Topic : 12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"

On a fathers4kids.com Dr. Warren Farrell states in an article. That EACH parent is half of a childs identity and keeping a parent away effects there self image. Read on AWESOME INFORMATION.
    I am currently devastated my court ordered visitation is being denied. ( LOVELY Daughter inside and out 14 year old Courtney, "Greatest Kid in the WORLD 9 year old Trey !!!!  Wish the world knew them you would enjoy them !!! )

     I am 39. Was good enough to help create these wonderful kids. Raised them for 12 & 7 years. Raised a child from her previous relationship my oldest daughter who is now 16 .  Ex has wealthy boy friend. SHE HERSELF has never provieded anything for her kids.  She now has another baby.

    MY entire life I have wanted to be a father .  My kids are at an age I would LOVE  to be involved !!!!!!

Visitation is not for ME it is for my children !!!!

    GOD RICHLY BLESS any parent trying to see their KIDS !   I am sorry for anytime in my life I did not put them FIRST . PLEASE GOD FORGIVE ME. OPEN HER EYES !!!     GOOD LUCK TO EACH OF YOU CAUGHT UP IN THIS !!!!   Again GOD BLESS AND PROTECT ALL OUR KIDS !!!!!!!!
  

I've had to be diligant in seeing my kids as soon as the children where seperated from me I started getting letter from my kids which were obviously written by a adult or completely coached. My exwife allienated me it wasn'nt just the ex. it was my ex's parents my mother in law was a huge part of the problem. I just never stop seeing the kids I went above and beyond , jump through every hoop, never missed one visit , Now 7 years later my ex and her mom cannot convince them I'm a bad guy, but they tried really, really hard to get me out of the picture. I can see females being afraid of this, it could be abused by a dishonest person, and it favors the men. I just would like you to know this truely does exist and if your on the negitive side and your fighting to be a parent, and the ex. is making it as hard as possible, or filling the kids head with fear, you would feel different . IT TRUELY DOES EXIST ! IT DOES ! I've seen it first hand and it really hurts.

I too have 2 step sons and have went through the same thing. The oldest son have come around the older he gets, the youngest is a different story. His mother is teaching him that the only thing that his father and I are good for is to buy him things. She also tapes his telephone calls and has told him things like " If he left her to stay with us she would be heartbroken" . We even went to court only to be told that it would be "better for the child to stay with his mother". Even after we showed the court system in Maine that the child was being left alone and was falling behind in school.The relationship between my husband and the youngest son is stressed to say the least. They did talk almost everyday, now they may talk once or twice a month.

It's sad when a father and son can't have a relationship and that when one parent does ask for help the system fails.

     I am a child of divorce and watched in happen in my own household. My sister and I were very young (3 and 1) when my parents divorced. My father in the end got custody of both of us. I am the oldest, so I was more aware of what was going on during everything. We got to see our mother the second weekend of every month and three weeks in the summer. As I grew up my father would tell me things about my mother, that I should have not heard. I to this day do not know if they are true and don't care to find out. Everytime my mom would call to talk to us, we would hide in the other room and talk quitely to her. I would not get excited or show emotion when we talked. He always made us feel guilty for wanted to talk to her. He would bash her left and right infront of us.

     There were two times in my life where I wanted to go live with my mother. I remember come home tell my father that I wanted to live with mom. He made me feel so quilty and said that I would never see my sister again, because when I would come and visit him, she would be visiting my mom. He would tell me that he guessed I didn't love him. I remember telling him I didn't want to move with mom anymore, just so I didn't have to hear how I didn't love him anymore. The second time I wanted to move in with my mom, I made her tell him, because I was scared. Again the same thing happened and I dropped the issue. As for my mother, she never said a thing about my father infront of us.

      Now, I am 27 years old and I have nothing to do with my father. I moved out when I was 18 and went to live on my own. I think about what happened and resent my father for everything he put me though. On a positive note through, I have the strongest relationship with my mother now, then I ever did when I was younger. I believe parent brainwashing is real! Children are effected by this and in the end the parent or parents that are doing this, will have their children resent them in the end. It is wrong and it hurts!!

     My son is the victim of PAS from his X . he has not seen or had any contact with him for the last two years.   It has taken a very serious toll on him in various ways mentally, emotionally well as physically. The very root cause of all this trauma is the unfair treatment from the courts.  Its a known fact the mother has all the power.  The father not so much if any at all.  I contend if the courts would make it more level playing field for both parents and put the best interests of the child first this might be avoided.

Of course, that's what they all say but, we know that's Not the reality. I could go on and vent and tell you all kinds of horror stories but that won't change what is.  In the state of Missouri in recent years there has been some cases of missing pregnant unwed mothers (presumed dead) now don't you have to wonder why it has come to this.  when are our lawmakers going to see what's happening.