Quote From: dionleeWe teach our children about STRANGER DANGER, yet I am amazed at the number of adults who ignore this rule. Both sexes leave bars with strangers. Men feel that they can handle a situation that may occur when they go home with a strange woman. There is a case, where a woman went to a bar to lure a man home so a couple of her friends could commit murder to earn the right to join a gang. He was jumped and killed when he entered her apartment.
I have always had a young sounding voice. As a young mother, when I answered the phone, callers would often ask to speak to my mother.
From age 50-63. I made reservations for a major airline. During that time there were countless times that men liked my voice and wanted to get to know me better. As agents, we were not allowed to give out our person information....mainly for safety reasons. During the booking the passenger talks to us. Often men would ask about me and after stating that I was not allowed to give out that information, they would guess my age and how I looked. They usually said that I was in my early twenties, 5' 2" tall. around 100 pounds, with long blond hair. I would just tell them how surprised I was at how close their guess was. (Remember I was over 50) I can't count the times I received invites to fly to some place to meet these men. Some who never even asked or guessed how I looked or how old I was. One man offered to marry me without even knowing my name and offered to buy me a First Class ticket to New York to be married. I was almost tempted to go ...just to see the look on his face when he saw me. I am not bad looking for my age but I was 63.
One man was twenty years younger than I and I finally told him that I was too old for him and finally gave my age. HE DIDN'T CARE. He still wanted to meet me. He said he was more drawn to me than any woman he had ever met and just had to meet me. He begged me to call him. (we get their phone number with the reservation) I didn't call.
Finally, one day a man did catch my attention. He wanted me to fly to The Keys and take a ride on his boat. I told him that I couldn't give out my information, so he told me that I could use his email address and contact him. When I got home I did exactly that. When he sent me a picture, it was a picture of a bloated man sitting at a bar with a drink in his hand. We emailed a couple times and I stopped. I never did that again.
That woman who travels the world to meet strangers is taking her life in her hands. You cannot tell if you are talking to an abuser or serial killer in person, yet alone over the phone. (Remember Bundy? He was very personable.) She should only meet strange men in public where there is a friend near by, or only alone if someone else knows him and how to find him if she goes missing. (She must always tell someone where she is going and who she is meeting. That means everything she knows about the man she is meeting..not just a name. ) Going to other countries alone to meet men is nuts.
Strangers can say and do anything. Adults--remember the lessons we teach our childrent: STRANGER DANGER
I wish that you could have written this sooner while the topic was still hot. Maybe you should repost it when the show airs again during repeats? I have never understood a woman who would put her life into some strangers hands without knowing anything about him. It's bad enough when you meet someone in person and go on a regular date, the kind I used to do before I was married and there wasn't as many crazy people out there to fear.
Not only Bundy, what about the Max Factor heir who was reasonably good looking but chose to slip roofies into girls drink at bars, then take them home and videotape them while they were being raped? Back in my dating days I would have friends or acquaintances who would meet a guy at a bar, then go home with him that very night and have sex. Gee, they didn't even have a first date yet! That always grossed me out to no end. People do things between the sheets, especially when drunk, that I would never do unless freshly showered, and my man too! But do they care? Not from what I've seen.
I have known a woman almost all of my life who as far as I know has already met 2 different men, 1 man from Africa, and another from India, on the Internet, and flew to their country's to marry them and brought them back with her. Of course she wasn't married to both at the same time but I'm sure you get my drift. She didn't know anything about these men yet she would fly over there, marry one, and bring him back. Is this an act of desperation? I would rather live and be alone than to stoop to such low levels.
I tend to have trust issues with strange men in the first place because I am a victim of of an attempted kidnapping, when I was 20, and assaulted with a deadly weapon. Luckily I met the right man and have been married ever since, 21 years now. This is a very dangerous world and women do need to be on their guard at all times, until they get to know a man. Even just going to a bar puts you at risk of having something slipped into your drink. There's a whole new set of rules for women just because of this.
I'll tell you about something "odd" that happened to me one time, again before I was married. I was living in Palm Springs at the time and I happened to be in a night club with a date, really more a male friend. This was a very exclusive club where a lot of celebrities went and the mafia owned it. Hey, it's Palm Springs! Anyway, I was sitting there at our table and I was dressed nice, not sleazy like many of the other women, and their was this Saudi Arabian Prince who had come in with a ton of bodyguards. He was an older man and had on the full Arabian type of clothing. The next thing I knew several of his bodyguards had surrounded me and his "man" approached me with an offer for the prince to buy me. You can imagine how surreal this was. I politely said "No thank you" but this prince was persistent. He kept sending his man over and I finally received an offer of expensive cars, A HUGE amount of money, jewelry, he said anything and everything that I could ever want. Of course I didn't do it but I wonder just how many women would. I know this story sounds pretty unbelievable, that's why I never tell anyone except those who really know me, but since there's hardly anyone looking at this topic I feel that I can go ahead and tell it. To this day I have always wondered what he actually meant by "Buying" me really meant. For a couple of years? My whole life? I have no idea but I certainly wasn't going to find out.
It's really OK if you don't believe this story because a few people that I have told, who do know me, don't. But it is true.
Anyway, you made some very valid points in your post and I really think you should re-post it when the rerun season starts again.
(Original Air Date: 10/24/08) Ladies, what would you do if you had to return to the dating game in your 40s, 50s or even 60s? Dr. Phil’s guests point to a double standard between men and women. Men can date women young enough to be their daughters, while a middle-aged woman who dates younger men is sure to face criticism. Caroline is a 58-year-old grandmother who has been married three times and is still looking for her Prince Charming. She admits to traveling from Monaco to Amsterdam and throughout the States in search of love, often with younger men. Caroline says she even accepted a proposal from a man she met online -- a suitor she has never met in person! Her daughter, Anara, says the problem is not her mother’s age, but that her mom doesn’t act her age. Is Caroline just living life without limits, or is she her own worst enemy when it comes to meeting Mr. Right? Then, Dr. Phil talks to Patti Stanger, CEO of The Millionaire’s Club, an exclusive dating service that caters to wealthy men and women who are looking for love. Find out why Patti says Caroline is heading toward a life of loneliness, and learn her dating tips to increase your chances of finding a mate. And, Anna is only 30, but she says some men already think she’s too old to date! Her friend, Robyn, says Anna's independence turns some men off. Find out what happens when Dr. Phil cameras follow Anna for a night on the town. Plus, meet a divorced mom who says she’s been on the dating scene for 15 years and has yet to find a man her age who wants to commit.. Join the discussion.
