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Topic : 05/27 What Do You Fear?

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Created on : Friday, October 17, 2008, 02:50:14 pm
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(Original Air Date: 10/21/2008) Whether it’s the fear of spiders or the fear of dying, fears and phobias can steal your peace of mind and even dominate your life. Meet Kathleen, a mother of three, who says her entire world is built around more than 30 fears that include driving, flying, being alone and taking medication. Her life has gotten so out of control that her two teenagers dropped out of school to take care of her, and her 9-year-old is absent so often, she may follow in their footsteps. Kathleen, who wants to stop being a prisoner to her anxieties, faces many of her fears just to get to Los Angeles to see Dr. Phil. What’s at the root of her paralyzing phobias, and can she take back her life for the sake of her family? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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May 24, 2009, 8:26 pm PDT

Fears

I, too, have several fears. I remained in an emotionally abusive relationship for 19 years- for fear of being alone.   By listening to Dr. phil's advise about not spending one more minute in remaining in that type of relationship and after 'his' second affair that I know of, did I resign myself to be happy without him versus being miserable. I have a job that I HATE, but fear of starting over at 58 years old, and with the job market being what it is, have I stayed. Health matters are mounting, I guess as an escape of not going to work. Because of that, I fear losing my job. Fear can create havoc not only mentally, but physically as well. How does one end the cycle?   
 
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May 26, 2009, 1:19 pm PDT

my fear

i fear being murdered in my sleep.
 
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May 27, 2009, 4:07 am PDT

My Fear

I have suffered from the fear of loud noises for 21 years now, when I was 3 fireworks were thrown not even a foot in front of me by some careless teenager. I live everyday in fear I can't go with my husband to concerts, fireworks or even be outside when it's thundering. Everyday I feel like why me! It's so embarrassing to admit this but I'm trying to get over it.
 
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May 27, 2009, 7:41 am PDT

Fears

I'm not sure that she is being entirely honest.I noticed that she has a tattoo and she also has acrylic nails on her fingers.There is a needle involved in getting a tattoo along with an increase in the risk of disease.The same is true in getting her nails done.I feel that she is being very selective in her fears and the control she has on those around her.CONFUSED!!!!!
 
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May 27, 2009, 7:56 am PDT

support group for people with anxiety

I belong to a support group...Recovery International... which helps with this subject. I have had anxiety problems for half of my life. Therapy, medication, and the support group all work together, so that I am functioning really well now.

 

See website www.recovery-inc.org for more information.

 

Hope you all can find a balance in your lives.

 

Luck to all.

 
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May 27, 2009, 9:45 am PDT

What about the children??

Kathleen, what in the world are you doing to your children? Why don't you hire an adult baby sitter to stay with you instead of depriving your children of their right to the joys of education, peer socialization, extra curricular activities, and the tools to learn lifetime skills?  It appears that your husband takes the easy way out by staying at work to avoid this miserable situation.  Your children don't have the voice to do the same. By the way, so what if you DID die?  First of all, your problems would be over because we only die once.  But do you think your kids could then pick up and move forward with their lives normally?  I hardly think so.  They would be overwhelmed with guilt because they probably think their job is to keep you alive.  Shame on your husband for not manning up to this situation and demanding that you get the help you need if for no other reason than for the mental and emotional sake of your children.  Is he their bio father?  If not, is their bio father still in their lives?  If he is, is he aware of what these children are going through?  Your children should all be happily in school and enjoying life in what should be carefree years instead of having to worry about parenting you.  What would you do if something should happen to one of your children??  For me, that is the worst case scenario.  I pray help comes for your children this very day.
 
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May 27, 2009, 11:33 am PDT

What I Fear

I was in a car accident last year and I was the first car in a 3 car accident and now everytime i am out driving if a vehicle gets too cllose to the rear of my car i start panicking and i feel nauseous untill the lite changes to green and i can go. My daughter has told really bad lies and i fear that she will cost me my son.

 

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May 27, 2009, 12:35 pm PDT

I don't think she fears all those

I think she has a major Panic disorder (like I did once) and that is causing her to fear almost everything.  She should see a psychiatrist and maybe go on meds if needed for Panic/Anxiety.  All those fears may not really be there.  When I had Panic disorder I was like her and feared everything.  I even got argoraphobic and couldn't leave the house.  Once I was treated for the disorder, I got my life back.

 
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May 27, 2009, 1:00 pm PDT

05/27 What Do You Fear?

Hi, I am a 25 year old stay at home mother of a 2 year old.  I have suffered from the exact same anxities as Kathleen.  I actually dropped out of college because I would have to pull over 2-3 times on the drive over there and it was only a 15 minute drive.  I even would go sit in the hospital emergency waiting room just in case something would happen to me.  Everything Kathleen said was exactly the way I use to feel.  I even would call 911 if my heart rate would go up and I've had numerous cat scans and mri's in case there was a tumor or anurism.  However, I started to go to therapy because when my son was born 2 years ago I couldn't take care of him.  I was in a constant state of panic.  I haven't had a panic attack in a year now and I don't fear anything anymore. I take  medication and laugh at my silly anxiety thoughts now.  It is not worth going thru life afraid of everything.  Stuff happens, even death, but you can't worry about what might happen and miss the stuff that is happening.

 

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May 27, 2009, 1:14 pm PDT

Most of the same as your guest today

and unlike ,all the people she has in her life to be there for her,I don't have any family or friends to help me ,my daughter is 23 yrs old but she is very selfish like alot of people out there and isn't concerned about my well being! The 2 people I ever loved in my whole life aren't available for me ! My bf chooses crack cocaine over me whenever we had a fight about it he would always leave me, he now works and lives out of town and isn't even talking to me ! I'm so sick of all these selfish people out there ,I'm just the opposite I always think of others before myself , which now I'm trying not too !

 But it's hard to be that way with the people I love. I've cried oceans over my boyfriend !

 
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