Topic : 06/02 Forced to Be a Father

Ok now i'm a woman and I'm upset about this! Why is that a woman can choose not to have anything to do with thier kids and not have to worry about taking care of them. But if you are a man bewear! You have no right!  WHATEVER!!!!!! If a man tells a woman that he doesn't want kids, and she says that she can't have kids that to me is a sign that she was trying to trap a man. Now should that be right? Why is that ok? Woman can be something and get away with anything!

Every man that has sex and a baby results made a choice to have that sex therefore what can result from having sex is a baby. If a man chooses to not be a Father he should abstain from having sex, because a baby can result from having sex wether a woman is on birth control or not.

I am so tired of deadbeat parents!  I fight in court for many years to obtain child support of only $77.00 a week, this is very little towards raising a child,.  The braces on the teeth cost $6000. alone, the medical insurance for myself and 1 child costs $300. out of my paycheck biweekly.  Thats not to mention food, clothing, shelter etc....

Have a show regarding all the people in my shoes , raising a child alone with only 1 income.  I have a court order that Im suppose to receive help, but do not, I have to keep going back to court over and over again to try to force the deadbeat parent to pay this small amount.  Just this year, this deadbeat had another child, great another child brought into the world that will not have support from both parents.,

meanwhile, I take care of all the expenses myself which is definately a struggle and I dont get to have sex because I know what the result can be and cant afford another child on my own and if I were to engage in sex I would be choosing to be a parent again because there is that possibility when you have sex.

So these men that say they didnt choose to be a Father, dont have sex then I will believe you since that is the only clear evidence that is your choice!  I think you are just choosing to not have the responsibility of the kid with child support (money) and time and love.

I find it absolutely rediculous for a "grown man" to say:

~Whine~..."she said she couldnt get pregnant"...

~whine~ "i TOLD her i didnt wanna have a kid".....

Then CHOOSE to have UNPROTECTED sex and  honestly feel that the subject matter is closed and they have no consequences for their actions ( or the LACK of participating in SAFE sex)

The mother actually supporting this young man is pretty hard to take as well... what in the hell has she taught her son about being RESPONSIBLE...and how can she NOT see how precious this sweet INNOCENT child is and how she is missing out on so much with her own flesh and blood grandchild.. Not to mention the fact that if her "perfect...innocent...trapped...being made an example of" son had SIMPLY,...placed a condom on his penis before engaging in consentual unprotected sex this child wouldnt even exsist.

Now, he's pouting and wants to say how unfairly hes been treated..i say its a cop out... there are consequences for ALL of our  actions as well as inactions. We are all adults and dont always know what to do or where to turn but the decisions we make ; whether right or wrong; are ours to bear...

Thats just my opinion

Wow i was so pissed when i saw this show...

weak minded people blame others for their transgressions.

I don't know...is it just me...or is anyone else disgusted with Matt and his mother?

I raised a son and from the time he was old enough to understand, I taught him about responsibility...and that included sex ed and birth control and being VERY careful who he decided to be with. I also told him that if he ever got a girl pregnant, the child would be HIS, too and he would support that child, no ifs ands or buts!!  HE took those words to heart because he knew I meant them! There would be no getting out of it. He never got any girl pregnant.

Matt brings his mommy on the show to stick up for him and defend his irresponsibility, with absolutely no regard for this child he made.  I wonder how Diane would feel if it were her daughter who got pregnant and the guy wanted to bolt, leaving her with the burden all alone.....would that be okay with Diane?

I'll bet not! 

I have 2 children, and labor was long and painful for both since my epidural failed, and I completely disagree with you.  You are talking about 9-months out of a life time.  It isn't so horrible as everyone makes it out to be.  Women talk about the choice to do what they want with their body, but they make it sound like it's a terrible experience that just goes on and on.  All I'm saying is that the discomforts of pregnancy shouldn't deter from the topic at hand.  My point is that women can choose after the deed is done, men are bound to the woman's decision.  Dr. Phil had a guy on once that found out about a pregnancy either really late in the pregnancy or after the child was born, and he was still on the hook for that child.

I firmly feel that the choice was made once they decided to have sex, so both are on the hook.

Why are all these shows about dead beat dads and not moms?  My husbund got handed his son when he was 3 because the mother did not have time for him.  Which was completely fine other then she kept him from my husbund for the first 2 years of his life.  She has only been around when she has time to squezze him in.  She is over $5,000 behind on child support.  Helps pay for nothing!  No health insurance, no clothes, nothing with school supplies or school sports.  She does not even have one outfit at her house for him when he does see him.  She uses him for a sitter for her daughter that she has now.  My husbund has been to court asking them why she gets away with not paying child support and why she can get so far behind without anything happening to her and he was told that most of the time the courts side with the woman and there is not much he can do.  We have tried to get her to sign off her rights and she is not willing to.  So my point to this story is that people have to stop and realize that it is not always the man who is the loser that there is a lot of women who are just as ignorant if not more.