Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

 

I have a child who used to be female. He is now 26 years old and is now male. I think that the gentlemen who says he is a cristian and it is the parents fault that their child is this way. Well apparently he does not have a child that is this way; My son came to us when he was 19 years old after many years of depression and anxiety. He told me that he didn't fit in his female body. He first thought he was bisexual and decided to discover this area. He found out that was not the issue. Then he said he thought he was gay and decided to discover that area. Again he found out that was not the issue. After almost committing suicide he decided to seek a phychiatrist. In doing this he mentioned areas in his life that he was not comfortable with. Now he is a happy , confident transgender male. He has never been so happy. To those people that think this is a phase. well you are in denial like i was. I have excepted my son as my son and yes I may have lost a daughter but I have gained a son. He is taking testosterone therapy and is doing very well. I do at times grieve the loss of my daughter. But now I have a son that I am very proud of.

From my son's number one supporter his mom.

Glen Stanton...you and I would be having a "come to Jesus meeting" if you were to voice your attitude in my family!   My husband is the stereotypical "man's man".  My son's were raised with hunting, military aspirations, guns, hot rod cars....motor oil and gun powder running in their veins type lifestyle.  At the age of 23, my son told me he was gay.  He did NOT play with dolls, he did NOT dress in pink..wear bows in his hair...dance ballet.  Go figure.  I guided...I inspired...I pushed, dressed, and encouraged...BOYS.  How on earth do you account for this then???  Perhaps it isn't all NURTURE?     Ok...I agree...God does not make mistakes.  Perhaps all of this is in His plan and He just didn't feel the need to consult with YOU first!  I love my son as is and support him in every way.  He is a saved Christian.  Maybe everyone will be surprised if YOU show up in heaven.  Accept God's plan and quit trying to second guess Him. I don't think He tells you everything.

I believe that the way people want to be is up to them. Me being 15 and gay and having to deal with my parents and others in my community hating the extremely feminine side of me really got me interested in the show on what other people views are. I have come to conclusion that these people (who are against transgender, bisexual, homosexual...) care about everything but themselves. They need to stop worrying about others. The reason GLTB (gay, lesbian, bisexual. transgender) people are so called 'killing themselves' is because of these people! Especially people like Glenn Stanton, whom upset many greatly because of his mediocre assumptions and ideas.
This show really made me think about many things and was extremely personal.

I give the parents of the children MUCH respect for having to face disbelievers in their child sexual orientation daily.

What the doctor was trying to point out was that the medical and psychological professionals in those days (the 60's) told the mother to raise David as a girl, in that case "science" was not the right way to go. That's all he was stating, people misinterpreted him. For anyone who talks about God making "mistakes", it's interesting how no one really gets it through their minds that God created science as well, so we could make sense of the things of the world. We're all trying to figure out this life, there are no clear-cut answers, and we won't know until we are with God and ask him.  I live 5 minutes away from where David Reimer grew up, I know the story very well, it's tragic.

This makes me so angry.  Why is not the medical profession at least attempting to consider that Dr. Weston A Price is right that soy based formulas are wreaking havoak on our children.  People should know that soy formula given to infants is the equivalent of giving your baby 5 birth control pills a day.  What do you thing phyto estrogens would do to a male baby?  What do you think happens to a female baby who has been fed soy based formula?  Answer.  Male children have their puberty cycle delayed and female children begin puberty at an extremely early age.  It's a fact.  There are studies to prove this that are being suppressed.  Go to www.westonaprice.org and see for yourselves that soy is not healthy for humans and is nothing more than a marketing stradegy.  Beware and stop feeding children soy based foods.  Maynonase is made with soybean oil.  Most peanut butters are made with soybean oil.  Most processed foods have high fructose corn syrup and soybean oil as ingredients.  Read your food labels.  Educate yourself and help your children before they become like these kids on the show and othes across this country who are victims of soy.

     I have a wonderful energetic 3 year old boy.  His earliest influences have been mostly from women.  My mother, his sister, his other granny, and myself is all that he has known.  When he was very little he did like to wear my high heels, have bows or elastics,  and he liked to vaccuum.  Just a few weeks ago he wanted me to put mascara on him, but only because he saw me doing it.  For the most part he grew out of those things.  I have never stopped my son from playing with the toys he wanted to, know matter what they were.  Right now he loves cars, crashes, and action movies.  That doctor that said it was the parental influence is full of it.  Seeing as my son is being raised by women, from what this doctor says shouldn't he be more confused?  On the subject of hormone therapy, I agree with Dr. Phil.  Children should not be exposed to hormones while their bodies are still developing.

Vicki

It is unbelievable how people can talk about something that they have not experienced and call themselves ''experts''. Just because they ''studied'' about something, that does not mean they are experts on that.  Mr. Glenn Stanton is completely out of his mind, not to mention, out of his league when he talks about this issue of gender confusion. I personally think that he is confused himself. And you can find that out just checking his website and reading his profile. I mean, his political history tells it all. But that aside, people like him need to stop thinking about themselves and what is ''right'' for them and for the society and be more christian, more loving and accepting. Not giving a child what they want or not allowing them to follow their heart and their feelings is not going to make them change who they are. Gender confusion is not about material things, keeping standard societal behaviors, or even obeying your parents, but about an emotional, psychological and mental condition that goes way beyond people's comprehension. What Mr. Stanton is preaching is to shut people down when we don't understand them and that is so wrong that he should be ashamed of even appearing on the show to talk about his ''expertise''. Can we send him to war? Maybe he will learn a thing or two there.

What's the problem with being different? why does everyone have to fit perfectly into a male or female body/role? It's people like Dumb Horse Glenn Stanton that are the problem. Glen is NO expert. Let people be who they feel they are. Stop judging. We should focus on the good in people not that they don't fit the "norm".

I am appalled at the couple who raise their sons to be "macho" and said they would never have let them play with a Barbie. There is nothing wrong with a boy wanting to play with dolls or ponies,  just as there is nothing wrong with girls wanting to play with GI Joes or Ninja Turtles (I am female but preferred "boy" toys and cartoons as a child myself). I had a male friend in elementary school who loved playing Barbies and dolls in kindergarten, and even played with them at other girls houses (including mine) when he was invited to birthday parties and such. It was no big deal and he has grown to be a fine gentleman. I know that if my son wanted to play with dolls or my daughter  wanted action figures, i would have no problem with that. Why is it that girls who wear boys clothes are simply tomboys but boys who wear girls clothes are gender confused or crossdressers? And why is it considered adorable to see a man holding a baby, but its not appropriate for a boy to hold a baby doll? Society is very hypocritical.

Really, in the whole scheme of things what difference does it make? I think that is the bigger question. Gender confused, gay , lesbian, transgendered. Kids should be able to feel accepted without condition or question for who they are or who they think they are as long as it isn't harmful to others. My daughter never wanted to play the girly role beginning at age 4. At 15 she came out - she is lesbian. Go figure. And the adult were meaner than the kids. They could have cared less.

I am most grateful for an open heart  that has let her know how really loved she is. You people are the ones that scare me because as long as you see her ideas and sexual orientation as  "separate" and "other", my (now adult) child will be in danger of the effects and actions related to your narrow judgements.