Message Boards

Topic : 09/12 The N-Word Debate

Number of Replies: 2299
New Messages This Week: 0
Last Reply On:
Created on : Thursday, September 04, 2008, 12:16:52 pm
Author : DrPhilBoard1
This two-syllable expression is arguably the most divisive word in society. Dr. Phil tackles this touchy topic with help from a panel of outspoken luminaries: civil rights activist Rev. Al Sharpton; legendary comedian and writer Paul Mooney; CSI actor and author Hill Harper; comedian Sheryl Underwood and conservative radio talk show host Michael Graham. First, is there a double standard that allows African-Americans to use this sensitive word, while non-blacks are forbidden? The debate heats up when Rachel, a white guest, says she calls her husband the N-word all the time. Then, should hip-hop artists be censored or fined for using the N-word in their songs? Becky says rappers promote negative stereotypes with their lyrics, but find out who Rev. Al Sharpton thinks should face the music. Plus, does tone or intent make a difference when using the N-word? See what Dr. Phil thinks and share your thoughts here.

Find out what happened on the show.

As of January, 2009, this message board will become "Read Only" and will be closed to further posting. Please join the NEW Dr. Phil Community to continue your discussions, personalize your message board experience, start a blog and meet new friends.

User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
September 11, 2008, 3:39 pm PDT

09/12 The N-Word Debate

Quote From: yahweh1

"Wisdom and Strength walks away, while Foolish and Pride try to sway"

 

Moral: If you know who you are, opinionated ideas or ignorant words are worthless and not worth the time.

 

Adults should be mature and impart this attitude to their children.  Innocence can be harmed by these intended insults which could result in violence besides suffering. Children need to be protected by nourishing good self-esteem, educated and lovingly validated by parents, mentors, teachers or "The Village".

Exactly, and the best way to do that? Teach kids that words spoken by OTHER people are not a reflection of THEMSELVES. If a child is called n***** he/she should be taught that that is not about THEM, it's about the person saying the word.

Once people learn to do that, simple words have less of an effect on their emotions.
 
User Mood
Bored

Message Emote
blank
September 11, 2008, 6:01 pm PDT

The N-Word Debate

            This show hasnt aired yet but I hope things dont get out of hand on the DP stage about this vile word.

    I am not even the slightest in support of the use of the N word. I must admit there are people out in this world who are smart, educated, work, committ themselves and contribute to society. I wouldnt even think of insulting anyone like that...........

 
User Mood
Angry

Message Emote
blank
September 11, 2008, 6:47 pm PDT

ridiculous

I am very upset with how the black people feel as though the white people owe them some sort of reparations for their great great ancestors slaves. I guess my opinion is, if you don't like it here in the United States then why don't you go back to Africa?
 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
September 11, 2008, 11:56 pm PDT

09/12 The N-Word Debate

Quote From: terramm

I am very upset with how the black people feel as though the white people owe them some sort of reparations for their great great ancestors slaves. I guess my opinion is, if you don't like it here in the United States then why don't you go back to Africa?
Well this is a frighteningly simple opinion.

Our ancestors stole these people from their homes and forced them to do work with no other choice but death or torture. We then set them "free" only to treat them as sub-human until a mere 40-50 years ago! Sorry, but it's going to take a while longer for things to even out some. There are people still living today that remember Jim Crow laws. It's not as if it was a century ago...it was only a few DECADES ago.

And back to Africa? Are you joking with this? If you don't like the United States then send yourself back to...England or Ireland or Germany or where ever your ancestors are from. Does that make sense to you?! LOL!
 

Message Emote
blank
September 12, 2008, 12:32 am PDT

Ignorance and ...

Ignorance and racism abound on this message board.

 

And the show hasn't aired yet.

 

Is it any wonder we have to have laws against HATE CRIMES.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
September 12, 2008, 2:46 am PDT

The "N-word"

I strongly feel that it shouldn't be needed at all across the board as to what nationality or race a person is in order to give and receive equality and respect and endearing love throughout the world.

I do acknowledge that our cultures have a major role in forming our original beliefs, but I strongly believe that we are all created and born to learn in this world.

So regardless of what culture you were born in, you have the heart within you to start and to complete a change for the betterment of your own personal outcomes.

If you have the heart and desire to spread love to all, and equality to all and respect to all, then you will be spreading each of those traits and qualities throughout the world, even if you never leave the place/city you were born into.

I whole heartedly agree with Al Sharpton and Paul and Shirley and Hill that we all, and that means of every race and religion and family background and status in soceity, MUST, completely erase the "N Word" from our languagessssss.

And when ANYONE of all colors and religions say " The N word is here to stay, it'll never go away, or it can't go away because of......." then they are only stamping their imprint into the continuence of the N word living on through more generations.

I look forward to the wonderful full generation, when the N word is no longer remembered, no longer referenced to for any reason, no longer covered w/ excuses for it's uses, and is only referenced as a historical fact of our American history.

In careful instruction as history beginning in our youngest classrooms, it can never be intertwined or rebirthed with new life in any further gernerations or portrayed as a word in our languages here in America annnnnnnnd to include all countries in the world.

All the combined generations and ages of people living right now are the people who are responsible  right now for the further use or complete 100% non use of the N word period!

Each person makes the decision to use or never use this word and in doing so, must also take on the results and consequences that will ripple either a positive reaction or a negatuve reaction.

I am choosing to make the decision to never ever use the word or allow it to be used in my company in order to end the use of it completely in our entire world, not just in America.

When you travel around the world, people need to know of its original roots and the truth behind it's meaning, that it is not a cool slang word.

It's sickening to know that some countries view and use this same word as a word that is considered cool among young people.

The audience in this show made it clear that regardless of color or nationality and age, they do not believe in the need for equality still to this day, and are still sheltered from truly knowing each other on a social level.

The audience was an embarrassment for me to watch and saddened me to the point of tears, those that spoke from the audience, all colors, did not show any progression in our society.

And all of us should be ashamed, ashamed to say our nation is one of equality, when the reality is we have accomplished some equality attrtibutes but we still have much more to go across the entire country, and in allllllll races and in all homes.

It's still impossible for the majority of Americans of all colors, to see the other persons side even though they may not have walked in the shoes of a slave or in the shoes of a slave owner or in any situation of judgment that was based on your gender, lifestyle, race or ethnicity or even the neighborhood you grew up in....and that is the embarrassment and saddest, heartbreaking reality.

Americans need to put themselves in their minds and hearts, into the shoes of the many other races that live in our country and allow themselves to always remain open to others, without any mindset of their past or teachings or examples.

America See with your Heart and not your Eyes

Hear with your heart and not your Ears

Love with your heart and not your beliefs

Share with your heart and not your deceptions

Put an end to racism with your heart and

show it in your own life freely holding no one hostage to the past.

America move on hand in hand

To a new generation of respect and encouraging words.

And then watch and rejoice when you see the greatest change our country will make in history!

 

 

 
User Mood
Peaceful

Message Emote
blank
September 12, 2008, 3:33 am PDT

WRONG

Quote From: dbogue

I think the N-word should be treated the same as the F-word. They are bad for everyone. No one should use them. There is no reason to use them. They just hurt .

I am 50 years old, grew up in the South and am still here!  BOTH WORDS ARE WRONG!  I grew up hearing my parents and all 4 of my late grandparents use the "N" word and my mom use the "F" word.  I raised my children not to say those words and not to judge anyone by the color of their skin, religion or creed.

 

I have had company recently and if any bad word comes out of their mouths, "N", "F", or "GD", then they are promptly escorted out of my house!

 

I won't have in my home, or around me whatsoever!

 

I understand that the young black people call each other that all the time, which shows that have no respect for their heritage at all.

 

When I was drving a bus, I used to pick up all sorts of passengers, and if the person was of color, they showed my deep respect, but I didn't like it when they would say "YES MA'AM, or "NO'MA'AM..........they deserved my respect instead, and I'm proud to say I gave it to them every chance I got.

 

The younguns of this world need to REMEMBER THEIR HISTORY, OR THEY'RE LIKELY TO FORGET IT!

 

They have no idea what their incestors went through, just so that they could live the way the do today. 

 

I have only one more thing to say.................PLEASE HAVE THEM PULL THEIR PANTS UP.  That look started in prison and if they want to experience that.........then so be it, but I PRAY with all my heart, that they realize just how good they have it.

 

Not all of blacks or whites are bad..........they just make bad choices that they can't take back and will follow them for the rest of their lives.

 

 ONE MORE THING.......................DO THEY KISS THEIR MOTHERS WITH THEIR MOUTHS?

 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
September 12, 2008, 5:37 am PDT

It's everywhere

 

The N-word is not the problem, but it's just that African-American(I'm one too) still feel the traces of past history. Either we all like it or not, we all would continue to be divided by something. Either race, religion, values etc. It's up to everyone to get pass the division. I think that everyone needs to think twice before attributing everything to racism. We all find it easier to form groups with people of the same interest and values as ours.

For instance, when it comes to employment, a hiring manager wants someone that would fit-in well into the company in terms of values, interests, way of life. To be candid, for the most part, people from the same race, share same value and interest. So, an employer who is white may be more comfortable with whites. Same thing goes for other races. This does not mean that people from other race may not be found in this group, but may be those that share same level of education, interest, values etc.  The employer may afterall not have anything against other races, but interests, values, education all play vital role when it comes to people coming together.

As earlier said, the attention given to the N-WORD is because the blacks(Including me) still feel traces of racism. But what they think is racism may afterall not be.

 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
September 12, 2008, 5:51 am PDT

09/12 The N-Word Debate

Quote From: terramm

I am very upset with how the black people feel as though the white people owe them some sort of reparations for their great great ancestors slaves. I guess my opinion is, if you don't like it here in the United States then why don't you go back to Africa?

 

It's always good to first put oneself in other people's shoes before judging. Every single person in this world is looking for better life and would go anywhere it exists. If it exists in Africa, i'm sure we all here in the U.S would be relocated. Let's just be thankful rather than boastful.

 
User Mood
Happy

Message Emote
blank
September 12, 2008, 6:19 am PDT

Get Over It

I'm 17 and I live in SC so I hear people use it all the time. I've used it a time or two but look IT'S A WORD. Who decided it was bad? We all need t grow up and get over it. Honestly if you get upset over this word you are immature.
 
First | Prev | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | Next | Last