Topic : 12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"

No other agenda here Dr Phil. Unless we feel that the truth and the consitution providing "equality for all" in family law is an exception to the rule of law or in some way above it all?

Here are a few of the agenda's others have shown work equally as well are just as smart as we like to think we are when we hope to share this with other parents on TV? Please be a part of the solution with Oprah and let's please start teaching that parents can be unselfish and honest in Fam Court or the will be the parent paying child support to the Daddy [like Kev Fedline v Britney]:

Steve writes:

Fathers shed real tears too - Especially when so many of our gov officials

refuse to listen to the constitution in order only to gain more votes and

more money?

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In Apr 2007 - The Washington State Legislature passed into law SB5470

"This is a bill which removes barriers that kept judges from awarding

shared parenting. Although this bill is a far cry from an actual shared

parenting bill, it is another positive step forward for non-custodial

parents in 40 years! SB5470 removed the requirement that both parties

needed to agree to shared parenting before it could be awarded. With

passage of the bill, judges will now be able to award custody that is in

the best interest of the child, even if one parent feels shared

parenting should not be allowed [for the 1st time in history]."

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In 2008 NEW Fox Reality SHOW to AIR DEADBEAT Parents!

According to Reuters, in the show Jim Durham, director of the National

Child Support Center, "functions as a sort of 'Dog the Bounty Hunter'

for tracking deadbeats PARENTS...[Durham's role is as] an avenger of

penniless single fathers and mothers [who enjoys] hunting down deadbeat

moms and dads and forces them to ALL pay their child support...on TV?

It's REAL ambush reality TV."

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Please send your comments about this show targeting poor parents in

discrimination to FOX:

Fox Executives

Scott Grogin, Senior Vice President

Corporate Communications

310-369-4733, fax 310-369-1283

scott.grogin@fox.com <mailto:scott.grogin@fox.com>

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In 2008 Denmark Makes Joint Custody Mandatory In Most Cases?

Category: News and Politics

America has an opportunity to learn from failures in Europe. Many

countries are creating mandatory joint custody (certain exclusions

apply) laws and are becoming more family friendly. Children have a

fundamental, God-given right to be loved, educated, guided and nurtured

by both fit and willing parents. To deny this right is child abuse.

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"In a more balanced and less adversarial legal process, 1 glaring

statistic may help...in the last 10 years 300,000 non-custodial &

custodial parents have taken their own lives, and that of their own

children based on the current adversarial process in place."

SRene2004

In 2008 – Orlando, FL

The Calee Anthony Case

After custody case was going to be filed by grandparents vs the Mother.

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We got into a custody battle with my niece and nephews foster parents.  Those people brain was the children in their home and the foster mother has tried to turn her step son against his mother.  This woman is a danger to children...scarry that is the kind of home the state places children in.  My last knowledge of that home they had 7 foster children plus his child and her child. 

I totally believe in the parent allianation and brainwashing by parents or other people trying to gain custody of children and it has to do both with money and control.

I sat there tonight watching the episode about "Brainwashing" and PAS and I swear an hour has never gone by so fast in my whole life!

I've been involved in a nasty custody battle for the past 3 years. We've been divorced for 8. This all started when he wanted to move two hours away with our kids to be with his new wife. He had an attorney and I didn't. And I fought it till the bitter end.

And yes, our oldest (not so much our younger, our son) was so completely brainwashed by my ex. To the point that she was, and just like the guest tonight said, she was telling the evaluators that I wasnt feeding them, leaving them home alone etc etc. Same ol song and dance! And according to my ex, when it was time for me to pick up the kids, they would drop to the floor and BEG their Dad to let them stay with him. Ironically enough, when I would pick them up, they would run out the door to hug me totally with smiles and joy.....hhhmmmm!

I tried a few times to bring up the issue of what was truly going on and what his motive was. When I brought up Parental Alienation Syndrome to the "female Judge", she laughed in my face and said, "OH dont give me that line of garbage." The courts didn't truly see what was going on. The mediators, evaluators, therapists....none of them would see it. Yet, I saw it. My family and friends all saw it. And as depressed as my kids were becoming, they obviously saw it.

The biggest issue, in my opinion, and this is based on past experiences...I dont think anyone will deny that when a couple divorces, the kids are put in the middle. Its been happening since the first divorce out there. So yes, the courts do realize that alienation and manipulation does go on WAY more than it should. But what the courts are so very not ready to face is the "psycobabble" of it being a "syndrome." When it reality it is. It has been proven over and over again that this type of behavior from a malicious ex spouse is VERY damaging to a child. Maybe not so much at the time, but when they grow up.....most of the time they do figure it out and turn on the parent doing the alienating. And this is what I recently told my ex. While I don't want to see any long term damage from all of this, I can guarantee you that SOMEDAY my kids will ask why it is that they were taken from their Mom and made to move two hours away. And yes, like the other parents on the show today, I was accused of abuse, neglect and substance abuse issues. Yet they have ALL come back unfounded. But he had the funds for legal help and I did not. And it gets you to the point that you truly wonder....are the Judges, evaluators, mediators in our small town...all having lunch together??

Like Ive said from the start...there are kids that are truly being abused/neglected etc....but normally they are confused by this and will actually protect the abusing parent. Not refuse to see them. Loving a parent is just as much a natural emotion as loving your child is. Its unconditional. And its such a shame that the court system doesn't see that. Helllo...when a child is not wanting to be with a parent or pulling away....there is something very unhealthy going on.

And just like Glen Shultz, I too was so ready to pack them up and head for Mexico as my last resort. Luckily I came to my senses in the end and finally just threw in the towel...So now Im dealing with my only two babies living two hours away. But at least in a few years, things will change. I have faith with that. But had I taken off like I was so ready to, our relationship would have been ruined forever.

I just hope that my ex watched the show! And the Judge for that matter.....

Cuz PAS does exist. And its time that its given the importance that it should.

But just in case he didn't, I took REALLY good notes and will be sending him his list of THE 5 THINGS he has done the past three years that will most likely screw up the same children he just fought and paid almost 100k to get full custody of!

Thank You.

I started Splitntwo to stop parental alienation, against children and both mother's and father's. Children have the right to and deserve a happy, healthy, loving relationship with both Mom and Dad.  I never had a name or a diagnosis for what my children and I have experienced until a few years ago. I typed in a mother being denied her children in google and was amazed there was a name for it, let alone others that were experiencing the same.  Alienated children are living in a cult like environment and no matter what you do to get the other parent to stop and see what damage it is doing to the children, the alienator refuses. Time is on the side of the alienator! With Parental Alienation time stands still. 

Since Splitntwo was created thousands of parent's and even alienated children have contacted us, desperate for help and support. There are some common denominators between targeted parent's and children as to how this affects them. They have a profound sadness, an emptiness, "a pain that hurts so bad you can't breathe" all from the loss of their parent or child. An anger that is consuming and a desperate desire and need just to have any little piece of their lives. Alienated children are  trained soldiers, brainwashed, and made to feel guilty and sometimes even punished for wanting to love and to be loved by the other parent. Children believe what they were told by the alienating parent, even if their memories told them otherwise. The children are Split n two, they have no voice. When they finally become adult's they don't always pick up the phone or write you a letter and say OK  come and get me, now that I am allowed to do what's best for ME. They can't! They have been brainwashed, programed and now believe everything they've ever been told.

The alienating parent's have been successfully turned the children into soldiers for someone else's battle. The desecration of a parent/child relationship is successful by the alienator once again. In most case's adult children eventually have contact with the parent and most people are able share the truth. The children sometimes become angry with the other parent for all the years they robbed them of with the other parent. They are filled with resentment and sorrow. Some are lucky enough to stop the alienation before it progresses to a severe case.  Most parent's cannot afford the fight they have on their hands or they already have spent every dime they had trying to get our Court's to help them, to recognize whats going on and make it stop.  You mourn as if they are gone forever.

The pain never subsides it only sinks deeper into our hearts and soul's. What we once were, to our children is gone forever. No more, of what everyone else takes advantage of. The experiences and joys we once had with our children or parent's are stolen from us without notice. As we watch everyone else with their family, the simple thing's are what stand out. You smile because it's sweet or it's a reminder of what you use to have. What people don't realize is our smile's and our spirit's are broken. Going through the motion's of life waiting for that one day you'll see them again, wondering if they will ever feel your love again. 

I am one of these parent's and my children are these children! 

We have seen each other one time for just a few moments in what will soon be six years.

My son is a grown man and has not made that call nor has he written me a letter to bring him home. They are not the same children they once were, we are now strangers to each other. After all this time I never felt as if my children would never return to me. But the fact of the matter is, anything is possible both good and bad! We can no longer be silent or sit idling by. No child should be denied the other half of who they are.

Keep the Faith Jeremiah 31: 16-17

Let's look at the facts.  95% of the time the women gets custody, 15% of the time the men gets custody, 10% of the time there is joint custody.  Conservatively since 2000 there have been over 1 million divorces each year with an average household of 2.3 children.  This means that mothers have gotten custody of over 17,000,000 children and fathers have gotten custody of less than 3 million children in the past 8 years.  This is outrageous and an atrocity to our children to force the father out of a child’s life to play a lesser role.  Anyone that denies this and tries to say that 85% of the men in a divorce are domestic abusers or do not want equal physical custody in there child’s life is self-serving.  I continually hear people say it is about the money.  Yes, they are right, but they got it wrong on whom it is about the money.  Do your research.  The state encourages the courts to have a winner (custodial parent) and losers (non-custodial parent and children), so the state can get more funding from the federal government.  The custodial parent is extorting the children and money from the other parent.  This is not good for any child and any caring parent that put their child first would want this for their child.  I am a victim of paternity fraud by our first child (This is how she got me to marry her) and a victim of parental alienation of my second child.  I only have one biological child.  My ex has 5 children by 4 different biological fathers.  She has gotten custody every time.  It is time for the states to stop their funding at the expense of our children and it is time to stop victimizing fathers and their children with PAS, visitation (visitation – a term used when someone visits someone in jail – can it be anymore obvious what the state is doing – they just come right out and say it), etc.  Those of you that dismiss the facts and the numbers in post are self serving and I pity you and the children that you may have that are being victimized.  There is so much more to say.  For all those that really care please do your research and find out the truth.  Please do not be oppressors or ignorant of what is going on with our children.

Why do you say this about them?