Topic : 12/26 "Brainwashed by My Parents"

Thank you for sharing your knowledge!  I call Kansas Judicial System "The Wild Wild West'!  Whatever the is good for government revenue seems to be the answer.

The drag out cases to generate revenue for their private jets, country club fees, a lavish parties.  Who pays the real price?  Not the parents finances, but the children's self esteem.

We must bind together and stop this horrific behavior in OUR country.  We are the government's customers, and until we unite together and make a stand, this will continue.

Thank you Dr. Phil and Company for shedding light on PARENTAL ALIENATION.

My son is 33 years old and I continue to struggle as a targeted parent. I just read Amy Baker's book, Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrom: Breaking the Ties That Bind." 

When my son was in first grade his father's live-in girlfriend went to upset ALL of the first grade teachers during the first week of school. She is now his EX-stepmother and continues to brainwash him, seemingly in hopes of getting his Dad back or just to "twist the knife." 

I wish this book had been available to me back then, not that the outcome would have been any different. Perhaps, I would have just found some strength in knowing I was recognized and understood as the targeted parent. 

The struggle with feelings of helplessness continues as the EX-stepmother continues her games of manipulation.

When Dr. Phil's episode began today my jaw almost hit the floor. Both me and my brother have been through a divorce so nasty that it often felt like we were living every moment through my mother.

Since I was a young girl my mother has confided in me every detail of her and my fathers divorce. She has sat me down to read the verbaly abusive e-mails exchanged between my father and her. She has indeed been dragged through the mud, both in court and out of court. However, so has my father and so have we.

When my parents first separated my mother took us late at night while my father was out. We lived on welfare for a number of years and eventually had to move in with relatives. I was 7 years old and I can replay almost every screaming match and threat from that time until now. My mother told us he was money hungry. Evil. She would say all he wanted was custody of us so that HE would "win". She told me every time she had to go to court, and what it was regarding, What the ruling was. She said he used his power to "screw us out of having any money". To a 7 year old girl who is afraid of losing her home this can be devastating. She told me that dad had threatened to through her in jail because she was accused of stealing money from the family business. No 7 year old should know what the word "Embeslement" means. She convinced us that he didnt really love us. When I was about 14, full of temper and immaturity I viewed my mothers stories about dad as fact. I completely became a puppet and would send nasty e-mails to my dad. Spewing back exact opinions that my mother had given me. Evenutally I refused to speak or see my father and for 5 years I completely cut him out of my life. I even changed my last name to spite him.

Now I am 21 years old. I have recently been working at establishing a lost relationship with my dad. We have both matured and are now working at maintaining open lines of communication. I see now that my mother has a lot of psychological problems that run deep. These problems dont only stem from the divorce but also from childhood  problems. Most of which I am fully aware about because she chose to confide this in me. No matter what happens if my mother knows that I am spending anytime with my father she will fly into a childish rage so inappropriate that often my brother and I end up feeling guilty.

I also feel that since I have moved out of my mothers house and am living on my own that i have abandoned my brother. He has to deal with secretly e-mailing my father and only being able to talk on the phone if she can listen on the other line. He is suffering at home and school and my father knows nothing about it. If we were to tell him any type of information about our lives with our mother she would become enraged. She always told us that if we left her she would kill herself.

The episode brought tears to my eyes today. Unfortunatly I feel that if my mother were watching she would have a completly different view on things. I know that she would think it was actually my FATHER who would alienate us. She would feel justified in destroying our realtionship because if the situation turned it would be my father doing what she has in fact done to us. She is none the wiser. but I thank god that i happened to flip on the tv today because knowing that I am not alone is a wonderful awakening.