I can't believe I am so mad that I am posting on one of these boards but I really have had enough.  I am watching your show and my blood pressure is going thru the roof.  NO ONE I REPEAT NO ONE can say that they haven't had one of these photos taken of themselves.  Elyse deserves better than that.  If you are reading this and you actually cant remember a photo being taken of you that could be taken out of context someone needs to slap you so you can WAKE UP.  I was mortified for Elyse.  The first thing I said to myself when I saw this picture was "I wonder who said what to elicits that response" and laughed thinking there is a group of young people being young and having a great time. If you cant see that that is a photo taken during a party or light-hearted moment between friends YOUR IGNORANT AND NEED A LIFE.   She seems like a wonderful young woman and she deserves for her life out of the spotlight to be OUT OF THE SPOTLIGHT.  What happens behind the closed doors of people in the public  eye needs to stay behind their closed doors.

 

I am so fed up with all these people who try to make a living negative spinning pictures of strangers.  I hadn't heard the gossip about Phil and Robin, but I cant see how they get headlines like that from the pictures they used.  If you dont want your life spun like that (and believe me it could be done) then what gives you the right to do that to someone else.  Who do these people think they are?

 

Maybe Dr. Phil you should do that.  Have one of these ...(you cant call them journalist) people who write these kinds of articles followed and photographed then make a show full of embarrassing photos with huge false headlines attached to them about things that never happened them and see how they like it when the shoe is on the other foot.   

 

Dr. Phil I appreciate the candor that you have about your life and sharing your life with your audience is your right, it isnt anyone elses.  Why do people today think they have the right to invade the privacy of others and then announce it to the world wrapped up in lies and slander, and why do people think that papers selling nothing but these kind of lies are worth paying for.  If people didnt buy them they would go out of business as they should.

 

I have NEVER had a PHOTO taken of me like that or even near such behavior. I had parents who raised me with manners and grace.  You are generalizing.
 
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September 8, 2008, 3:40 pm PDT

09/08 Busted Online

Quote From: mwaters

I can tell you that CPS and CASA routinely check out their clients on Facebook and My Space.  It's surprising how willing some of these people are to post all sorts of personal details on these very public forums.

Ditto...I am one of those investigators that look for evidence on both noted websites. Beware parents.
 
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September 8, 2008, 3:47 pm PDT

This is the world we live in

 

I can't believe that young women in beauty competitions don't get it others wouldn't want to discredit them, in the worst way possible.

 

Because of telephone cameras, video and audio technologies that are available, we all have to be aware of how we conduct ourselves, and if as individuals we are authentic. 

 

The beauty contestants behavior in those photos, hopefully, wasn't authentic, after accepting the role of "whatever her title was."   She assumed responsibilities when she accepted the title and prize rewards associated with it.  Would she have done on stage during the competition, what she did in those photos.

 

The young lady still doesn't get it,  if she hadn't been titled, there wouldn't have been an issue.

 

The moral in this society is "Don't behave or write down anything you wouldn't want to get published, put on the internet or aired on any of those"look at this loser" shows.

 
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September 8, 2008, 3:50 pm PDT

Facebook?

On today's show, Dr. Phil speaks of employers or other public institutions having the ability to look at facebook profiles. But he never mentioned how they receive access to individual profiles. Is it possible to retreive information off of an individual's profile if that individual has maximum privacy settings?

Does facebook sell information? Are they obligated to disclose a profile to employers or law enforcement?

 

Thank you to anyone who has any infromation.

 

Sanja

 
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September 8, 2008, 4:00 pm PDT

What was missing on this show is:

There was no coverage on the show about what happens when someone posts a derogatory lie.
This happened to my daughter who's disgruntled exfriend slandered her, and it pops up when her name is entered in google search.

My daughter is trying to start her own business, and anyone entering her name - the only thing to pop up is this derogatory post.

I have repeatedly contacted the server MySpace with the URL, taken from the posting, yet I still get this canned response:

Unfortunately, we were unable to locate the profile based on the information provided. Please reply to this email and provide us with a link or web address (URL) of the profile in question so that we can review it. > > > > The URL is the profile's web address. It is found after http:// towards the top of your browser in the web address bar. The URL most likely looks like one of the following: > > > > www.myspace.com/example

There is no protection from this kind of cyber bullying. These sites make a lot of money, without ANY RESPONSIBILITY whatsoever.
 
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September 8, 2008, 4:05 pm PDT

Foolishness begets regret

Well, Elyse, your "wildest dreams" are badly in need of an update.  Haven't you heard?? -- shots similar to yours have been getting into the wrong hands for a very long time now.  You can put any spin on it you want -- the photos weren't cand-id, they were stup-id!  At least you didn't plead drunkeness as the reason these pictures are what they are (unless that was implied); however I really didn't hear any "ownership" on your part.  I'm sure you worked hard to attain the status and title of Miss Washington.  Along with that title comes responsibility and the expectation that the title holder has the MATURITY to conduct herself in a respectful manner whenever and wherever -- party or not.  And yes, there are some of us still out here who don't have one single photo that couldn't be shown publicly.  If you expect others to have scruples, make sure YOU have scruples.        
 
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September 8, 2008, 4:07 pm PDT

Busted online

Quote From: tessprof

I absolutely agree with this poster...her behavior was disgusting and she showed who she was in those photos. She was so proud she kept her photos on the computer! Duh????
So just because she kept something on HER OWN computer, that gives someone the right to take them.  Um, I think that's called STEALING.  So if someone stole a GUN from your house and exposed that you had one, does that make you a bad person?  Or someone defending themselves if someone breaks in?  That was her personal property and it was violated. Why should she have to suffer because of something that she owned?  You are judging and God is the only one that can judge.
 
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September 8, 2008, 4:09 pm PDT

people who live in glass houses

Quote From: gatera99

I had not heard the rumors about the divorce thing, LOL, and no, I had not seen the pictures you have shown that they published either.  Do I live in a cave, you ask? No.  I am simply not stupid.  I wouldn't even glance at those publications, much less look at them and recognize a photo of you or anyone else.  People who do have got to be idiots. Gosh! To think those things sell so much, what does that say about the mass' IQ ??? WOW!

 

I'd like to comment on Miss Washington.  What gets to me is that posters are saying things like "she was just unlucky that the pics got published".  My, my.  She was probably unlucky too, that her body lifted her hand to give the finger, poor girl, unlucky that she wasn't able to controle her behavior, poor vicitim.  SHE DID those things, and she showed who she really was.  People aren't who they are when they force themselves to be poised and proper like she almost was able to do sitting there with Dr Phil.  What shows a person's true character is what they do when they think no one is looking, (or taking picture).  And then she says "The pics don't represent my true essence"  HAHAHA!!!! RRIIIGHT !!  ARE YOU KIDDING ME ?????  And to say that "everyone has had pics taken like those ones" is just plain ignorant.  Just because you hang out with trash and trash is all you know, doesn't mean that everyone is trash.  Just the people you associate with and yourself .....NOT everyone  "does that".

 

This being said... Welcome back Dr Phil, we missed you.  You know how people used to say you were too harsh ???  Well.. I think you're softening in your old age...  I wish you'd go back to being no excuses, in your face" like you used to be. You're sounding more and more like a liberal, I am sad to say... sigh.

Please people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.  If you cant honestly say that in your life you have NEVER NEVER done or said anything out of character in the moment then then in plain 'Dr. Phil speak" sit down, shut up, grow up, and stop throwing stones.
 
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