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November 1, 2008, 2:20 pm CDT

Parents.

Hi. I am Ambar. I have a mother and a father. They have been married for 17 years and then seperated and for almost  2 years and I've been suck moving to another city. Even though I didnt want too. My mom is annoying and I cant tell her anythinngggg,,,

 
November 1, 2008, 2:53 pm CDT

alone

i am 17 years old and in grade 12. i went to the same high until just last year.it all started when i came to shool one day and noone who said they were my friend would even talk to me. i go really depressed and feared going to school i hated being alone, and these girls wanted to beat me up. they sent me texts and msgs on msn and facebook tellin me how i was a slut and a whore and sept around and that i should watch my back. i than got that label and thats how im looked at now. i still get all this stuff at the school i go to now, the only differnce is i have some good friends now. i walk down my hall at school and people brk at me and call me a dog. because of all i of this i stopped playing rugby a sport i loved to play, these people showed up at work and harassed me and it was a aweful thing that happened and i now live with this everyday. and lately it has started to really get to me. i lay in my bed thinking and just cry. cause me and my mom went to the cops and they didnt do anything. the cop i went to told me to get checked for depression. it really hurts just to get up and face this everyday. the cops didnt help me and because of this this gang of people won. and now i suffer everyday...
 
November 2, 2008, 4:52 pm CST

Happy Mediums?

This year I am attending my second year of a 21 month post secondary program
 (3D Modeling for Animation and Games).  Being a private art school, it isn't cheap.  Tuition alone (before books, supplies, living expenses and rent) is $40,000.00CDN.  My student loans are just enough to cover my tuition, and I have a couple scholarships and burseries as well as some savings, But I still have to have a part-time job to live comfortably (emergancy and rainy day savings).  And as if money wasn't enough to stress about... well... I think this is better to explain.

I have 5 classes a week.  Each of which is 4 hours long (20 hours a week total).  Each class gives 4-12 hours of homework per week on average.  I currently have a part-time job at a local Home Depot.  There I work approximently 18-24 hours per week. 

Recently, I have been having issues with my new department manager at work.  My older manager, who was switched over to another department, was absolutely wonderful.  She was very understanding of my circumstances and was very flexible with my hours (as a manager should be).  The new manager is pretty well her opposite.  He is very inconsiderate of my being a student and has straight up told me that your source of income is what should come first.  Perhaps this may be true when you are single with a career, but not when you are only at a job to help get by in school, and school is my number one priority.
Now, with how my school works, my schedule changes once every 3 months.  Up until this manager moved into my department it was never an issue.  I could trade off shifts and what not with coworkers.  But this manager now has put in rules that don't follow store policy stating that: 1. We are not allowed to change our availability anymore.  (This is possibly the most unreasonable rule he has made up) 2. All requested days off must be run by him and no other in-store manager (Store Policy states that any store/department manager can sign off a request) 3.  If we call in because we are ill or something comes up, we HAVE to present a doctors note.  This is not a store policy.  Just something he thinks should be.  (He also told me that I am no longer allowed to call in when when a class is extended or switched to another day, that I am expected to come to work anyways) 4. Associates must be available any day they have written on their perminant availability, no matter how short the notice (Extremely unreasonable, as I need time to get all of my homework done...and sleep).

I think that he is power tripping on us, and have been so stressed out about work that it has been affecting the rest of my life, as if I have to leave this job, it will be difficult to find another and I only have so much money to get by without one.  Taking a step forward, rather then looking elsewhere for a job, I have requested to switch to another department in the store.  I can only hope that the request goes through.

So with the massive ammounts of school work as well as stress from my job I have be extremely stressed out.  I realize I need to find an outlet for all of this, but I have no time to spare, unless I stop sleeping all together.

While I do realize that there are others who have it worse than me, it is still very difficult.  I just need help finding a happy medium.
 
November 5, 2008, 4:32 pm CST

ummmm

I would guess the only real problem in my life as a teen is that my father was never really there, and when he was he was fighting with my mom. now i understand every relationship has issues I've been in one for almost 3 years. but he could have been there to help raise his kids. but thats over and done with.i'm 17 and i'll be out of here soon hopefully ready to start a life and a career.
 
November 6, 2008, 8:17 am CST

I Think I Hate My Mother...

Dr. Phil,

 

I am 18 years old and a freshman at Eastern New Mexico University. I live in the dorms for two purposes: one was to have a college experience and the other was to get away from my mother. My parents have been divorced since I was 3 so I only lived with my mother since 2004. But now that I'm an adult, she still treats me like a child and it just infuriates me so much. I try to tell her that I'm an adult and want her to treat me like one, but she never listens to me. For example, just recently, my midterm grades were mailed home. And I'll admit, they weren't exactly the best I've ever done. So what does my mother do? She emails my teachers! Even though she told me before I went to school that she wouldn't do anything and let me handle things such as this on my own. She tells me to withdraw from college and come home so I can go to the local community college, but I told her that I was an adult and I wanted to stay at the school I'm at now. So, in return, she informs me that I need to pay for school by myself unless my dad still decides to help pay. Not only that, she forced me to give her some of my things. I didn't think that was fair or treating me like an adult at all. She said her reasoning for this was because I breached the contract which she made me sign before I went off to college, but I don't see how and she has yet to tell me. One thing she has told me, however, is that she thinks I can't pass my first semester of college even though my teachers have very strong faith in me that I can. I didn't know what to think when she told me that because it shocked and hurt me that much, and I don't think she even realizes it. Now, just this morning, she calls me and says that she's been thinking and believed she went to easy on me. So now she's forcing me to give up more of my personal belongings AND she wants proof that I broke my glasses! That is just outrageous to me! It's hard for me just to tell her things anymore because I think either she won't believe me or she'll criticize my decision, which is blatantly obvious now. She is always ALWAYS comparing me with herself when she was my age and it gets extremely annoying. She tries to control almost everything I do, in one way or another. I know she doesn't want me to end up like my sister, but I'm an adult now and I have to learn how to handle these mistakes on my own. When I get older, if I mess up, what is she gonna do then? Take my house from me? I mean, seriously. I don't see how taking my personal items is teaching me anything. If anything, it just makes me spite her that much more. There are times when I just want to yell at her and tell her everything and anything that she did to me. The only problem with that is, she would most likely just criticize me and argue. I am quickly approaching the point in our relationship where I want absolutely nothing to do with my mother, but I don't know what to do anymore.

 
November 6, 2008, 12:02 pm CST

It is only the begining

Quote From: bnbalenda

Hi,

 

Reach for help because I have been in the same situation as you, when I was a teenager I even tried to commit suicide many times because I had a low self esteem. I understand you're scared, please reach to somebody who has a will to help you. You are bright, you are intelligent, you have gifts and tallents and ther's so much in you. Please get your life back.

I have been in your shoes and it is no fun.  I attempted suicide at 14, thankfully I failed.  I really thought that it was my only way out.  I was the fat girl, the one everyone picked on day after day, the boys wanted nothing to do with me, and all I ever wanted was to fit in.  It does get better.   Kids are mean, period.  There is no other way to say it.  I have moved on since graduation, have a husband, kids, a home, and a wonderful support system now.  You need that too.  You need to find someone to talk to that you trust, a teacher, a nurse, your doctor, you need to let someone know how you are feeling before it is too late.  Depression can be the end of you, or admitting to it can be the beginning of something wonderful.  Don't let this be the end.  There is someone out there to listen to and understand you, more adults than you can imagine have gone through what you are right now.  Don't let this depression win, you are better than it, and don't you forget it.
 
November 6, 2008, 12:40 pm CST

What to do?

I'm a poet, and aspiring novelist living in virtually the middle of no where I love to read and I love to learn, the problem is I'm really really nerdy. I have trouble relating to people, sometimes even my friends. Even in my own family I'm the black sheep because I actually say what I'm thinking. How can I relate to them better? I feel like I'm always on the outside looking in...
 
November 6, 2008, 12:54 pm CST

help me

i don't what i gotta do to change me...i don't like me...i gotta acne bad breath i'm antisocial...i just feel happy at home...i feel protect...in my school i'm always alone i like school but i feel so bad there that i always go home...i'm missing school...i just wanna be happy..have pleaseare to live...i never had a girl...help me
 
November 6, 2008, 1:12 pm CST

TEEN TALK

     I'm 17. and deal with chronic depression. i've been a cutter for several years and can't seem to control it. My drugs use has been spinning out of control as well as my drinking. I'm not in school anymore. The bullying i have gone through and delt with in my life has pretty near broke me.

     My father is not really a part of my life. He's remarried and has three step daughters and i feel like he has replaced me with them. I feel like i'm without a father.

      I miss being a little girl. the teen struggles of life are way to difficult and harsh.

I've had three over doses in the past three years. I'm always have permiscuis sex.. and i have caught a bad name for the things i do and people i hang around with.

     the drugs i've dipped into are not good at all. My mother once attempted to send me to reahab. but i refused to go. I've been doing good with keeping off the hard drugs. But weed. thats another thing. I can't go a single day without being hihg. and i know people say that marijuana is not an addictive drug. I bag to differ. i have been smoking pot everyday for about two years now. and when i can't get my hands on any. It's bad. I just want to scream. claw at people. and just go nutss.

 

I feel like my whole life is just falling apart at the seems. and oh how much my heart hurts. and I just want to curl up and give up.

 
November 6, 2008, 2:09 pm CST

serial dater

Hi my name is Kelli i am 17 years old and am ALWAYS in a relationship, i have dated a total of 16 guys but that includes short ones. since the end of grade 9 i havnt been single for more than 2 weeks, i had one long term relationship that lasted a year in grade 10 then another that lasted a year in grade 11. I dont understand why i am always in a relationship, and ive been told its a good thing and been told its a bad thing, so i really dont know what to believe, i worry i may be getting a reputation for being a player or a slut, when really i didnt do anything with a good amount of them also these are causing much stress but at the same time much happiness, am i doing something wrong here? and is this unhealthy?

 
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