Topic : 10/29 Gender Confused Children

It is NOT A DECISION...you never decided your gender, you just KNEW who you were...SO DO THEY!!!!!

You are so literal. I know what you mean when you talk about satan, I just see satan living in different people than you do. I see satan in bigotry, hate, and judgment. I see satan in closed minds and hearts.

Really, walk a mile in my shoes. Here is the real decision... to have a dead (biologic female) child or a happy, healthy, alive male (transgender) child, what would you choose? What would God want? What could you live with?

Don't anyone jump to conclusions about hormones and young children. What children and their families may choose as treatment when puberty begins are GrNH inhibitors. They inhibit further developments of puberty (which are permanent and not easily reversed).

GrNH inhibitors ARE REVERSIBLE and the whole purpose of them is to give children and their families time to make informed decisions.

Cross gender hormones (much less reversible) are not given until such time as the child understands and accepts the permanent nature of that decision.

GrNH inhibitors are not administered without agreement of a medical team and once a child is in tanner stage 2 of development. What this means is that the child has already experienced their 'birth gender' hormones and it has CAUSED THEM DISTRESS.

       Give me what I want or I'll kill myself is definitely not something any authority figure should ever condone. Suicide is a action based on an emotional response that If I recall properly is Evolutionary Psychology terms Irrational Thought.

       A child who is in a phase will still show distress, and a parent doesn't have a accurate measure to distinquish between a child in distress by a phase of gender versus a child in distress who is not. Perhaps, the gene research that another poster presented from an online news article will provide the distinquish between which distress is a phase or not. Until then, waiting would be better than reversing who will become depressed and in your terms could end up committing suicide. As to which would be better, I consider that both are equally unacceptable.

I do not agree with what Melissa and Tim are doing.  Children are very easily manipulated.  I don't think they did anything on purpose.  Instead of discouraging their son and trying to strengthen his masculinity it almost seems like she was too accepting.  Like she helped him with the words he needed, and the phrases he needed to convince people that this is what he is and this is what he needs.  You can be understanding without encouraging it.  I don't believe that at 3 years old a child knows what they want, and it is up to the parents to steer him down the right path.  They don't know what being a girl is, or being a boy is.  As far as they are concerned being a boy is playing with boy toys, and wearing boy clothes, and vice versa for a girl.  I think that all children are curious about the other sex and want to know more about them.  Play with the toys.  Put him in ballet if that's what he wants.  That doesn't mean that he wants to be a girl, or that "god made a mistake".  I really strongly believe that if they steered him more towards being a boy, rather than letting him just do what he wanted there would be a completely different outcome.  I have a step-daughter who wears boy clothes, she plays the boy when her and her sister play games.  She insists on being the boy and having a boy name.  She plays hockey, and plays more with boys than with girls.  She even says she's a boy sometimes.  She says she hates girl stuff, but really doesn't.  She likes girl stuff, and being pretty, she just doesn't show it very often.  Her sister is the girly girl and if she shows that she likes girl stuff it means they are too much alike.  I think her being a "tom boy" started from getting attention for being a boyish girl.  People think it's cool that I'm a girl and like doing boy stuff.  So she plays it up.  She is a twin so her desire for attention is a little strong than some other children's may be.  Which could also be the reason why she tries so hard to be different.  I don't think for a second that she is a gender confused child.  She is just a child that likes boy stuff more than girls stuff(most of the time).  If we let her be a boy she would totally go with it.  After a while I'm sure she would want to be a boy, want to grow a penis.  When you play a certain character for so long you start to take on the characteristics.  Naturally if she were to 'act' like a boy for 5 years she would want to grow a penis.  Just like Melissa's son.  Letting him 'act' like a girl for 5 years, of course he's not going to want to look more like a boy by growing body and facial hair.  She could have let him take ballet, and played with girls toys and still insist 'you can play with this stuff, buy you know you are a boy'.  If this gender confused child, truly is a gender confused child, it's not going to go away.  He would insist on it for many years to come.  Once you think he truly is capable of making his own decisions and it wasn't just a phase, or curiosity, then take the steps needed then.  Letting a child decide at 3 to become a girl is just ridiculous!